So where do you cut off your 'standards'?

If I really care for her, and she doesn't fit perfectly into my preferences, I found that my preferences seem to change to suit her... its weird, I have no clue how that works.

I think the only time I put a "cut off" point, is when something about her totally turns me off and I am unable to look pass it.

the biggest and most important standard I've got for women; don't be a whore.

Height, weight, and a lot of factors are utterly negotiable. Every time I try to say "I like only X type of girl," the universe conspires to throw somebody into my environment that totally contradicts everything I just decided, and is yet somehow totally hot. So I try not to make grand pronouncements anymore because I just look stupid. :)

About the only hard cut-offs for me would be:
* totally asexual (because, what's the point? "Friend" and "girlfriend" are different things.)
* completely unintelligent (because even bunny sex eventually ends, and OMG then what? :D )
* smokes (because I'd like to kiss that mouth, and gagging in the process might distract me.)

Everything else is case-by-case.

5'2 to 5'6 ( see I'm only 5'8 so if she's wearin heels and is taller than me that's a no go)
i prefere the athletic build (but I don't mind a soft chick either)
intelligence/humor (I hate stupidity... and you can't have fun with someone who's dull)
i'm all over the board... I love comedy and I don't care if people are laughing at me or with me
as long as they're laughing
eyes/teeth(pretty almond shaped eyes with a beautiful smile)
as previously stated... intelligence is paramount haha
a little bit of both... communication is key... cause if you don't know what a person likes you can't give it to them and if you don't give it to them they'll find it somewhere else

This can really vary from male to male. From my experiences, the first thing that catches the eye is the face, for me that would be one that exudes peace and grace. After the face, the body is passively taken into consideration over some time. Height, weight, general physical features are found attractive by different men depending on (usually subconscious) preferences. Intelligence and personality are the most important things to me, but attractiveness in physical form is also very important (just not the most important).

If men are looking for women on the foundation of sexual desire, then they are being self-seeking, shallow pigs. Of course sex is important, but that is something that should be shared with someone who fulfills all other parts of you as a mate (intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, etc.). Men can override their original aesthetic preferences if they care about a woman enough. Actually, I've found that as they are around and care more for a woman, their preferences shift completely to find that woman extremely beautiful. Physical attraction is a catalyst to a relationship, but it isn't the substance of it.

Ultimately, even if many man are completely unaware, or won't admit it, they want a woman in their life that they can consider their confidant, their best friend, a right hand, someone who cares for their wellbeing and estate, and desires their success. Beauty preferences will be sacrificed (initially, but in time will simply reconstruct itself in the womans favor) by a rational man who knows a good woman.


-Count D.

well I don't have a set type eg blone 5'5 100lbs green eyes...i will date anyone from 4'8" to 6'8" 100lbs to 200lbs but the first meeting is all about chemstry - animal attraction. Only once this connection has been formed will I (or anyone) start to get to know the personality / intelligence.

If a guy is just looking to get laid, it is almost entirely physical but then the standards will be lower than looking for a girlfriend.

You know, it really does not matter where the other person cuts off their standards.

What matters is whether you accept their standards or not.

Think about that for a good 10 minutes and I promise you will be a different person.

height I'm 6'2 so I don't care
weight Everyone likes a hot bod, but over wieght does not bother me to much, fat and obese does
personality If there funny and playful like me, that is great.
sense of humor Just someone who laugh easily.
looks That's a hard one to define. A friendly face with energetic eyes, (I know that does not make to much sense but it is hard to define for me)
intelligence If they have some wit and charm it would be nice. If you can't hold a intelligent conversation with someone is does not bode well for anything to serious.
sexual Once I get to know you, aha. Someone who can really enjoy it and get into it

height - under 5'8 but over 5'4
weight- don't care, better not be skin and bones, so ill take a few extra pounds you no
persoantliy- be funny, have fun, be cool and laid back and don't take yourself so f***in seriously and dotn bitch at me for every little thing f***
sense of humor- laugh at my jokes that is sencre you no, no fake laughs, I hate that, if you can't tell me jokes, please make me smile
looks- just a good face, ill notice a good face before anything else, I'm a breast man my self
intellegence- be smart but don't be a condecending douchebag about it, don't talk down to me, but please be smart above anything else, say something intresting please don't bore me and be stupid
sexual- when I'm in the mood :)

i like my gurls shorter than me. she would have to be extremely sexy for me to be with a chick my height. I'm 6'3. I like chicks thick! small waist thick thighs phat booties (kanye's gurl). love straight long hair. hate short hair. nice soft skin, and very feminine. and she most get all my jokes haha she can't be stupid because I play on witty humor with social references. and she must be very sexual! down for whatever just no anal AT ALL. or anything weird. and she has to be down to wait till she is married.

