How do I screen guys so I don't end up with a guy who will use me?

I don't think the right guy would respond weirdly if you told him what you've been through.

He has probably been through something greatly similar.

To screen them is something that I feel has to come somewhat naturally.
A woman's intiution is right 99% of the time.
Thats your screening process.
Now your judgment may be clouded by wants and desires, but deep down you know from the start the intentions of a guy.

Take your time when you are liking a guy, because if he senses your feelings are too intense...Its Pimp or Die! So use patience when screening.

A friend of mine once told me that they preferred to be completely honest from the beginning. Don't be afraid to say whats on your mind.

Oh yeah don't have sex with them. Sex only complicates everything.


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

Remember the fable of the tortoise and the hare? Slow and steady wins the race! Everyone has their heart broken - it sets you up for life!

It sounds to me like perhaps you're not in a place where you should be seeking a relationship. Spend time with friends, get confident, get happy - easier said than done I know but spending time with good, strong people will only make you feel strong!

Not all men treat women like dirt, there are some fab guys out there. Unfortunately there isn't a "screening" process - if you find one please share it with all of man and woman-kind. The best bet is to become friends and maintain that friendship before you move on to the next level.

A happy woman won't let a man treat her badly and an unhappy woman attracts that sort of man.

I would steer clear of telling new guys you meet about your past experiences straight away. Get to know them, earn one another trust.

-take a long time before you have sex (6+ months?)
-always respect yourself. people use weak people
-be respectable

No matter what you do, girl, guys will still use you if that's there plan. I would just start off as friends and get to know him

Sometimes there is no telling - the one that you think is most perfect can turn around and cheat. There realy is no way to tell upfront.

Get to know more about him and talk to some of his ex girlfriends, if you know any, to see what he was like to them.

Well maybe you should get to know him for a while about amonth and get to know the real him, be honest and open with him. See how he feels about stuff and getting his heart broke. Just get to know him first that all you gotta do and if he seems like he will treat you good and not be a jackass then go for it. There are a lot more heart breaks to go but remember you get stronger and you grow from it.