I need a plan to get back my ex-boyfriend who dumped me, what to do?

NO...NO ...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Do NOT do this to get him back. If he dumped you for your weight, then he dumped you for a wrong reason. DEAR LORD, you are better than this. Don't become the 90 pound skinny chick! These kind of stories are the stories that make girls seem naive and shallow. Don't become the next girl trying to change for the guy. Forget this guy babe. PLEASE BE YOU. BE YOURSELF. BE REAL. BE NATURAL. BE CONFIDENT. BE ALIVE.

If he can't love you for what you once where he should not be allowed to love you for what you have become. No, I am not saying to stop your dieting, but do it for all the right reasons. This will make you feel good about yourself physically but mentally you would still be wondering if he is with you for your looks or love. If he would take you back after your diet it is not love, I am sorry to say. That is very shallow and you deserve better.

if he doesn't like you for who you are you shouldn't be wasting your time, reguardless of your mental status..

Let it go. I lost 40 lbs being heartbroken and it was more effective than any diet out there. Not that I needed to drop to 150 lbs though. Continue to work out, seek counceling, and try to love yourself. Someone should accept you for who you are.

The question is... why did he dump you? It might not have anything to do with your weight, even if he said it... that might not be the truth of the matter.

This is never going to work. You could do all the things you have planned but you should be doing them for yourself. Write this guy off, he's a loser. Belive me there's a nicer guy out there for you and, if you're patient, you'll find him.

Scrap this plan. You would be better off spending the money on therapy. Your goals are unrealistic.

errr why on earth are you degrading yourself with words like "limited social circle." and spending so much jus for one guy?if that guy dun treasure you why the heck are you forcing yourself?u improve ur image so much u'll definitely have more guys after you already.dun jus focus on him.and sometimes things really dun go according to what you want so be prepared for letdowns and stuff.

I think you should use that 4000 bucks on brain surgery.

NOOO! Losing weight and dressing better is only good if you do it for YOURSELF. Don't do something to get back at somebody. If he dated you when you were big, wore glasses, and didn't dress as nice then I don't think appearance is his priority.

You definitely don't want to tell him about your plan. Do you know how desperate that will make you look? He won't take you back or think you're admirable, he will just make fun of you for being pathetic. It's natural to want a little revenge but you don't want to let him know that's what you're doing. Weight loss and physical changes are very obvious - you don't have to tell him you did all that for him.

There is NO guy that is worth dying for. You need to work on yourself emotionally before you put so much effort for a guy.

And your diet plan is unrealistic as well as dangerous. You seriously think you can lose 110 lbs. in 3 months? That's not good. Even if you did lose all that weight you would screw up your body probably permantly and be left with loose sagging skin.

You either need counseling help or your post is some kind of a joke. Girl, are you serious? Losing 110lb to become a skinny 90 lb thing? I don't know how tall you're, but anything than 100lb is so unrealistic.You should be healthy. You're doing good that you don't wanna weigh 200lb-that's way too much for a woman. Next - 4 hours training a day - you can injure your body doing this. I have talked with a professional fitness instructor and she told me that your muscles need rest. Exercise 3-4 times a week an hour each time should be a good start. Keep your 1200 calories diet. Buy the nice clothes you want (no need to blow $4,000 though) and find yourself another boyfriend.

Hi sweetie,

If I was your ex boyfriend and you said this to me, I would be really embarassed by your desperation. The things you want to do are not so bad, but the way you are going about them will probably let you down.

Losing weight is not the same as being healthy, and all guys prefer healthy girls to skinny girls. Losing weight is fine, but don't harm yourself by doing it in record time or starving yourself, because that is even more unattractive. And don't do it for him-- do it for yourself, because you want to feel good and look good.

As for clothes, you don't have to look like everyone else to look good. Definitely buy yourself a new outfit, but spend it on quality, not quantity. And spend it on clothes that you like, not clothes that you think he will like, because actually most guys like you and your style.

You can meet with him, but be wary of sounding immature by telling him of all your accomplishments. Trust me, he'll notice it himself without your broadcasting it. By saying all of that to him, like raz0rblastz said, you're degrading yourself, and desperation is the surefire way to get rejected. So just be chilled, keep it light, be friendly and sweet and funny, and be confident and comfortable with yourself. Any relationship must be two-way, otherwise even if you do get back together it won't last. When you move on to the topic of getting back together, you'll have a higher chance if you say something along the lines of "Hey, so I've been thinking about us. I think we had a really good relationship together, and I'd like a second chance to show you how I've improved myself."

In summary: the best and most likely way to get someone back is to make them attracted to you. You are most attractive when you're happy, confident, mature and secure. Even if he says no, by being these four things you'll leave a long-lasting impression on him and he'll be thinking about you for ages after. Good luck babe =)

The first part is good, losing weight and buying new clothes are a great idea. But don't say that to him. Trust me, if you say something like that to a guy he will run the other direction. All men want a strong independent woman who really doesn't need them in their life. Your better off just asking him out for coffee or something, let him see you new look and realize for himself that you have changed and come crawling back to you.

If he cut you out of his life, he's probably with another girl, whatever you do will be in vain because sadly he doesn't feel anything for you.
You can do those things for yourself, otherwise you appear desperate if you say you are doing it all for an ex.
I thought about doing it for my ex, but I'm pretty thin already, I keep inshape because it's for me, not for anyone else. Spending all that money won't bring the happiness and closure you need. Heal. Try to stop thinking about him & take care of yourself :*)