I just don't know anymore....How can I get him back?

okay you feel a lot of hurt. know that this is a human condition and we all have gone through this in one form or another; so your are not alone. You would do well if you start to see that no one can make another person happy. Being happy really has to do with that person themself, including you. Your experiences are pointing to that. As you keep repeating these cycles your life is trying to show you that you need to bring more love, companionship and security into yourself without the need to get it from someone else. Your relationship style may feel too over draining on your partner since your looking for fulfillment from them when you need to get that from yourself so that you can share and contribute to the relationship. this may be what you need and is missing. Heartache is our over attachment to characteristics we need in ourselves and the inability to let go and let others be free to love. It also has to do with focusing on the past and the future and not putting your energies into the moment and the present. Life is really about what you do now and how you invest your thinking into the present so that you feel wonderful, great, alive and totally loved. This can only happen from within yourself. Begin to let go of the past and allow others to be free, start investing into yourself all of the love you deserve and want - it's not that hard. In time others will start to draw to you like a magnet since you will be giving out what everyone wants.

Wow, This is almost scarey, I said this to a girl recently. I can offer you my reasons for why I said this same thing to a girl, But keep in mind I'm not him, we are different people and mosty have different reasons. I will tell you why I wanted to be alone though.

1. I knew id hurt her in the long run, because I just wasnt commited and I knew it.
2. I wasnt ready for someone to know me, Because I'm still figuring out who I am.
3. I function better alone, At this stage in my life.

Fact is, he may just need to sort out some of his own issues,

I don't know what to tell you. I'm sure he genuinly cares about you, I think he just can't give you what you need. At this stage all you can do is talk to him, Find out where he's at in his life, I dunno...Stay friends? Sorry I can't be much help..

You are in a loop. Stop trying to figure out why he said what he said. Its your life..be selfish for once...go out and break a guy's heart...dont worry about what happens to him. Be on the other side of the coin for once. Don't for gods sake try to get him back or fall into another man's arms to take the edge off the pain. Please don't beg him to come back to you. All you have at the end of the day is your dignity...dont lose that.

There is always a chance. However, I don't think you are ready for a relationship and I don't think you should try to get him back. Those demons you have in your closet are some serious ones that you will need to work on before you can even think of having a relationship. This guy is being honest with you by letting you know that he's not ready. It's better he do this now than later. Because you said you were very lonely and keep getting hurt it indicates that you are not really stable within yourself to be in a relationship. Let this guy go and give him space. In the meantime work on yourself and your issues. It's not easy but it's freeing once you succeed at working those demons out.