Does my ex want me back?

He's figuring out how he feels about the relationship, and he needs space. When he broke up with you, your reaction was that of a clingy girlfriend--you wouldn't respect his wishes and let him be. This increased his distance from you. When you didn't call, he had time to start missing you, and he came around.

It sounds like he's looking for someone else but hasn't found anyone better. Whether or not he'll pick you again as a long-term partner is hard to know for sure.

Wow you sound like me. Me and my ex broke up a bit over a week ago after 3 years and I am lost. I sent one email to him and got the you deserve better then me response and I had to do what was right response. I still want to reach out him but afraid to, I am afraid it will make it worse. I give you credit for the 3 weeks you went without any contact I know I need to do that but it's so hard.

In the situation you are in I really don't know what to say, if you ask him that could scare him away but it's not like you guys are just hanging out casually he is taking you away. I got the I need to be by myself speech to, did he say he didn't want to get married either. I think he is trying to get his life together cause he knows what you want and he wants to be able to give that to you at least that is what I am trying to believe in my situation.

Keep me posted hope it works out for you

Leave him alone man! That is the hardest thing to do but you need to be like "if you need to be alone & don't want to talk about our relationship then be alone. " don't be a bitch but act like you don't care about what he's doing. And do not give him a hug/kiss. If he thinks he's losing you he will snap back in to place & then you will have the upper hand & you'll be able to make him talk about your relationship

He probably misses you. If you guys were together for such a long time then he's probably missing all the fun stuff you did together. Give him a hug but no further then that, but you do need to talk to him about you relationship right now. Whether you guys are just friends or seeing each other.

Communication is all you and he need right now.

Don't contact him. He is confused. Don't hug and kiss him. He wants to be alone then tell him, hug and kiss yourself. He wants to be alone. Then show him how great you and let him miss you. I know this is tough but, you want him back. You have to make him realize what he has lost.

I'm guessing he's young (under 25? ) and confused and he just doesn't know what he wants. You've been together for a long time and now he doesn't know if there is better out there. Sounds to me like he wants to look around to see if there is someone better out there but he doesn't want to let you go just in case there isn't. Don't let him have his cake and eat it too! He needs to make a decsion and not string you along.

I don't know what your ex is thinking but, I would definitely still continue not contacting him. I too, am 3mths. Out of a 4yr. Relationship & still love my ex very much. In the beginning I contacted him constantly & told him that I needed to know if he was planning on hooking up with someone else, & he too told me no- he just wanted to be on his own for awhile so I gave him space. He shortly after that started seeing someone else which left me devastated but, till this day he contacts me & tells me he still loves me & hugs & kisses me when he sees me but, he is still with her & moving right along. I believe he keeps me hanging just in case things don't work out with her. This has torn my heart out & I am now left with not knowing whether to sit back & wait for him to decide what he wants to do (don't want to be used) or trying to get over him (very hard).

so my advice to you is to decide whether you also, want to wait around for him to decide what he wants to do or move on. I don't want to hurt you by saying this more than you already are hurting but, it sounds like your ex is also, either seeing someone else or he has someone in mind & although he still has feelings for you he doesn't know what he wants at this time. I would be very careful getting sucked back in again like I did which is very easy to do when you still love him. I would tell him the next time he contacts you to leave you alone until he decides what it is he wants because you don't want him thinking he can keep you hanging around for when he is bored,etc. & out there doing whatever with whomever & not feeling guilty about anything because he is not in a relationship with you anymore. Maybe distance between you both will make him realize that you are the one he truly loves & that he doesn't want to lose you. Stay strong & I hope that things will work out for you better than they have for me! Good luck!