How do I get him back ?

Act like you are interested in another guy!! If he really loves you he will forget about the girl and try and get you back!! Turn the situation around on him that's your best bet really!!

What I'm trying to convey here is that: "you were jealous, brought him down." Those are the things I hear, meaning you required a lot of attention to take care of. IE (reason for the break).

Elisavetta 04 (10:14:17 AM): you don't get MORE confident when someone dumps your ass (22 yrs female).

Look, you've got to focus on yourself for a while. I don't mean the next few months but the few years. Build yourself a better emotional foundation before you get into another one of these heart breaking situations. How do you do this? Focus on your academics, building a good friend base and doing more positive activities. You're under 18! Just have fun! forget boys, we're too stupid at that age to know anything about anything, all we want to do is jack off to porn. A lot of women say they weren't ready for relationships until they where 25+

He does not want you, that's just the way it is and the way you need to see it. Remember actions speak louder then words. he says: "i love you so much and I want to be with you." His actions: "I am bangin' this chick in the mean time." The best way to get over this is to ask him to not contact you so that you can get over him and heal. In this time you will be tempted to contact him, maybe be crazy and go over his house to see him. Don't. don't don't.

I will tell you this, if you get back with him... it will ultimately lead down the same road. Another emotional hurt and time wasted. Time you could've built yourself stronger so that you can find a mate stronger then him.

Elisavetta 04 (10:15:03 AM): there's a million guys don't get tied up with one who doesn't like you
Luvthebeach555: "if it doesn't work... move on."

Why is everyone saying "move on?" It's like the Nike commercial: "just do it."

PS: I know you won't listen to me because you think I'm a jerkoff. I'm telling you the truth and from an outside perspective without any emotional attachment. Your hurt, I know. Sucks right? Now... remember how you felt right now and carry it with you to the next time you decide to have a relationship.

Act like you don't care, and that you are beginning to move on... Everybody wants what they can't have and if you play it cool and act like he can't have you back, he may realize what he gave... But you have to be ready if he lets go for good... If he is fine with you moving on then all the things he has been saying to you are just to keep you waiting while he goes and has fun... If it doesn't work then you truly have to move on...

You sound very clingy and overbearing to take care of. "I used to say things just to hurt him so that I get more attention." You say you now have more confidence but people don't usually change in that little amount of time. He says X and Y but does A and B. Remember actions > words.

What's the real messege he's sending you? He cares for you but as a sister rather than a g/f. As... if he really thinks your the girl he'll end up with then why is he presueing others? As you know he's obviously not interested.

How do you win him back? Concentrate on bettering yourself and try not to do so much "look how much i'ved changed." Let him notice it and others will as well. If he doesn't, move on you're young.

Hey Girl,
Ok so here is some more sensitive and Chicky advice which hopefully will help =) So the first thing I have to say and as hard as it may sound. You have to stop talking to him. Just for the meantime. You need some time to gather your thoughts and still talking to him while you guys are growing through something like that is only going to make things worse.

The one thing that can help you feel better is if you focus on things that are under your control. You can't control what your boyfriend is thinking, how he will act or weather or not he will take you back. This only leads you to be as unhappy and depressed as you are now. Trust me I have been there too!

How bout focusing more on things that are under your control. Like why do you want him back anyways? Is he the love of your life? Is he this absolutely fantastic guy which every chick wants to be with? What makes him so damn special anyways? I know its hard but sometimes the only reason why we want someone back, is because they broke up with us in the first place. We feel like we lost something and we just want it back. But I ask you the question. If he asked you to be his girlfriend again and you knew you could have any guy you wanted, would you take him back?

If after answering that question its still a YES then I have to say listen to what some of these guys are saying. The only way you are going to win him back ... is essentially to get off his back. Go out enjoy your life. Stop taking him calls and go out with your girlfriends. Help build up some of that self confidence which made him fall for you in the first place and try and discover what made you jealous in the first place. That way you will not only be more appealing to him because you have your own life .. But you will be more appealing to a lot of guys that are better quality too!

All the best ok? =)

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