Sometimes I am truly baffled at my single-state-of-affairs. I have dated only one guy (lasted about a month) - we are still great friends and talk all the time. The break-up was mutual and we both decided that our friendship was worth holding on to (and that was about 3 summers ago). He has girlfriend now and they have been dating for about 2 years, she is wonderful and I think they make a great couple.
I consider myself to be a positive, hardworking, intelligent, stable, and mature person. I am the girl in the group of friends everyone goes to for honest advice, a shoulder to cry on etc. The problem is, I haven't met a single guy who has been interested in me. Neither at work or school. My university is very large with big classes (and lots of independent work) and it is not very conducive to meeting other people. Secondly, I don't live on campus because I live in the city I go to school in and as such are still living with my parents (and personally don't mind it to much). Usually when I am not at school or doing homework I am at work (another place where one could potential meet someone - but, no it hasn't happened to me yet! ) or volunteering for causes I believe in (i.e. Unicef). When I go out with friends I am usually the one chatting up a storm, dancing. And I have often be told that I really fun to hang out with because my energy and positivity. I dress fairly well (think Gap) and I consider myself fairly attractive (for example I am not overweight). When people asking me if I am dating anyone and reply with a 'no' they always asking if I am worried that I am single and not in a serious relationship considering my age (22). I always reply with well if it happens it happens --- you cannot force those kinds of things. All my friends are basically 'coupled' up and hang out with other couples, so I don't see meeting too many single people through them.
I plan to travel a bit after I am done with school, or maybe work/volunteer abroad. Hopefully I meet someone then. But, I wonder if I have terrible luck. I am even thinking of joining one those dating sites (Eharmony), but at the same time I do not trust internet dating.
. Anyways, those of you who are in a relationship. How did you meet your significant other? Any tips for someone like me?
Internet dating sites don't really work too well; at least not in my experience. Some sites will control all of the match making themselves, which stinks because you never get to communicate directly with people or browse the members. Other sites have a lot of fake profiles that want you to visit them on sites other than the dating service you are using (a lot of these profiles are written well and have very alluring pictures, usually of a model).
If you do end up trying one of them out, don't make any large financial commitment to them. Try the smallest amount of time possible as a trial-run.
Your not forcing anything like you said you're on the other side of that. I believe you should attempt or try a little harder if your not already giving effort. Try to find hobbies that involve other people like joining a gym or whatever you like doing. Good luck!
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