Part of me want my ex back part of me doesn't and wants to move on. What should I do?

Boy oh boy.. it's been a year and a half? I've been in a relationship for a year and 7 months and I've been close to breaking up with boyfriend and I thought to myself what would life be like after? Well here's my answer, first of all thing;s didn't work out between you two for a reason. Secondly, he's in another country perhaps has seen other girls. Thirdly, you should make it a rule to try you're absolute best to not get sexually involved with ex's because its a huge mind f*ck. There are physical attachments you and your body have to this person as well as emotional.

When you add sex to the mix you just jumble everything up. You're heart starts hurting because of course you still have feelings for this person but you can't really be with them. You can't hurt yourself like this. You have to make a decision it's either one way or the other. However, I am sympathetic to your side because I know that in old relationships, ex's have gotten back together to have sex a few times but you gotta stop that cycle before your smoosh your heart to pieces.

so let me get this right: you live in australia? and he lives... US or something? another continent anyway right?

well - number one way to stop feeling like you are being used is to stop sleeping with him. Sadly, even if he has feelings for you (or not), even if you have feelings for him- if there is no relationship in the future - you need to focusing on moving on (and not sleeping with him cause that just messes up emotions, and trust I've been in the same situation minus the continental exchange). It may hurt to turn away from this and try to move on but in the long-run the overall hurt-tally should be less then if you keep hoping and hooking up with him.

if you are trying for a relationship again, then you need to.. stop sleeping with him (because out of relationship sex tends to take away the need for titling things a 'relationship' - sadly) and tell him that you want more or ask him if he wants to try dating you again. He'll never known it's not just friends with benefits for you if you don't let him know.

Sorry if my answer seems a little off - it's hard to know exactly what to say because I don't know if you guys are thousands of kilometers away from each other or in the same location. I honestly think that an intercontinental/ long-distance relationship at this point... restarting things while you're still so far away from each other... would be only a lot of stress and heartache. Besides, who's to say that maintaining friendship isn't enough for now and maybe in 3 or 4 years when you're in the same place as each other something might spark again. Sometimes it's the right person, wrong time.