I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. He's been through a lot including rehab, debt, and anger issues. I stuck it out with him this whole time and now that he's getting back on his feet and meeting people away of his old crew, he seems to be losing interest in me. He doesn't say nice things to me anymore or surprise me with anything, and if I ask for a little extra attention he tells me that I'm attacking him. I know I should break up with him, but everytime I try I come running back to him because I love him still. Help?!
Ask yourself, "What has he done for me lately?" You may be in love with the past rather than in love with him. Leaving is always tough, but if you fill your schedule with activities, time with friends, and go on dates with some new boys, you'll be just fine. If you start to get sad and heartbroken about leaving him, just remember how "bad" of a guy he really is.
I think you still feel like you love him because of everything that you have invested into this relationship. Talk to him and find out what is going on. He may just feel like you have been with him through so much that you know him to well. He is trying to start over and he may feel like you are a part of the life he was trying to get away from. So even though he may still love you, he is ashamed of his past anger issues. If he ever blew up on you he feels guilty every time he sees you. He has been through a lot but, it is no excuse to push you away. Let him know that things have been rough and you love him that is why you are still here. If his feelings have changed then make him be honest about that. You can't leave because you don't have closure on this. He has confused you and you can't leave without knowing why he has been doing what he is doing. Once you talk I am sure you will feel better about leaving.
I have been in your shoes girl and it hurts. I went out with this guy and he went through the same things. After he got better he didn't need me anymore. And I had to come to that conclusion. You deserve better and tell him the reason why you guys can't be together anymore. Don't be angry or try to get back at him. Just let it go. There is better out there.
If he isn't giving you the love you need you could find someone better. I know you love him but if he seems like he's losing interest. It's for the best if you split up. Afterwards, try finding someone to talk to so you can try to get over him, so this time you won't go running back to him.
Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I nice dinner date at a restaurant, be it steakhouse, Japanese hibachi or Italian. I would wear business casuals but nothing over the top and all cleaned up. We would talk about anything but I would do most of the listening to show I am focused on her. Afterwards, a nice drive around town for a few or a walk in the park if the weather is good. To end the date, I will never try to steal a kiss.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
A woman will know that I am a very honest and straightforward guy with a tremendous sense of humor. She will know that I am one of those nice guys that women have been looking for all this time yet have been here all along.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
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