What is the best way to handle a break up?

walk away with head held as high as you can, cut off all contact. And then go out and make your life as amazing as you can, and make yourself as amazing as you can. That IMO is the best way to get over someone. They'll either be pissed off that you did, or in time you just won't give a stuff what they think but will have a great life to be getting on with instead.

Seriously I did, at first I did it cause I was like I'll show him, I'll show my ex what he is missing, then after time I just didn't care where he was or what he thought but I'd been to Las Vegas, Portugal, Florida, got a great social life, a new better paid job, a new car etc etc etc

It is always going to hurt when some one breaks up with you. It must be a reason. Sometimes you have to let the person realize what they are missing. Don't tell them off, don't curse them out, just hold back until they contact you. Do they at least want to be friends after the break up? If not, try filling your time with hobbies, going out with friends, shopping etc. It will take some time for it to be completely off your mind but some one else will come along! Good Luck

depending on the situation I guess.you should keep things civil and maintain a friendship to some degree.dont completely cut things off.in the long run you may get back together or need them to be there for you a nd if you actl ike an asshole that's not gonna happen.keep it real lifes to short

cutt off all contact and watch him loose his mind! stand on it though! ignore all of his calls and emails! it wiorks like a charm . but you cant call him or given in coz if so you fucked up royally! trst me!

it sucks to know you broke their heart. and I got my karma believe me I did. But just stop all contact with them cause its the best way to get over them. This dude would not leave me alone after I broke up with him, he wanted to be friends and I had to tell him that we couldn't even be that, because it'd be VERY awkward. In the end he moved on and so did I and I was glad I did :)

I'm in favor of listening to what they have to say and asking for the real reason for breaking up if you are a man. If a woman is breaking up with a guy and it's not an angry break-up usually she is trying not to hurt your feelings and will lie in order to not hurt your feelings. She will provide a flimsy excuse (It's not you it's me etc)

Yes you should cut off contact completely. What's the point? There are tons of women in the world, some worse some better.

Should you tell them off? Uh why, they are dumping you and it kinda goes unsaid that they don't care what you have to say because you're being dumped.

Should you tell them it's their loss? LOL, no if you do that, then they think that it's really your loss and you are just bitter about being dumped. You have the right to be angry, but if it's your loss then it's better to not say anything. Usually when I dump guys I tell them that there are women that are so much better than me. There are you know, there's that perfect person that is out there and will treat you right too.

No you should not tell them to call you if they change their minds. HELL2THA NO! That opens the door to be used because they know you would take them back in a heart-beat. Just let it go and move on. Your broken heart will mend. Date more girls, meet more people and don't contact her search her myspace page, facebook page or anything at all. Don't regret being dumped usually it's for the best.

You definitely stop all contact with them. It's for your own good. It really helps.

You can tell them off if you want. It may make you feel better at the time, though later you may regret it.

You should KNOW it's their loss. You don't have to tell them. They may or may not figure that out on their own, but as long as you know it's their loss, you will be fine.

You can say goodbye. DON'T tell them to call if they change their mind. That makes you look desperate and always available to them.

It's horrible to go through a break up, but in the end, everything turns out ok. You just have to remember that, especially during the first month or so.

At first, it's a shock ,if they don't build you up for it. Distance is recommended, although it's hard to cut it off completely, it may make her miss you more and wonder if you've moved on already and furthermore helps you lessen the opportunity that the thought of her will be on your mind.

In my opinion, telling them off is just lowering your standards a bit, just be strong and don't. I wouldn't because it would show I'm still into that person who broke it off with me as well; I've been in situations where the guy just tries to break it off in the most unexpected moment, but I don't ever cry or show that I still may have any emotional attachment to that person and go on.

Eventually, they will know it's a loss if they end up with people who don't care about them. In time, I worked on myself and got stronger and it will be evident that things get better for yourself.

When the time is right, the two of you may meet up again, the future is unpredictable. If the both of you grow and are on the same level then you may meet up without the announcement of such a putative reunion ;*)

Just cut off contact

It's the most mature way to handle it, and the best way to get them back. if your interested.

Tell them "if that's how you feel" and move on. It's hard though because of all the emotions you have when it happens. I said that at first then all the emotions came and I practically started begging. Don't do that! :-). If the emotions start to come just walk away befor e you make a fool of yourself. Then it would get them thinking "wha.what does that mean? You feel the same? Or you still care?" then they'll think to themselves if that's what they really want. Don't talk to them unless they talk to you. even then still keep your cool. If you want them back wait for them to say something. If you don't tell them if they suggest it.

