I started dating a guy last fall who broke up with me after a couple of months telling me that he liked me but just didn't think I was the one for him. While I felt hurt, I certainly appreciated his honesty and moved on. A few months went by without any contact. He ended up contacting me and asked if I would want to start dating again claiming that he believed that the reason he did not have strong feelings last time was about the timing. I told him I was pretty hesitant because he seemed pretty clear that I was not the right person for him last time we dated but gave him the benefit of the doubt and agreed to go out again. It's been about 6 weeks now and those doubts that I have had not gone away. While I believe this guy likes hanging out with me I don't gather that he is that into me. I have been in a number of relationships and can guage when a guy really likes me. I am not really in a place in my life to wait things out and see where they go however all my friends keep telling me to wait and just enjoy it. I am having a hard time because of what seems like a lack of interest. I just assume end it and save some fact and spend the time I am spending with him with my friends or doing other things but I do really like him and a part of me wants to believe that something will change. I am not sure at this point what to do. Any suggestions?
It sounds like you've already come to a conclusion, and I think it's the right one. If you're not feeling it this time around, then it's probably a good idea to get out before both of you waste too much time.
It's tough to do, but I think it's the best decision in the end.
It's too early to make or jump to conclusions. You are the only and the best one to be able to judge if he is into you so much or not. So it's good that you realize the fact. However, as your friends say, give a little more time without making him feel like he needs to show more interest or he needs to show more commitment.
Your friends tell you to just "enjoy" it but it doesn't sound like an enjoyable experience. A guy friend once told me that if a person is not sure whether another person likes them, chances are, he/she doesn't. That was the best advice I ever got.
The early part of a relationship is supposed to be the courtship period, the moments when a man tries to win over a woman that he likes by being affectionate and making sure that she knows he's into her. Anything else and I feel like a woman is being shortchanged.
You aren't sure whether he's interested enough, whether he's attentive enough, and it sounds like you don't want to wait. The fact that he left and came back would send off red signals to me. I think you should follow your insticts. There are so many guys out there!
Schwildcat
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
If you are that unsure the best thing to do would be to talk to him. Make sure he understands how you feel and see if his actions change any. If he still seems uninterested and has done nothing to try to reasure you, then it may be best to end it.
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