This new guy at work is 35. I am 42. His job is IT, where he helps everyone...guys and girls. He comes over a lot to see how my new computer is working, and we strike up conversation a lot and joke around. I go chat with him also and we are getting to be friends. We talked about this great local brewery near our office and I asked if he wanted to go check it out one night after work. He agreed (very non threatening invite) and we had a great week of flirting, etc. About an hour before we were going to leave, he said he couldn't go, as his sister just had a baby and he had to go out there. He mentioned maybe going next week (Yes, he did leave right after that!!) so I don't think he was "trying to get out of it". I don't know if I should "remind" him this week, or see if he brings it up. I'm not an aggressive chick, but I'm not afraid to say "hey, did you want to reschedule"? But part of me is thinking that I should see if he gets the nerve (or balls) to initiate the offer. Only reason I'd offer to initiate is that he is new with the company (less than 1 month) and I've been there over 10 years...and am a senior person there. I know, I know....don't get involved with someone at work...but he's really cool, and if anything, it would be great to jump his bones...uh, I mean be his friend. Any suggestions are welcome. thanks
As a man who has been bitten by the sexual harassment snake, it is very difficult to ask a co-worker out these days. Just when a man thinks it is ok, WATCH OUT! By the time a man figures it out that a particular woman is dangerous, it is already too late. Loss of job, chances of a new job is impossible and his image is ruined. No wonder men get violent. But with no legal prostitution to fall back on, what is a man to do?
You should realize that he is not trying to make for a booty call(even though the fantasy might be in his head). There is an old Japanese saying: "If pushing does not work, try pulling".
No harassment issues here. He can tell I like him. I just want to know if his actions show that he likes me or is he just trying to be nice? This morning I saw him and he touched my shoulder when he said hi. Is that just friends or more? - 5 months ago
Um honestly. I have had things of this sort happen in the past. Usually if a person is canceling a date because they are "trying to get out of it" they won't mention " lets go out next week" they will just say " Um sorry I can't tonight".
Now the question you had about contacting him. Honestly. I don't think you should. If a guy is serious about it and wanting to go He will def. Follow up with that. You should never ever have to remind a guy to go out with you. I know its hard :) And I know the "wait" sucks. But a person never forgets things that are important to them. Never.
Now if he doesn't follow up. Then you can just jump his bones and he can be a booty call possibly? Haha.
I can't stop thinking about him and totally want him. Amazing how our minds become "desperate" for that level of attention. He put his hand on my shoulder saying "you're not bugging me" when he replied to my tech issue this morning. Is that "friends? " - 5 months ago
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Well I like to read body language a lot and poeple always naturally touch or tap someone they are drawn to so yeah that is a good thing..... - 5 months ago
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Thanks, you've helped a lot. Have a great week. rivka - 5 months ago
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