i've met this guy and we've been dating/hanging out/hooking up with this guy for the past 4 weeks. I don't know what to call it. everything was going really well. last week I was away and when I came back on friday we hung out and then he went with me, my friends and a couple other people my friends know to the movie. I got the idea he didn't like them that much. after the movie we went back to my house and we hung out in my car for a bit and then he left. I had fun that night so just wrote on his Facebook wall saying I had fun.
up until that point we would always talk before 1 everyday. either he would text me or IM me. the next day he IMed me. then sunday he didn't text me or anything so I texted him and then that night we hung out. when we hung out we basically just hooked up and he wanted to finger me and I said no and then he wanted me to give him a handjob and I said no at first but then I did anyway. at first I was just teasing him and touching around his dick and then he told me that I'd better finish cause if I didn't it would be rude and annoying and that he never did that to me. when I got home he IMed me online and said how he missed me already and wished I didn't have to leave.
the next day I was going to the doctors because he found a lump on my breast and needed to get it checked out. he knew what time the appointment was and I never heard from him. so around 6ish I decided to just IM him. he told me he was in the city for interviews all day. he goes into the city a lot and usually texts me still if he is there. he knew how worried I was about the lump and never asked and I had to tell him "so I went to the doctors today" and then told him about it. later that night he IMed me and we talked for a bit but not long.
i don't understand it. was everything that happened the past 4 weeks just a hook up and now just wants to end things so is he just not talking as much to me? or was it something hanging out with my friends? I'm so confused.
Update: today I haven't heard from him at all.
8 months ago
It sounds to me like he wanted to get more physical than you are willing to let him get and when he realized it he's off to somewhere else. In the long run the best thing you can do is just be up front and ask him.
Tell him you like him and where things are going but you think they might be getting there faster than you want them to and ask what he thinks. If he plays around and doesn't give you a straight answer then he doesn't really want a relationship and really just wants sex. If he wants to be with you then he will be willing to slow down on the physical side of things.
It's entirely possible he just got caught up in a lot of things in the city, or he could be lying. Your best bet is just to be straight with him.
Well he new from the very beginning I was a virgin and I still am. I've given him a handjob so it's not like I haven't. I'm def going to talk to him and figure out where things are going.
and I know he could have got busy and caught up in the city but there is the lying thing that sticks out more and I always jump to conclusions but I'm going to talk to him next time I see him. - 8 months ago
Girl everything is fine. he is still responding to your text and stuff but just a little less than. Its not gonna always be the same. he just got busy but its not like he completely stop responding to you. And just because you haven't heard from him all day doesn't mean anything is wrong. Your jumping to conclusions so soon and you expect him to call you everyday and not change at all. he has a life just like I hope you do. Your not his girl. Your just a friends with benefits which means no commitment just hanging out talking sometimes and having fun later. That's what this is. I think your getting close to him and he may not feel the same way but think your cool. Talk to him about yalls status, ask him where he thinks this relationship is going. don't question y you haven't heard from him all day whether Girlfriend or not. Guys do not like clingy desperate girls. He is doing something. So chill out. if you want to call him, do it. No games on who should do it first or whatever. Send him a text like hi, thinking about you" if you haven't heard from him all day and leave it alone. He may not respond that day or hours later. Just keep yourself occupied not worrying about it. The man has not ignored you. Its just things slowed down a tad bit. You can be worry if you don't hear from him in 2 days or more.
I started working this week too so I've been busy and I know he has a life and has things to do but it's just even when he was busy he always texted me and there is always that well he could be lying I don't know and I jump to conclusions and worry too quickly. I feel like maybe he met someone else or something but I just don't know. I'm going to talk to him about what we are though and hope that helps.i'm not a clingy person but just since we met he has texted me everyday before a certain time - 8 months ago
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And it's been weird not to hear from him the past like 3 days before that time even though we ended up talking later which is fine. I'm very quick to jump to conclusions and I don't act clingy with him - 8 months ago
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I know how you feel cause right now a guy I been having a fwb's relationship with for 3 weeks, I haven't heard from in 2 days and it sucks cause its rude. Its not that I liked him a lot. he was cool and it was fun, I did nothing wrong and then he's all of a sudden quiet. We really do not know is what I am saying. - 8 months ago
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