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How can I break up nicely?

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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)     When: 9 months ago
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I want to still be on good terms with the guy, but I can't figure out how to let him down gently--especially because we live pretty far from each other so we don't get to spend a lot of time together, but we talk on the phone a lot.


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Littletad
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Littletad      When: 2 days ago
Make it honest and sincere and in person, not in a text or while chatting.
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ShadowDude
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ShadowDude      When: 21 days ago
Be smoth about it and tell him you just need some time alone.
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Tomas
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Tomas      When: 2 months ago
There is indeed no good way to break up.

You might still try to show him that detail about "I still like/love him a bit".
true is I never had a girl before so kidna I can't help much, but if you tell it to him so close as during dance(I mean like hug) it might have good effect. there will be no space between both of you when you will say something like please, forgive me, but I wanna break up.

Think about this just like about hint(its not like guide or complete scenario).
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dfrazmabel
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dfrazmabel      When: 2 months ago
the best way is to give a ton of hints so that it doesn't become a shock and then give him a lot of space and hopefully he will start talking to you again, that's what my ex did to me and it worked pretty well we are normal around each other tho it has been 6 months
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mike89
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mike89      When: 2 months ago
There is no nice way to break up with someone. The only thing I can say is just talk to him and tell him it ain't going to workout and tell him why.
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mismail
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mismail      When: 2 months ago
Just tell him DIRECTLY that your relationship is not going to work.
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that_cool_guy
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that_cool_guy      When: 2 months ago
thats an easy one actually.
dont return his calls
dont call him
dont go out with him
stop having your long conversations
but stay nice and don't cheat (if you want to keep him as a friend)

eventually, he'll get the message and breakup with you :)
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Anonymous User      When: 2 months ago
Be completely honest, he'll take it however he will. You know the guy better than us on this site. I'd want to be told the truth. Don't be blunt, but explain it politely.
Whether or not you're on good terms afterwards depends partly on you, but also how he reacts. You might not be able to end on good terms, but you can try.
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Salih      When: 3 months ago
wow..my ex wanted to the same..we lived faraway from each otheer..but we talked on the phone a lot
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tristan1988
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tristan1988      When: 7 months ago
Your question reminds me of my ex. I'm very sad because this is what she wanted to do to me before too. :(
I loved her so much and she did love me too but my friend said that he had seen she asking people on how to break up with a guy nicely way. I didn't believe my friend about that but after a few days that she called me and said she will take a long vocation with her family so she would not be able to get online or call me. First I though what she was saying is true, but I'd been waiting for her more than a month and I realized that what my friend had told me is true. I know that I would never get a chance to chat with her again or call her to tell her that I really love her, and if leaving me can make her happy then I'm willing to let her go.She changed her phone number and email. I'm still waiting for her though, but I know its just a dream. My tears are steaming down on my face now. :((



I feel much better after I've had a good cry! Sorry if my answer seems to bother you.
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Question Asker Aw, that's a horrible thing to do. I'm sorry... She doesn't deserve you : P. Seriously, though. - 7 months ago
A-Guys-Opinion Wow. :-(

Why would she change her email and phone number, too? Seems a bit overboard just to move on from someone... - 4 months ago
needadvice123 Listen, you seem like a genuine guy. It really was her lost after all. Just remember time heals everything. She was not worth your time. - 29 days ago

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funky909      When: 7 months ago
it is a thing you should do sooner or later because you know that its not easy to keep up with this type of a relationship
so, don't make it a lot longer than it should take
-prepare a gentle words, so you hurt his feelings as less as possible
-maybe he wanted to do the same for the long time but he is just not ready to do so,
i mean maybe what you are about to do is a good thing for him also
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good-looking-geek
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good-looking-geek      When: 9 months ago
Next time you see him in person, let him play with your boobs for one last time!
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Question Asker Haha. - 9 months ago
MirandaForLife Retard. - 6 months ago

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TwoFace      When: 9 months ago
No man is going to take it gently when they get shot down but don't beat around the bush with it. Come straight out and tell him, gently telling him is only leaving room for him to reinterpret and think there still is a chance to be with you. Be blunt if you have to so he can get the pic crystal clear but be ready for the reaction he gives
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quantumdefender      When: 9 months ago
your about to break a guys heart, no matter what you say or do, he is gonna blame himself and likely be very upset.
I hope you got a better reason that "distance"
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Question Asker There are definitely way better reasons than distance! But it's not really his fault I want to end it, and I know like he took his last break up really hard, so I want to like reassure him "it's not you, it's me" kind of thing. That sounds ridiculous and clich though, so I don't know how else to phrase it or whatever. - 9 months ago
Answerer Tell him you wanna sleep around, that the only way he won't feel like the bad guy. - 9 months ago
 

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megan128
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megan128      When: A month ago
Just tell him that its not working out and you still want to be friends. Tell him that you guys live to far away and that you can't see him that much. Don't be mean about breaking up with him. If you don't want 2 be with him then don't just make up ur mind up.
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vidapa88
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vidapa88      When: A month ago
Just tell him that its not that he's a bad guy, but that you're just two different eole with different goals in life and that you feel that there is someone better for him that will complement him better and someone better for you too.
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Anonymous User      When: 6 months ago
I don't think there is a nice way to break up with someone. Just tell him how you feel, and see what happens
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Reeses-pieces777
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Reeses-pieces777      When: 9 months ago
you should make it clear that you will do it in person. the worst thing to do is break up over the phone. trust me, breaking up over the phone, over text, over im, over facebook and not in person,...is lame.

so be for real and do it in person. be nice about. tell him he should find another girl who's this blah blah blah and not you etc. and end of story. both of you can move on.

i know it's not easy, but you won't regret breaking his heart even more by using a non-in-person approach this matter.
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confused1081
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confused1081      When: 9 months ago
Maybe just tell him that the distance isn't working out for you but you'd still wish to be friends.
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