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Ex keeps contacting me...what to do? Why won't he stop?

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Nellyfae (Age:36 to 45) When: More than a year ago

Views: 1134 Category: Break-Up

Throughout our "relationship" he ignored me, let me down constantly, broke dates, never called, promised to call/email and never did. I know he was sleeping with other women, which is fine, I don't care about that as long as the person is up-front with me, however, he was always weird about other men...on almost every date where we went out, including the 1st date, he would mention something like, "That guy's looking at you..." or, "I think our friend ___ really likes you," and, another time, "Our friend ____ [a married man with kids] doesn't want anyone to have you," and, once after we were at the grocery store, "that guy at the deli, he sure was into you, wasn't he?" Another time, he waited three days to tell me "Remember when we were at the bar and you went into the bathroom? You were in there a long, long time, and when you came out, you were all decked out with more make-up. Why did you do that? Why would you do that at a bar?"

He said he used to be really jealous with his girlfriend, but that he's not anymore. I believe him, but why all those weird-ass questions?

Additionally, he always had these bs excuses about not having any time. I never questioned him about his whereabouts, or anything, just let him be a dick and sat back and didn't say anything, and slowly quit contacting him.

Finally, one day he called to go out. I simply said no thanks, I don't want to take up any more of your time.

Didn't hear from him for a couple of weeks, but then he started emailing.

Most recently, on New Year's Eve, he left me a voice msg, complaining about me having lunch with a mutual friend, and inviting other mutual friends, but not him. BTW, he also had one of our friends make a follow-up call to me (two minutes after he called).

WTF?

I have never bothered this guy. I leave him completely alone, never have I asked him for anything, cried, complained, or anything. I was always nice, re-paid him for any money he spent on me (and then some), and took the hint and left him alone. WTF does this guy want, and why won't he leave me alone? I've asked him to leave me alone, I've told him to leave me alone, I've ignored him...nothing works. I'm pissed, and there's not a damned thing I can do.

Update: Thanks for all your advice. Weirdest of all - out of nowhere on our 3rd or 4th date, he said he loved me (after sex). He'd work in little "that's why I love you's" and "I really love _____ about you". I never once said I loved him in return. More than a year ago

Update: After his first "I love you," he quit calling for about 3 weeks. I offered to be his friend, he replied and offered to let me basically be his on-demand whore. I declined. After that, he introduced me to his family. More than a year ago

Update: Slowly, he started to do the same bullshit again, but would occasionally ask me things about living together, marriage, kids, etc. I later heard from my hairdresser that his sister said we were going to be together for the "Long Haul". More than a year ago

Update: I never responded to any of his stuff about living together, or anything, except by laughing. He told me he had returned home from another state for me - I said, "yeah, right." See? I never tried to make myself important to him at all. More than a year ago


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Atomizer When: More than a year ago

Call the cops. Get a restraining order.

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narakuchan When: More than a year ago

I would tell him straight forward how I felt. If this were me, this would be what I would say:

"Look, I'm just not into our relationship anymore. I think we would be better friends."

Because that's what it seems like. He doesn't treat you the way you deserve and he honestly sounds freaking crazy. Tell him to back off. You two HAVE officially broke up right? It sounds like you are willing to work on ya'lls relationship, but honestly know when you should break things off. Your relationship with him sounds like a black hole.

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more than likely he is fooling around but doesn't want you to be doing the same thing cause that is a blow to his self esteem... do not contact him or let him contact you anymore what so ever... don't pick up don't text back... if he can't get a hold of you then eventually it will where off he keeps coming back to you because you are there when it is convienant for him and that f*&^ed up... forget him never talk to him again... change your number... change your email then you will never know if he is trying to get a hold of you or not...

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bubblyblonde When: More than a year ago

ring up your phone company and get his number blocked. Failing that tell him you will take the matter forward if he doesn't stop and contact a solicitor (lawyer)

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