I was just wondering, because I've had this happen to me. I dated a girl for a short period of time that I was crazy about, but there was just something there that told me that she didn't feel the same. I know she was still hung up on her ex, but I figured she might be over him enough to start moving on.
I thought we hit it off nicely, talking all the time, flirting, always wanting to see each other, etc. I could tell she wasn't ready for a relationship yet and wasn't going to be for a while, but yet, she was still dating me.
So, my question here is, have you ever dated someone that you knew you weren't going to want to be with? I also want to know why you dated them, if you knew that you didn't want to be with them later on. I know one of the obvious answers, at least mostly for the guys, would be sex. I don't want to hear that reason, since that's obvious that people do that, but I want to know different reasons. So, let me know why you've dated someone that you knew you weren't going to be with later on.
I think most people date hoping it would turn into something more. They enter the dating scene with that mindset, thinking about the future and what could possibly be. But it doesn`t necessarly mean it will continue on that far. Some people date for 5 years and break up because it`s not working out. Or gets a divorce after being married for 3 years. Some people get married after dating for 2 weeks! Some people realize sooner than others, and some take years to realize it`s not working.
The more time you spend with a person, the more you learn about them, and yourself. And that is what affects the way you see your future with that person. And depending on how it affects you, affects the relationship as well.
There`s no point in continuing a relationship or "dating" if you know it`s not going to work out for you or for the ther person. But just because it ends doesn`t mean they weren`t thinking about the future when they entered the relationship.
I've been in a relationship with someone who I know I won't be with in the future, mainly because I had hope that I might just change my thoughts one day and that things would eventually work out and problems will be fixed.
But, realistically: Problems are never fixed when we can't or are not given the opportunity to discuss them when we are given doubts and have been through a lot of bad experiences. Therefore my thoughts will never change and therefore will not be able to be with that person, which of course was a huge shame as we got along perfectly when there were no problems to consider.
No matter how crazy you are about a person sometimes you hang on because of hope, your logic tells you you're not going to be with them in future, but your heart can still have hope because you love them and you will try that chance - Not necessarily to fulfill any needs or desires.
I have. It was fun for the moment and for past time. Once it ends, you feel a little sad/lonely.. until you meet someone else or you use ur time hanging otu with friends, school, work, etc. =)
I would have, at least, high hopes that I would be with the girl I was dating far into the future. I would want to feel that spark, and know she felt it as well, elsewise, there really wouldn't be any chemistry there, and the relationship likely wouldn't last very long.
I would never continue to date someone or talk to someone if I didn't feel there was at least some chance of getting together in the future. It seems like a waste of time to date someone when I know it just isn't going to work.
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