My ex boyfriend asked for me back and asked me to trust him to let him take out a 28 year old bartender girl he met at a bar to a club. So even though I didn't want him to go he told the girl and his friends he will go. This bartender girl asked him to set up the guest list, and put her and friends on the list bring some of his friends.Me and him argued about it over and over and he kept persisting on having to go because he didn't want to seem like an ass and flake on his friends and her. I felt like it shouldn't matter what the girl thinks and his friends probably wouldn't care to go another time anyways. I thought I was more important in this situation but obviously I wasn't. So I finally let him go to the club and I told him to go home after. After the club closed I called him and he was out with her and her friends and his friends eating. Later the next day I got over the situation but I found a card from another bartender girl and he said it was just the manager. I get his phone and start reading his texts and realize he got a text from the girl the night before saying " it was fun with you lets do it again and you can always come by to my work". I specifically didn't like the idea of him talking to bartenders girls and just take out random girls like that. So I yelled and tripped out.. he tried to hide the phone after he snatched it out of my hand. He called me mental, jealous and controlling. I really felt like I wasn't tripping out. I accused him of lying to me when I heard from his own friend that she is pretty, slutty, and nice. He started to say I ruined the relationship and broke it off with me because I believed something that wasn't true. Should I have tripped out? I mean constantly getting numbers from bartenders and telling me there just friends is so hard to believe now. He always breaks it off with me and comes back.. I'm sick of taking him back. Could of have handled the situation any better? Did I mention.. I slapped him the face also. He did me wrong no?
GIRL, DUMP HIM. HE IS AN OBVIOUS PLAYER. NO GIRL IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD LET THEIR MAN GO OUT WITH ANOTHER WOMAN MUCH LESS A BARTENDER. USUALLY BARTENDER WOMEN ARE HIRED BECAUSE THEY ARE HOT. FLAT OUT AND SIMPLE THATS HOW THEY GET GUYS TO BUY DRINKS AND GET TIPS. THATS THE WAY IT IS. SO ON TOP OF THAT HE KNOWS IT BOTHERS You THAT HE IS GOING OUT WITH OTHER WOMEN, WHY HASN'T HE TAKE YOU OUT? WTF? GET RID OF HIM ALL THATS GOING TO END UP IS HIM HURTING You MORE. IT LOOKS TO ME THE ONLY REASON HE ASKED You BACK IS BECAUSE HE WANTS HIS SECURITY BLANKET WAITING 4 HIM AT HOME WHEN HE IS DONE WINIG AND DINING OTHER CHICKS...ETC. YOU DESERVE SOMEONE WHO WILL GIVE YOU ALL HIS ATTENTION AND NOT WASTE TIME MEETING AND TAKING OUT OTHER GIRLS. SCREW THAT THOSE KINDS OF GUYS DO NOT VALUE GREAT GIRLS WHEN THEY HAVE THEM AND ONLY REALIZE THEY HAD THEM WHEN THEY ARE GONE. BUT ONCE WE LET THEM BACK IN THEY DO IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN. SO STOP WASTING YOUR TIME WITH HIM AND FIND A BETTER GUY THAT DOES VALUE YOU...
He did you wrong, yes. Find someone who wants to make you the center of their life, as you deserve. Don't second guess your actions in this, as you reacted appropriately. When people behave badly as he did, and the offended party objects, their first line of defense is always "you don't trust me", or "you're a control freak". He's proven he doesn't deserve to be trusted.
Okay to start with LOL you slapped him. that's funny. Not that I have any personal experience in the matter but I'm pretty sure most bar tender chicks are hoes and if your boyfriend is wanting to hang out with a slut rather than you he is the scrotum of a donkey. Especially since he kept arguing the point. He should have seen there was a problem with it and worked it out with you then explained to his friends later. If you're sick of taking him back tell him to take a leap next time he comes back. Yet in saying all this I'd also like to make a suggestion and that is with future boyfriends who are *actually* trustworthy try trusting them and not just making assumptions and going through their stuff trying to find proof of wrong doings. And also I take back what I said at the beginning bringing violence into something like this isn't any kind of answer. Granted it is relieving and at times amusing. Yet in a situation such as this a person must strive to control their temper and be reasonable. Though if he is repeatedly getting female bartender's numbers and going around with them there's an issue. But seriously next time he comes back tell him to leave and do unspeakable things to the nearest fire hydrant. Hope that helped l8rz.
Obviously you knew what he was/is doing. But you deny it because you like having his attention and the excitement you get from him. It all Depends on what you're looking for, and just dump him if you're looking for something more meaningful. On the other hand yes, you did seem a little crazy by going through his phone and stuff. Just don't do that.
How am I trippen? He talks to bartender girls and picks up numbers here and there from them. Plus he broke it off with me saying he wanted to keep being "FRIENDS" with them over me. That's not trippen.. SORRY to say. - 8 months ago
babe let me tell you that, NO YOUR NOT TRIPPIN, if a guy wants you he gonna want only you, plus why doesn't he take YOU to the clubs with"his friends" he seems like a shady and fishy person. and yea since you guys broke it off that's better you seem like someone who's welling to understand but to a limit which is actually perfect but he abuses it, so yea its not worth it plus a little piece of advice that you should remember in every relationship, if he makes you think twice bout whether its worth it or not with him, he is so not worth it, because a guy who's genuine and worth would never make you come to this ultimatum really... good luck and hope that helps.. =]
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