Me and my ex broke up a few months ago. It was my fault. We dated for three years. I was going through some family stuff and I took it out on her without realizing it. Immediately after the breakup I told her I wanted her back she is the love of my life and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. However at the time she was mad at me for hurting her. She just wanted to be left alone. So that's what I did I tried to get over her, and for a while it kinda worked. I would still wake almost everyday missing her, and wishing she was there. But I looked at it as she didn't love me so what was the point.
However about a month after we stopped talking. I found out she was asking about me. the next day I saw her and she ran to talk to me. We talked for about three hours that day, then a week later we talked again I told her I missed her, and she said she missed me. She said that part of her wants to get back together, but there is something holding her beck. she said she doesn't know if she is just afraid of getting hurt again. She says that she doesn't know if she misses just being around me or if she misses being my girlfriend. My question is what should I do from this point on. I love this girl and I know that two months ago she loved me. Is there anyway to get her back?
I think your girl is just hurt by whatever it is you did, and she doesn't want to get hurt again. Plus, she's probably not sure whether she can trust you again. She's probably being careful about her feelings for you but it does sound like she still has feelings for you.
If you do really love her and want her back (and it sounds like you do), you should do everything in your power to show her that you love her and deserve her. It might take a while to get her to trust you again, but if you love her, it's worth it. Give her as much attention as possible, be really really honest with her, and show her that you're worth giving the relationship another chance. Good luck!
I have had a guy do that to me. He is now my fiance. We have been back together for a year and a half. And I am seven months pregnant with his kid. It took me three or four months to bring myself to get back with him. It is just her afraid of getting hurt. Believe me she still loves you. You just need to give her time. Try spending time with her let her see for herself that you still love her and will not hurt her. Be sure not to pressure her to get back with you. That is a decision she has to make on her own and pressuring her will only push her away and you might lose her forever.
Take her shopping, flirt with her. Be the guy she fell in love with, not the guy that broke up with her. When you are with her, don't dwell on the past, have fun with her and let her make up her own mind. If you pressure her too much, it could drive her away. good luck!
Have you had a discussion with her about why you behave the way you did? Have you told her what you wrote on this post? That you took it out on her, but now you realized that you made a mistake, that she is the love of your life, etc...? If you haven't maybe then you should have a talk with her and tell her all this.
Maybe give her the option of slowly getting into a relationship, but if she thinks that you're mistreating her again, then she is in her right to break up, and that you would then leave her alone...basically, you should tell her to try the relationship again, and that you understand you screwed up in the past, and that you would do what it takes to make it right this time around.
Tell her she has some time to think about it, and to meet again, and see what she decided.
Also, before you do all that I mentioned above, I would suggest sending her flowers, and in the card say something like, "I miss you and would like to have a serious talk with you. Call me" or anything along those lines. If you really love this girl, then you shouldn't have a problem expressing any of your current feelings. Don't let your ego get in the way. Good luck!
Thanks for the response,but I already did all of this stuff that you are saying, the problem is she is scared to get hurt again. She doesn't know what she wants. She says she doesn't know what it is holding her back. I think it's her protecting her heart. - 10 months ago
All you can do at this point, is try to convince her you are sincere. You must gain her trust back. Just keep trying to win her back, and keep doing what you have been; eventually she should learn to trust you again. - 10 months ago
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