Meeting someone from Craigslist--Thoughts?

Next year? That seems a bit... uh... long? Frankly, if he's just asking to meet up for coffee that's not too bad. Just make sure it's in the middle of the day, at a reputable place that you choose- say, a Starbucks or a Panera in town. Chat, see if he's attractive, talk some. Nothing much to be afraid of. If you haven't picked up any creepy vibes, you'd know more than any of us (the peanut gallery) because you're the only one who really knows precisely what he's written to you. Sometimes we have to get a little out of our comfort zones to get what we want.

I've communicated with someone about four years younger than I am over e-mail for approximately seven years now and we still haven't met- we're wonderful penpals, but we like to entertain the possibility of visiting each other at some point, maybe going ice skating. We've gotten really close- so yeah, don't really rush things. Keep things at a penpal stage until you feel like you really need to talk to him about something. Try not to make it sexual at all. Sex complicates things. Let any possible sexual feelings grow in person, otherwise you arrive with expectations. This is coming from someone who used to strip online for money and stupidly would make dates based on that. They never went anywhere- they wanted sex right off the bat and I wanted to get to know them more.

my sister and now brother in law met on the internet, it can be better at meeting someone perfect for you because there are so many people on it that there must be something that stands out from the croud. I think you should meet him but like everyone else says just be carefull meet him in a shopping centre or somethin like that then you could go to the cinema and get some diner or something.

as much communication as possible before meeting, solid social tags such as where he lives etc[know it don't go there], meet with friends and pull that sh*t 3 times before anything funky. be safegirl. if he's cool hell be cool. if not value the experience drop his arse and move on to more experiences.

one way trip to rapeville in a old white van with no windows that's not smart to see this guy you have no idea who he really is and if he's going threw the internet on craigslist at that to find a girl he proably has problems raigslist is proably the worst place on the internet to meet someone threw

Bad Call.

Very dangerous and even more dangerous than meeting someone from yahoo or even on here on Girls ask guys.

Your best bet is to try talking to him on webcam or another instant message system. Try to get a good idea that he's legit. Don't meet this man over a few emails.

If you disscussed being a virgin, I would seriously consider this guy a creep who's only looking to change that for you. My advice: carry mace and a rape whistle...or a knife. For your sake I'd hope he's as nice as you seem to think he is but with the internet it's very easy to find people wanting to take advantage of you.

Good luck

Best be careful

Maybe he is a poor lonely bastard whos just throwing a bunch of lies in your face? maybe he is a perv and just want to hurt you?

...Or maybe he just want someone to talk to you because he is lonely?
Maybe he is seriously interested and likes you by all this time you've "learned" to know each other.

You need to find out how real that guy is, have you ever seen each other?
If you want to, and if you're both ready you can use webcam while chatting with each other, if that would help you to get more trust.

If/when you are going to meet him, be sure to meet on a safe place.
Just be careful.
Btw...I hope it's gonna be okay. ;)

A person can pretend to be anybody they want to be on the internet that they feel appeals to someone else. He may seem real and genuine to you, but the internet is more than just a dangerous place now. He maybe, yes, but again, he may just be somebody sitting behind a keyboard masquerading as a knight in shining armor, so be careful. It's just best to air on the side of caution. Good luck.

He's got time invested. The most annoying thing about "moving on to someone new" is making the initial connection. Then, you've got to spend time getting to know if the connection is even real. From a guy perspective, you're the focus of his romantic energy - an idealized photograph in his mind - the details about you are less relevant than the image he has of you. In my experience, and I've done lots and lots of flirting through chats, there's absolutely no substitute for the real thing. To focus romantic energies in the absence of RL contact is a day dream. If you want to enjoy that day dream, that's fine. But know that when you shift from the chats to RL, it's like starting over.

Sounds like you're being played to me, but he may not really even realize it - he may like you and the challenge - which is totally human. But really, you can't actually get to know someone via email or chats. You can get an idea of what they are like, but until you are around them directly, your brain fills in the gaps with exactly what you would want.

I don't believe that meeting someone on the internet is very safe...

Beware of creepers.

THATS A FUTURE RAPE.
Dont do it!

