He made it clear that he respected me, and adored the fact that I have never smoked, drank and so on, when he does, and he thought that was cool that I have the will power to be my own person, and he's even told me that I was beautiful, complimented me on my hair/make up/what I was wearing, etc. But after a while we started growing apart, and now we don't even talk. I felt like a bond was growing between us, we were friends, and I started trusting him more and more, and him with me. But for some reason he doesn't want to talk to me any more. He never said he liked me up front, but he was showing pretty strong signs. Like leaning into me when he's sitting in front of me to the point where our knees touch, and if he was sitting beside me, our shoulders would touch, and whenever we would talk in person, he'd stare at me, dead in the eyes, without even blinking, with a partial smile on his face, his voice is also very calm and low when he talks to me, he only does this with me and no one else. He's so sweet, and I don't want to lose him for good. I feel like he hates me, because I've tried saying hi online, and he just ignores me, when I know he's there.
How can I get him to notice me again? He recently got a new girlfriend, but she's a partier, does drugs, smokes, complete opposite of me, and every time he gets a new girlfriend, the longest the relationship lasts is like 8 months to a year, then he breaks up with them, because of something stupid they did, or they hurt him by cheating on him.
He's actually never dated a straight edge girl before. Why won't he at least, just tell me that he wanted to date me up front instead of leaving these hints, playing games with me, and breaking my heart in the process?
I want to tell him, so bad, how much I care about him, but I know I'm going to get hurt, especially since he recently got a new girlfriend. It just feels awful holding everything inside, I feel like I'm going to go crazy if I don't tell him. But I'm so shy.
Ok this is really hard to parse but this sounds like the age old guy move of "I respect your theory but not your application".
Here's the jist of it, guys like girls that don't overly party, don't sleep around, are clean, respectful honest and such but not to an extreeme and expescially not when in private.
I know it sounds contradictory but guys want you to be good with everyone but him. He wants you to choose him to be the one to drink with, the one to kiss, the one to sleep with.
It's an old saying but guys want a good girl on their arms and a bad girl on their waist. This sounds like an extension of that.
You want to turn this around you need to re-examine the straight edge policy. I am not saying change your views just realize that there is a healthy balance and once you figure that out then your going to have luck with guys that are not also straight edge. If you want to get his atention ask him out to drink some time he will be shocked I bet and you might be amazed how fast he comes back around since I bet he figured you were a dead end but liked you. That conflict was driving him mad and he just had to end it to not take it out on you.
k it sounds like he is very immatyre cause I've been partying and selling drugs from coke to herb to pills for a long time I eat massive amounts of pain meds and drink syrupp all day and constantly smoke but whether the girl smoked or parting mattering as long as if she didn't she didn't try me about it all the time I would not give a f*** infact I usually like the straight edge girls cause the ones who party usually cheat lie and steal and just want drugs or money so I've always like my girl not to party so to me it sounds like this guy is still young doesn't know what he wants and if he had half a brain the way you talk bout it I would have already talked to you not the party girl I have know idea why he would say you're beutiful if he has no intentions to show you how much he liked you trust me guys don't usually just tell girls they are beautiful a lot of guys say ohh you lookin sexy but not beautiful or georgeos either of those if I say to a girl yo ubet you're ass I'm interested but this is just me he might be like stringing you along I would say find a guy who does want you but if you really like him you need to confront him worst case is you get embaressed he is not gonna know you care from just some little flirting so he won't confront you if he has feeling cause he doesn't want to get hurt either why he didn't do it upfront and tell you is because everybody can't be grown ups they have to play games I agree its a waste of time but without them where would the fun be in finding that special someone and you will get hurt finding someone but you'll never find them if you never open up and don't take chances hope I helped if I kinda said something and then switched subjects just ask and ill answer
WOW!but yea I think you should just tell him nd since you guys dnt talk much you wnt feel that embaraced after actually you will feel relieved. Nd its nice to b a good girl but have sum fun sumtimes I'm not sayin go get wasted nd do drugs. heck no! I'm just sayin guys like it wen you surprise dem by going out of ur safe zone in ur case being a good girl. lol
I would suggest why don't you let your feelings known to him. BUT I know he might reject you.. I strongly feel the guy sounds immature and doesn't know what is right and wrong OR maybe he knows it but now that he has found out your not a party girl and into drugs and stuff. HE doesn't want to spoil you. I would say one way thank him for loosing interest in you.
wel the best advice I can give you is ...keep him away from you for sometime. Don't text him or anything , ignore him . give it sometime...then after some months you can begin talking or texting him.
Ok...I know you really care for him and love him. I know you are finding it difficult to take and advice from someone when they tell you to forget and ignore him. okay then what advice then would you give your self.
i would say follow your heart . if you care for him then continue to be friends with him. as well as be ready to feel the pain of rejection. I am in the same situation as you are but my story is diff. I thought maybe letting you know this , will help you. - 2 months ago
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