Cheating boyfriend - should I dump him?

Let's be honest now, this guy isn't your boyfriend. Well, he isn't anymore because he's neither a man nor a friend. In fact, I'm not sure what he is, but henceforth he will be referred to as Scum. So, you find out that Scum is cheating on you. Of course its not just one person, its two. And of course both are your friends. I should hope you are now single, and have two less friends. If not, you are in for a world of hurt, because Scum won't stop screwing around. He can't stop, because he has no respect, dignity, or backbone. He looks like a man, but he isn't. He is a snake.

Why on Earth would you give him another chance? Do you enjoy the thought of him cheating on you, and having sex with other girls? Do you think he loves you? He doesn't. He loves attention. He loves having power to do what he wants. He will continue to cheat on you, probably with more of your "friends". If you have any respect for yourself, you will walk away from Scum. If you have any sense, you will walk away from Scum.

The most important thing to remember is that he is not the last and only person who will date you. Dump him and move on.

not only did he cheat, but he broke the code too. I slept around with not 1, but 2 of your friends. he has no respect for you. you had every right to dump him and good for you for doing so. especially via text on his birthday. hope he felt like sh*t. even if he tries to come back to you, he's not worth the time, let alone the effort. I'm sorry that it had to happen to you. I get really depressed when I hear about people cheating on eachother. I was in love with a girl who wouldn't give me a chance, but slept with every other guy she came across. it kills me every time I think about it. but you deserved better from the begining. so try and never think about it again. believe it or not there are a few guys out there that would never cheat on you. the hard part is telling the good guys from the bad. best of luck to you : )

duh get rid of that

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Talk to him about it first.

It really doesn't matter too much either way, as long as you make SURE you do not get pregnant. I am guessing it is too late to suggest not having sex, but that would be my first suggestion. But the more important thing is to realize that this phase of your life is a transition. Few of the people you hang out with now will be a part of your life when you are thirty or forty. So the guy now will not be the guy later, as long as you avoid having his baby.

Maybe it is time to move on. Enjoy finding other friends to learn and explore with. It is obvious that he is a player, so don't expect him to be anything else. If you like him, like him for who he is, not who you wish he was or someone you think he should be. And be sure not to conform to what he thinks you should be. Learn who you are aside from him or anyone else. Make your choices based on what you want from life, not what someone else wants from you.

Good Luck,
James

don't be ill ... dump the chump

You have got to be kidding? If the guy cheats on you with your two friends. Dump the guy and the two friends.

you're under 18 years old and this guy has cheated on you with 2 friends.. that is enough said right there. get rid of him

Looks like you're in high school, dude you can find another one quick so forget his punk a** lol

Yes! Fuck this guy (not literally). If he's cheating then kick his ass to the curb. Trust me you'll feel better for it.

hav sex with his best mate that's what id do make sure its in frount of him aswell

Two (2) of your friends... he is a whoremonger.

wow...thats what you call a double douche bag! and hey at least you gained knowledge knowing that those 2 girls that were "friends" weren't even friends, they were sluts!

i would have dumbed him..broke his nose like I did my ex that cheated on me, and broke those other two bitches noses...i hate cheaters. and there is NO exception.

dude are you dumb kick him in the balls
and then ditch him and find a awesome guy who won't do this


derrrrr

he might cheat on you again...with your friends or other girls you don't know. Don't let him disrespect you like that!

dump him wtf he doesn't deserve u

Good for you. Those girls are fools for doing that. Now they lost you and look like skanks for what they did.

Do not give that boy another chance...
Not only did he disrespect you by cheating on you, but he did it with TWO girls...
and if he isn't telling you, then to him you're not worth the truth...
Do you really want a guy like that?

lol good! =)

yes you should.but idthink you should by text.thats the worst way to end a relationship

If you want a polygamous relationship, sure, try getting back together with him, but if you think that a relationship should be one on one, then don't.
After he grows up a bit and decides exactly what he wants with a relationship, then discuss it with him.

Don't give him another chance, show more respect for yourself. I think he got his 2nd chance when he cheated with not just one gal but two and your friends to top it all off. He's a total dog.

Every relationship has its ups and downs. There are two types of cheaters...the type that cheats during the times your relationship is in the dumps, and the type that cheats just whenever and with whomever when the urge strikes. Anyone that would cheat when the relationship is going well should not be given a second chance. That kind of guy is just your average cheater. The kind that cheat when times are hard are sometimes just more emotionally vulnerable, and they stray to find love when they feel like you don't love them. Those guys do deserve a second chance, but not a third, or fourth, or fifth...I happen to really like Dr. Phil, and something he said made a lot of sense...I once watched an episode where he told a guy who cheated that he had to be prepared to make up for it for the rest of his life if he really wanted to save his relationship...just make sure your boyfriend knows that.

I say dump him AND your two "friends".

Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. And more importantly I would question whether I would consider them my "friends". Real friends wouldn't do that. Run far, far away from all of them. You will be better off!

once a cheater always a cheater. I think that says everything. if you can deal with not trusting him again and questioning whohe is with, what he is doing for the rest of your life, then go back to him, if you can't then you'll have to let go and know there's someone just as amazing (minus the cheating part!) you will find.

HELL YAH! Why even is this a question in your mind? Those 3 are no good, you can do better than this...This guy don't love you, do not waste anymore time on him.

Dump him, once a cheater always a cheater!

Two friends is not an accident...it is a history of bad behavior! Feel free to give him a second chance but don't be surprised if he cheats again. What I want to know is why does he cheat with your friends? He can't find some girls you don't know. That is just so over the top slimy.

a. dump him and B. if they were your friends, they wouln't have hooked up with your boyfriend.

i think you have to check also your friends who say they care about you. what kind of friend is someone who has an adventure with your boyfriend?

and about your boyfriend. I think you should dump him, because he already cheated on you twice. if you forgive him, he will think he can do this to you as much as he wants, because you are going to forgive him.

this is what I think you should do. the world is full of nice guys. let this one, and create yourself the opportunity to meet the right one for you.

i couldn't forgive a guy if he cheated on me even once and it just shows he has a lack of respect for you. definitely go for someone who will be better. he'll only change when he's desperate or when he does it on his own. girls make the mistake they can change a guy. he'll only change if he decides to.