No Contact, period. No need to tell them it's their loss (what's the point?), they will call you automatically without the help from you if they change their mind (trust me, I had been there). Keep in mind, doing no contact means you don't want them back in your life forever, and the point of doing it is so that you can move on and focus on other things in your life.

In my opinion, you have handled a break up well if you have been mature and composed, and you are happy with yourself. So, it is not prescriptive, but this is what I think is the best way to handle a break up.

You don't necessarily have to cut off contact completely, but I think it's still very important to have a lot of space for both sides immediately after the break up. The other person can no longer be your best friend (at least, not right afterwards) and people need to accept this and remember this. You should find a new best friend-- be it your best girl / guy friend (depending on which gender you are) or your mother. This is being happy with yourself.

I also think it is unnecessary to tell them off and / or tell them it's their loss. It doesn't really show maturity or composure. Same goes for asking them to call. You have to be happy with yourself.

Handling a break up well is not about how you make the other person feel-- it is how you make yourself feel. Good luck to everyone going through this!

In my opinion, and I learned this the hard way. The best thing to say, is as little as possible. Tell them you still care about them, and you don't really want to break up, and you're sorry they feel the way they do. Then go on about your business and see what happens. Like I said, I learned the hard way, if you dog them and/or beg them to stay, you'll probably just drive them further away. After all, you can't make someone want to be with you, it has to be their choice. Try to not let them know how hurt or angry you are, because that can turn into a confrontation, and that just seems to mess things up worse. A lot depends on why they want to break up in the first place, do they have good reason, or are they just nutsy like my ex was ?

what you should do (and I truly think that this works every time)

do not initiate anything

do not be available ever

do not act/show/express/let them think that you need anything from them

do not tell your mutual friends (or anyone who isn't soley interested in your happiness) that you miss them

do not make any effort to 'stalk' them...Where is she? what did she do last night? who is talking to her online (sounds ridiculous, we all do this on facebook or wherever)

do not ever make plans to meet up in the future


do answer if she sincerely wants to talk

do tell her you care about her and you want to be friends ( do not actually do anything to show that you need this)

do be a gentleman: don't tell stories about her, don't try to show her you can be with other people, don't yell at or try to upset her




the key is to not need her...if you want her back, or if you dont

if you can do this, then everything else falls into place


but, its hard and knowing what to do isn't enough
i have known what to do and have messed up anyways..what did I learn?

just because you messed up doenst mean you can't start over...ignore her from here on out and you will be fine.

just don't try to be the best person ever...people stomp all over that person, the nicer you are to an ex the less they want to be with you in the future.


i hate saying all of this, because I want the opposite to work, I want to be myself and just be friendly...it never works..it just doesnt

i'd say cut off contact without being a jerk about it and just accept there desicion. During the next couple of days let her decide how much she wants you to be implicated in her life and if you're not fine with it you can then talk to her about it or let it drop

Cutt them off, because there dumped you, if you talk to them they will always have an upper hand on you (not a good thing)

Dont tell them off, cause they might have valid reasons, actually ask them why they dumped you and use it as a learning experience

Dont tell them, but tell yourself, its their loss and your gain. they just dumped someone who whole heartedly loved them and you just got rid of someone who didn't share the same feelings with you.

Maybe, don't expect a call,lol, expect to for you to move on. hey you can always brag you are in a new relationship when they call you wanting you back and you're going out with this hot lawyer.lol
Leaves on a good note, but then there are out.

If you're breaking up then you're breaking up? Right?

So break up then.

Handle it with kindness and class but also with finality. You aren't looking to be 'kinda' broke up are you? Then move along. He'll figure it out or he won't but always take the high road. You never know who might be who's boss someday as it's a small world!

Good luck

i hate it whenever they ask you if they can be ur fren and they also make it clear that its over because that's really hurtful.how can you remain jus frens with someone whom you still have feelings for?ur behavior won't be normal I tell u.anyway I find out that cutting off contact is the best way to get over a person.although some say that its running away from the problem but that's my method of getting over the person.oh yeah you have to get rid of anything that reminds you of them too.like pictures and stuff.that way you won't think abt the person(in the long run).u need help from ur family and frens too

If she did the break up to be with another guy that mean one thing she's not even worth you'r time to think about her ,cut all contact with her and try to go out with friends to have funn ,don't bother you're self to talk to them and tell them its their loss because Trust me they'll find out in the hard way espc if she was bitch** with you ,one more thing don't ever never say you'll take them back if they change their mind after while or goodbye ,just walk away its the best I know its hard and hurts because I'm going through this in the meantime .

Act professional because they will show you have respect if you drag it out. it will seem like you still want them.