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Is it fair to him...to me?

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holder1396 (Age:18 to 24) When: 6 months ago

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There is this guy who likes me and has for about a year now and we are really good friends but that isn't good enough. I have tried saying I just want to be friends but that isn't going over well with him he keeps asking me to try. Well honestly I don't think I like anyone but I'm not really sure I mean I like being around him and talking to him and stuff but I'm not sure if it means I like him because I don't really think of it any different than I do when talking to any of my other friends. He is not really possessive but for lack of a better word I will use that word but pretty much if there is another guy around me he puts his arm around me of holds my hand I guess just to make sure they know he has dibbs or whatever it really doesn't bother me what bothers me is I keep on hurting his feelings by not knowing. I don't think it would be right for me to "just try it" and I have told him this but he says he wouldn't care but I think he would. Either in the long run or soon because it wouldn't really be the same would it...? Should I try to go out with him and see if I develop the same feeling he has for me or should I just continue doing what I am and saying I just want to be friends? ?


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jerseyse410 When: 6 months ago

I'm in this situation as a guy liking a girl and she considers me her best friend but I hate it. It hurts so much but whenever I try to leave and just rid myself of the situation we end up missing each other terribly. She doesn't want me romantically but wants me as a friend and I want her romantically and it just sucks. There isn't a real answer for this, if you want him around then try to explain things but 10 to 1 he's hurting and insecure.

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Thanks for answering I'm sorry about your situation you being on the other end and all.i know its bad and I feel bad, he even gets asked out a lot but he says no and when I ask him why he said he just said me duh and I feel really awful..and yeah he does feel hurt and all he told our mutual friend. He has also ignored me for like a week like you said you tried but I told him I missed him do you think that hurt him more since I missed him but didn't want to date him? Should I just leave him alone? - 6 months ago

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Thats the way it happened with us, I've actually tried leaving a few times but one of us ends up texting or emailing the other and saying we miss each other. I was a wreck when we were apart and not talking for a few days and I was really lonely but it was calming in a way. No it didn't hurt him more since you missed him, it would have hurt a lot more if it came across as you didn't care. He won't move on unless you just leave him alone. Not saying you should though, only you know what to do her - 6 months ago

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