Has anyone ever fallen out of love? Not infatuation the real thing

Your like left, love doesn't just dissapear for no reason. Not being in love that is. Sometimes, it never dissapears. No, I can't say I rally stopped loving anybody who I had loved...no matter what happens, they stay stuck in my heart...even though it's been so long. No, I can't say that ever stopped loving them. If you love someone, you will love them even if they change, you can't control love and you can't control it.

yes you can and I have to agree with sonrisa90 its not so much as falling out of love its, as loving the idea of the person that they used to be, how can you continue to love the person who has changed so much you don't even recognize them anymore, espcieally in a long distance relationship, when your not seeing the person every day, and it gets so hard to even talk to them

i don't know that its so much "falling out of love" as it is just loving someone who no longer exists. like, ok, say you fall in love with someone in h.s. and you continue to date into college. then that person begins to change, maybe they were more shy in h.s. and now they're really loud and outspoken (among other things, of course). then, you start to "fall out of love" with that person. are you really falling out of love? or do you love the shy person that your romantic interest used to be, rather than the out spoken person they've become? the person they were has been replaced and no longer exists so you think that you've fallen out of love.

does that make sense?

I have had people fall out of love with me, but during the relationship if I was in love I didn't fall out of love with them during the relationship. The one I loved who left...it took me years to get over him. I had to erase their numbers and emails so I wouldn't feel the need to bother them and cause myself more pain. I only loved about 3 people in my life (as far as romantic partners). One of those was the major love that took years to erase. I had to eventually feel hate for him in order to get over it instead of keep telling myself to be selfless and just let him be happy. I didn't physically do anything to hate him, but it helped me calm the chemicals in my brain that kept tellling me to pursue him while I wasn't wanted. I'm sure my hate didn't hurt him much, because he didn't know about it.

Yes you can. It can take years and having to be physically separated from them, not seeing them for just as long to completely "fall out" of love. And you can still care, its just not that same level as it was before. More over you have to let yourself fall out of love and not fan the flames at all...its hard to do.

You can't fall out of love, if what you think is love fades away then it was never love. You can grow to hate someone you love, and hating them may out weigh how much you love them. Everyone I have ever loved, I still love to this day.

I have before, it took a while but I made up my mind after a certain situation that I could not be in love with this person anymore...it turned into more of friendly thing and now he is just my first and that is all he will ever be!

when you fall in love... ur world becomes that person. and having them gone is like not wanting to exist.
how could you fall out of existence?
why would you not want to be with that one thing that makes you alive ?


I don't think its possible to fall out of love unless if what you really felt was not love in the first place.

No, I haven't, it sounds like fickle behaviour to just change ones' mind so hastly in terms of love or anything in life. I would fall out of love only if the guy I loved acted really stupid or like an a-hole, but I don't think I can. I like to be determined in terms of what I choose to do and I don't like being 'wishy-washy' about anything.

I've only truly loved one person, and I still love him.
I don't believe in falling out of love. I think once you love someone, you'll always care about them, just maybe not in the same way.

if you get hit in the head hard enough! that is the way I would fall out of love.

yes I have quite a few times with 2 of myexs and my new bf.yes you can.

I've experienced phases, but not completely falling out of love.

It does happen.. it's happening with me right now- how can you be committed to someone who simply (and foolisly) don't give a damn enuf about ya to COMMUNICATE, has a buncha excuses and gets defensive about you wanting the truth from their sorry ass... That's how ya fall outta love- wen ur partner is scary and runs...

I've never fallen out of love. I've been cheated on, and the victim of a verbally abusive relationship (yeah, aren't I just the luckiest guy ever?) But I still love these ex's. I'm not about to get back together with either one, simply because they were terrible relationships. But I still love her. I don't think that can ever change.

Yes, you can the stuff I said in my first answer, "realizing" things about that are not so flattering, you can notice this while in the relationship. Its less common while in the relationship but it does happen if I'm honest I started the falling out of love process when I was with her, sometimes people change.

Yes you can fall out of love. I was in love I would do anything for my ex fiancee, now as time has gone by, realizing a few things about her yes I have fallen out of love, but I don't think you will ever stop caring about her or him. If you were ever truly in love, you can fall out of it but that person will always have a small pieace of you.