8 years ago I met a guy online who lived 12 hours away and we got to know one another and fell in love. We ended up seeing each other. Two months later we broke it off. But continued to talk as friends. He would tell me he loved me every-time we talked. Then a month later he met a girl he liked and started to see her. I was upset but I knew we weren't together so I continued to talk to him as just friends and when he would say goodbye he would still say he cared about me. I found out two weeks later he lied about being a virgin and I was upset because I was 17 at the time and dumb and let him sleep with me without a condom. So I stopped talking to him because I was upset. Well time passed and I met a great guy and became serious with him and was about to get married. Three months before I found out a mutual friend of ours was sick and I tracked him down through a friend and we started to reconnect with one another. Well I decided to visit him as friends because I missed him and once I got off that help it happened we kissed and yes I felt bad. But throughout the weekend all he did was look at me. One thing lead to another and we had sex. I got home and told my now ex about everything. I was a woman and owned up to my wrong doing. Well I decided to be with the guy I went to visit and we dated a total of six months. I kept breaking up with him because I got scared of getting hurt again. Until one day I got a text saying he can't be with someone who breaks up with him every week. I tried to contact him to explain my actions but no calls were returned. I have friend down where he lives so I decided I wanted to try to get closer from him and I went down there. He would see me but we talked and he lied saying he had a girl and asked why I came down without telling him. I explained I tried. Well when I got home he told a mutual friend that he lied about having a girl. He said he was single but he was trying to get me to stop. He said he didn't love me anymore but didn't hate me. He wouldn't see n my pics back either. He told that girl that I cheated on him and he knew I was lying but couldn't point in out. By now I was confused because I was faithful. Hell we talked about getting married eventually. I was going to move down with a yr because he wanted to see if we would work out. Well it's been 6 months and I text him to see how he is doing and he didn't write anything but a phone number. So I tried and it is his but he doesn't answer and when I text he doesn't text. I love him what should I do and my ex fianc and I are still living together and I have feelings for him but mine are stronger for the other.
Update: I texted him on the 1 st of feb and he texted back with just his number I texted him with. Since then I haven't heard anything
6 months ago
It sounds like neither you or this guy really know what you want, are you ready to ruin a good thing with your fiance over a guy who in the past has REPEATEDLY lied to you? I am the first person to say follow your heart but it sounds like if you get back with this guy then you're just setting yourself up for heartbreak. You say how much you love this man, but he doesn't even answer your calls. My advice is to let the fiance go to find someone who will love him SOLELY. If your heart can't commit to one man I seriously doubt that you are ready for marriage. It really sounds like maybe you should take a short little break from this whole situation and men in general to figure things out for yourself. I wish you all the best and remember if you are constantly chasing a man it's because he doesn't want to be caught.
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