I have met men from online sites. I do what you did, verify their identity other ways. Then, I meet them in a public place and I continue to meet them in public places, not my place or theirs. I also give a friend or family member info on the guy and I let him know, in a subtle way, that my family always knows who I am dating. Then I do what I would have done no matter how I met them, I take my time getting to know them.

In the end you need to decide whether you are comfortable with this process or not. I think you are more uncomfortable with it than you need be. It doesn't matter how you met a guy, he could be up to just trying to get some or he could be sincere. The only way to find out is meeting him face to face and taking your time. It isn't that big of a deal if you do it safely, which you already are. Also, who cares if you don't have much experience. We all started somewhere, and one day you won't be able to say that. It doesn't matter, let it go. You already want to take it slowly with him so you won't be jumping into bed anyways.

I think waiting to meet 3 months or next year is unrealistic and perhaps you are just not ready to meet anyone, and that is okay. But there is no substitute for getting to know someone like facetime.

Def be careful I have heard so much crap about craigs list. There was a guy who was wanted for murder and rape of 3 women off of there! its just me but I wouldn't ever meet anyone offa the net but just use your best judgement

i think you should just chat for a little while more as you plan to do and if you still think you may want to meet him then do your not stupid everyone knows about internet safety and as long as you follow it , it should be fine! I don't think he see's you as a challenge or that he wants up as put it 'hit it and leave' like why would he waste that much time and put in so much effort in his emails just to do you when he could just go out and find a randomer he obviously likes you and you like him so as long as your carefull I don't see why you two shouldnt meet. it's better to know then to go on and never find out if it worked out between the two of you like if it dosen't it dosen't but at least you know!
i just met a boy that I had been talking to for 6 months online and it went really well even though we're not going to end up having a relationship or anything out of it because we live so far apart but I now know what I was missing out on! I do think the webcam thing is a brillant idea though I honestly don't think I could have met my friend if we hadn't done it it just kinda seems to make things easier I suppose! so don't worry no boy is going to write 4000 word emails if there not into the girl! hope everything works out for you! have fun and be carefull!

didnt you read the newspaper about the craigslist killer. they met on craigslist then they went on a date and he ended up mudering the other guy. internet dating is dangerous. I suggest you can just be internet friends. I don't think you should lose your virginity to someone you haven't even seen in person before. just wait to you meet someone in real life.

it sounds like you're making excuses for him...and yourself to make it okay.
some people find love online, so go for it if you want.
and if it doesn't work out, well...move on and find someone else.

but be careful. craigslist is scandalous.
fyi.

Guys totally can and will spend time writing without intending to date. I call it an E-relationship. They will just e-mail, text and IM to their heart's content without really ramping it up to anything else. Be careful to not respond or get in to the sexual communication. Some men really enjoy seeing how far they can get in their conversations and no serious relationship will come from a bunch of discussions of sex, though a little cute flirting is fine.

I think it is good that you are taking it slow. You two should find a way to start exchanging pictures so you can see if he is who he is saying he is. I have definitely heard of married men using online dating to fool around as well as guy's completely misrepresenting themselves and when you meet you will be shocked. Also, people can be so super communicative in e-mail and be very different when you talk on the phone or meet, so at some point before you get to meeting, you need to start talking on the phone. You can learn a lot about someone when they don't have time to plan out their responses on e-mail.

In the end, the only way you will know his real intentions is when you do finally get to meeting him. Online "relationships" can lead to a lot of disappointment but they still are of value, you just have to have your head on straight, do not be a romantic, until the day you meet and you really get to know the real him.

I have a feeling criaglist people are kinda sketchy. I would be really careful if I were you.

If your a virgin you might feel intimidated by him.

I lost my virginity to some guy I met off the internet too. He seems perfect, like the man You describe above...then HE never called me again. not a single word.

So just watch out. GUYS are awesome at charming girls and Virgin Girls are seen as prizes to some really douche baggy guys.

online dating is dangerous.

if a guy brings up sex before you even meet him, you can trust that that is solely what he is after. a guy who wants the relationship to be based on personalities and interests won't even bring sex up for fear of scaring a girl off! when you told him that you were a virgin, you put a target on your ass.