How do I get my boyfriend back?

Truth is he wants you, but he's testing the waters. Making sure the sharks are gone. I bet you ask him a lot of questions about the two of you and it's to the point where he just wants space to rethink your approach. He knows you are still his girl deep down inside whether offical or not, just act like you no longer have interest, but then do a little flirt here, little mix here and a little there will probably do the trick, make him realize what it is that he had/or has. Make him swim with sharks, but give him a cage to watch from. If he truly cares he'd fight for it.

Those are similar questions to what I need answering. Today I found out my boyfriend of 10 years has been cheating on me for the past 3 months with a woman who works for him. He says he doesn't love her and loves me but doesn't know what he wants and that he's confused. He's been lying to me for these past few months when I've asked him and he told me I have nothing to worry about. I'm so hurt and confused and don't know what's going on.

I know he won't come around for a couple of weeks which I suppose is a good thing to at least get my head a bit more organized but I don't know...has he left me for her? Does he love me or her?...I know he's told me the truth today as he looked me in the eye and he never does that when lying. This woman is a nasty piece of work, she's been trying to get him for about a year now and was constantly chatting him up, sending him text messages and writing him love letters, so I suppose the persistence paid off in the end for her. She got umpteen people to telephone me over the year telling me to leave him so she can have him, she sent her ex boyfriend to my house to say the same, she even sent her brothers down to beat me up to frighten me away.

I told my boyfriend all this but he never believed me, he thought I was just saying these things because I was jealous. But of course he would, she shows him her so called nice side and shows me the so called nasty side. Now I've got another decision to make, my teenage daughter works with them on the weekends, I don't want her to because I don't want her face rubbed in it, but she wants to. Do I stop her or do I allow her?

Sorry for going on, but my head isn't making any sense.

Guys are idiots, lol... Yeah the dude still likes you and yes he still wants you. If he didn't he wouldn't be hanging with you all the time and still acting like he cares for you, guys are just like that, he's just playing games with you, to kinda test you.

You can never know for sure if he cares about you the same way you care about him. You see I'm in the SAME exact situation. My boy, billy, says he loves me but is dating someone else. It doesn't work like that. If he cares about you like he says he does he has to want to be with you and only you. Make him understand that you won't wait around forever and when he figures that out if he loves you he will come back around.

Maybe he doesn't wanna put you through a lot of arguing. I guess, it's okay to argue. My boyfriend and I argue a lot and he used to make me cry like everyday but it seems that when you argue the better the relationship will get and the more you things will turn out to be right and whatever the problem is, arguments can help fix it sometimes.

He still cares for you but he just doesn't want to show it right now belive me.