How do I get him back? What do I do? Please don't tell me to forget!

even if you get him back, what makes you think that things will be back to how they were? That rarely happens you know, you're better off just eating the experienced, learn from it so you domnt make the same mistakes when you go into another relationship. make sense? :)

there's an old expresion the ends justify the means. Your end motive is good but you are doing a lot of spying to try to find out how to get him back. Your trying to get a good thing to happen by being somewhat devient. But that's ok this is what you can do if you are brave. Write him a letter. Make sure it is honest. What your friend was doing believe it or not was on the right track. Guys don't want girls to hide there feelings. We live for women who show there true feelings. And for a love that's true. You want to turn him on. Write the letter and tell him how much you realy like him. Tell him that you want him to be your boyfriend. Tell him that you are sorry you got angry. Guys dream of women who say I want to be your girl friend, we dream of women that say I like you. Stop what your doing, tell him how much you realy love him and you will win him back. There's a feminity and a magicalness to a girl who upfront admits she wants to be with a guy. All guys have a weakness in there hearts for this type of girl. say I like you, I miss you, I want to be your girlfriend again. You do this and he will come back to you. If you don't he won't and you will loose him.

Tell the truth when you're apologizing to HIM. Don't play any more games.don't assume.

Also, revise your definition of hooking up.because hooking up definitely means having sexual relations (hence the term hooker)

RULE #1. Do not EVER tell a guy you're never going to speak with them again.

You need to change the way you communicate if you wish to be with a guy because apparently you don't mean a thing you say.

He diffently wanted sex. and that proved it once he cut you off...so move on your jus going to make ur self look more stupid but I would talk to him and clear things up...and guys hate it when girls lie so don't lie to him any more be honest and you should of known the girl was his friends ofcourse she was going to tell him...p.s don't send him emails itll freak him out.

To be honest.. You sound a little crazy.
But that's beside the point, it sounded strictly sexual.. And I don't think that guy genuinely liked you, so I don't think he'd want to talk about religion.. He just wanted sex.

I think you may be running away from reality here sweetie :( He's a jerk straight up...I think with time, you'll see that. Set your standards higher. Yeah you screwed up but the bottom line to all this I think is that you're both looking for two different things. You are looking for affection, whereas he's looking to get some azz. It won't work out that way. I also feel that you're infatuated with this guy--spying about him behind his back is a little creepy. Needless to say, he's certainly moving on, and I think you're gonna have to as well...sorry :(

Good Luck with everything though.

i'm honestly trying to figure out why you'd want to get this douchebag back again. he's ignoring you because you won't give it up? that's some bullshit, my dear. you need to stop all this detective stuff to get him back. it's ridiculous. he doesn't deserve any of your hard work because he doesn't care about you if he throws a tantrum 'cause you won't get on your back.

also. that who dominitrix thing and the bi-sexual was very stange. I don't even know why all that was necessary. couldn't you should just find the bi-sexual's boyfriend and take to him on more normal terms?

anyway, stop chasing him. you're going to look crazy because he apparently doesn't like you as much as you like him, so he'll probably won't get why you're so hype about him.

ok where do I start,your trying to get with this guy because you really like him why in god's name would you go to his friend and say you wanna be dominated and learn now there's nothing wrong with learning mew things but trust me if he didn't get upset that you went over there to be dominated he doesn't care about u...
men only act as though they want the slut you know but in all reality they are looking for someone that they can both learn as the relationship progresses all I can say is that you will deff look crazy and physho if you send emails everyday or anything like that give him some time and when I say time give him some months...
and another thing dnt you think that if he was really interested in you as a person that his female friend would of known this and therefore would not have allowed you to come to her house and be dominated...smh read between the lines
u know how jmuch a person likes you or how they feel by the amount of respect there friends have for you ok!

First of all... if he quits talking to you because you won't have sex with him then honey you need to give yourself more credit and tell him to f%^$ off he is using your emotions to get what he wants... it sounds like all he wanted in the first place was a F%$^ buddy. Stop trying so hard ignore him then it'll make him panic... cause right now he thinks of it as you are wrapped around his finger and any day now he'll call you knowing you will give it up this time to keep him talking to you... and if you wanna demeanor yourself that much.. to have sex with a guy so he'll talk to you then you go right ahead but take it from me... later down the road you're gonna realize what you did was demeaning to you and women and you gave him the upper hand and he won... you shouldn't have to prove you are intelligent and not crazy and unique... cause he will know that just by knowing you... I am sorry but he is NOT NOT NOT worth any of your time! He is the slime ball guy that will do anything it takes to get what he wants... he is manipulating you and using your emotions against you...

I would leave it a while before contacting him again, especailly if someone has made you look bad. That way it gives time for the situation to blow over. It then gives you a chance to have a think and for him to have a think as well.

After a couple of week's you should email him or message him. Say that you are sorry and ask him if it would be ok to meet up and talk. Somewhere open and public so that he does not try it on and also away from friends and people that you know so that he does not influence you. Do let him know that you are there for him and that you care.

Do not get anyone else involved and do not get over people to message him for you. You need to do this your self.

If he does not respond or give in, then I would leave it longer, a month or 2 before trying to contact him again.

Just don't pressure him.

i think he thinks your only their for a hook up if you only want him to think that you like him for the physical relationship then he has no reason to stick around and want a relatinoship with you. it might do some good him knowing you liked him before all that but to tell you the truth if he was doing all that stuff and you didn't stop him then he might not respect you and thinks your only a hook up buddy so you need to stop ing mixed messages

you talk to him in person so that you don't have to rely on others to make you look good thus making you look intelligent.

you're unique if you get to know him and talk to the guy.

any guy who ignores you after finding out you will not sleep with him is not worth your time or energy in my opinion. sorry. you are just setting yourself up for heartache by wanting to get him back.