Girlfriend of 4 years just broke up with me

She doesn't want to be with you no matter what you do. Stop all communication with her because you are going to drive her away even as a friend. You can't be friends right now anyway's, too soon. Give it a few month's then try a friendship. I think she's lost that lovin feeling! Sorry, I know it hurts but, when you do meet the right one, you will know what not to do. You should do something about the control thing, that's unhealthy.

Well sounds like she had made her mind.see,when a girl says she loves a guy and the guy says he doesn't feel the same,she gets heart broken and it requires a lot of time and energy to rebuild the whole thing. she is hurt and she needs time.give her the time and space she wants. i also highly recommend that you keep yourself busy, it makes it easier for you to move on.

I am going through the same type of thing and my advice is. to stop calling her. I know what your thinking."oh everyone says that", or " I'm scared if I stop calling her she is going to find someone else" Here is the deal. If she does find someone else that quick than as much as it sucks she's probably not who you thought she was. And is obviously the type that gets into relationships because she just does not like to be alone. The other thing is rebound relationships never work out so even if she does get another man it won't last very long, trust me. And to make you feel a little bit better about not calling her let me share some of my story.

I am 24 years old and until two months ago was with this girl sense I was 19. We met in college and hit it off huge, and had even been engaged for the last year. See our problem was that she was from a town about 2hrs away from me and had slept with more people than me. Hense it was hard for me to handle that and we both became controlling and never wanted the other to go out alone. Anyway she eventually moved to my town and we got a place together and started going to school and work full time. Anyway long story short we started fighting a lot and I am a name caller when I get mad and she left.She has been staying with her friend for about 2 months now. I tried all the stupid things to get her back. Begging, pleading, calling, texting, all it did was push her further away. Finally about two weeks ago when I talked to her it was like it was someone different she was extremely cold, mean, cruel, and just didn't understand me she said she REALLY wanted her space and not to call her. I told her I was done and I would never call her again if that's what she wanted. 4 days went by 4 days bro and it was the longest I had not called her since the split. On the 4th day I received a text from her saying "HAY: I didn't respond than she sent "well the movie****** is on and I thought of you" we ended up hanging out and having a great night together and ended it by making love. But we are still not together and she is now moving back home to her town to live with her rents. Yeah I am nervous she is going to find someone else and it won't work but the bottom line is when I gave her her space and went on with my own life I finally got somewhere and feel like were in the process of maybe making it work.
So hang in there and don't call her. Trust me buddy my ex is the most stubborn girl I have ever met and even she came around. You can't be with someone that long and just not care she will miss you and think about you but you have to stay away for a while in order for that to happen PLEASE STOP CALLING HER you will regret it if you dont. all calling her is going to do is push her into someone elses arms and allow her to keep believing she made the right choice in leaving and that you really are a control freak. I know you do it cause you love her,.but trust me. she does not see it like that

It sounds like she has decided that she is through with you. You blew it with her. At this point, it sounds like its too late to repair the relationship. All you can do is try to forget her and move on. The only hope is that maybe after some time passes she will reconsider. But this is probably remote; for now, be prepared to move on and forget her. All you can do is prolong the heartache by pursuing her now.

You need to know she's over you. She wants to move on and as should you. She's actually trying to make it easier for you not answering your calls and avoiding contact. Like you said, you took her to those shops and special places that bring back those feelings and what not.

You've spent some pretty important years with her (17-21) and this was your first love/lost story. You've learned a lot about girls and know what you like and don't like. Look at this as a positive experience. A lot of guys at your age have yet to have to opportunity to have committed that long or yet to have been in a loving relationship that you have had.

So, take some time to reflect: What did like about her, what you didn't like. Then you could send her an e-mail asking for closure (something she should give you) about what went wrong. Take what she says as constructive criticism into your next potential partners.

Here's the dirty awful part of what you sign up for when you decide to involve yourself in a relationship. Healing the heart, ego and confidence.. Oh and calling her a b1tch and whore. That usually helps :) Who knows maybe after a few years or her playing the field she'll realize you were special and you'll end up together again (wouldn't be the first case) but you need to start moving on.

Chin up, *cheers.