Okay. This ex-boyfriend knows that I still have feelings for him or at least did up until a month ago. I asked to meet up. He drove 3-4 hours, left a tournament early to make it here, and he was absolutely exhausted when he finally arrived. (I'm not sure if that's from me yelling at him when he canceled our meeting the previous week before).
We went to a party with mutual friends and I had a little too much to drink. I woke up the next day with no recollection of the night before (I'm really not this irresponsible! ) and he starting being very affectionate and kissed me, which I was surprised by. My friend told me later that I made out with him while drunk, which explains a lot. He kept pressuring me to have sex and when I said no, he kept asking me why. I told him because we're friends and friends don't kiss and have sex. He didn't say anything and kept asking why. I stupidly gave in. We ended up kissing a few times, and he had the most silly grin on his face. So did I.
We had brunch and had good conversation for the most part. When he left, he said that "it was good seeing you" and gave me a hug. I guess I just don't want to feel used.
First off, you my dear are a little confused- you say you still have feelings for this guy & your yelling at him because he canceled the week before, then you say you are just friends but, then your all over him & then have sex with him. I don't mean to hurt you but, you gave this guy mixed signals by kissing him at the party (alcohol will do that to you) & then the next morning you start playing games with him & give him what he wants in the end. He definitely used you because he knew he could! If you want something more from this guy you need to stop contacting him-let him contact you & you definitely need to stop having sex with him. It's obvious he doesn't respect you or he would of not kept pressuring you-when you said NO the first time that should of been it. He knew if he kept it up you would eventually give in. I'm not saying that this guy does not care for you or he would of not drove all that way to see you but, it doesn't appear that he wants at this time anything more than a good time with you just by the way he ended the visit. You deserve better than that & I would definitely tell him that you are not going to be used for a romp in the sack & if he is not willing to respect you than maybe you should put some distance between you & him in the future. Once he sees that you are not just going to be a lay for him maybe he will grow up & show you that he REALLY does care for you beyond just friends. Stay strong & demand respect- it's your right!
Me and my boyfriend were together for a year and 5 months. It was my first real boyfriend and I was his real first girlfriend. He found out he was...
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When: 8 months ago
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