All guys have different standards. My personal standards:
Height: a girl taller is a massive turn off for me lol. Mostly because my sisters use to always tower over me.

Weight: A girl that I can see the ribs makes me sick lol. As for being "extra loving" a thick girl is perfectly fine to me. It's generally when the girl walks that the floor shakes that I cut it off ;D. A chubby girl is about right for me.

Personality: Generally a positive, nice, and funny girl. I love any kind of humor!

Looks: Hair color or size doesn't matter (I do however find long hair attractive), eye color also doesn't matter (however I do love clear eyes), having ALL front teeth lol, (don't ask why, but when I see a girls smile and she's missing teeth I cringe) lips don't matter, scars don't matter, ears don't matter, cheeks don't matter, and neck doesn't matter.

Intelligence: Close or more intelligent than me. A girl with a low intelligence makes me feel guilty and I'm one of those rare guys that doesn't mind the woman being right all the time.

Sexual: I love a girl who's openly sexual. It sucks when you're with a girl and she's scared to do or say anything in bed. The best sex I ever had was when she told me everything to do. Take it from me ladies a guy wants to know what you like. (as long as the affinity isn't toward pain or castration. Of course some guys like pain though.)

Everything is a key factor, in a relationship. looks fade but personality can make up for it. 0 - 4 size is what guys find hot (80% of males) because society built that image of females. Plus a well toned female can keep up in the bed room. emotional and physical I look for

-Height is not a big concern. Although I've never been with a girl my height and think I might enjoy it.
-weight, there is a limit (per my standards). a chubby tummy doesn't bother me, but if you look like you're pregnant when you really not can be too akward. And can make intimacy even unfomfortable (and this is speaking from experience).
-personality is everything, and can make all the rest irrelevant. a light-hearted, fun-loving, girl who loves to be happy and smile can really lift the spirits
-looks (face), is a big deal as well. well groomed, if you need make up use it (some girls honestly don't need any, and some wear way too much), but much of it's in the eyes. the eyes are like a window to the soul.
-intelligence is a must. the ability to sit back with a woman and have a conversation that we can both keep up with each other can be so exhilerating (converstaion can be about anything from dumb subjects to politics).
-Sexuality, well honestly I do enjoy a girl who likes to talk dirty but also enjoy getting down to it. My main thing (personally) is that there is flirtation and intimacy.

Hope this helps...

First off, you must realize that this question will only ever apply to each man seperately as there are no general standards for all guys.

My preferences are as follows:

Height - don't care at all.

Weight - I much prfeer a skinny girl with nice hips and at least some breasts of some kind, but if I loved someone or just really thought they were amazing I would let it slide.

Personality - good tempered, modest, easy going, intelligent, someone pleasant to be around.

Humor - I like clever humor rather than laugh at anything stupid silly humor.

Face - large eyes, either level or slanting outer-side down a little, any colour can be great. Soft lips, not too thin, not huge. noses are hard to say, different ones each add their own strong sense of character. it is a little much to go into bone structure.

intelligence - as I said, very important. I would have sex with a girl who wasn't smart, but I wouldn't date her. sounds harsh, but I can't be around some dumb girl all the time, how could I ever spend time with her? real good guys want intelligence, TRUST ME. if they don't care then they are jerks who just want the sex.

sexual - I'm into all kinds of stuff sex wise. I like when we talk sexy, I like all sorts of physical stuff, whatever happens to turn on each guy is different. role playing is fun. I like pretending she is a little school girl and I am her teacher for something and she gets naughty and tries giving me a blowjob for her first time and she pretends she doesn;t know what she is doing and just experimenting. wow, really turns me on. girls think that if they are unexperienced they look stupid but trust me, it is a huge turn on to have a girl play with you penis like it was the first time she ever explored one.

ask me anything else if you want.

I don't really have a standard like "oh she's gotta be at least this tall or she can't weigh more than this many pounds."

As long as I find her attractive in some way (looks, personality, whole package), I would be interested in pursuing further.

If a girl or guy goes through life with standards that are far to elaborate...he/she is not willing to ever accept the imperfections that makes everyone unique.

If 'standards' apply to looks then the person is shallow.

There is nothing wrong with being a little shallow, we all need to feel good about out partners and choosing based on attraction is always shallow, but I recommend it. Its only negitively shallow when we already had a partner we are seriously into but a person gets "greedy" and wants someone else just because they look better, are younger, richer or whatever floats your boat as the saying goes.

Its a deal breaker if a woman is shallow in the second sense. Its no problem in the first sense.

Tall is good, 5'9 minimum.
Thin is good, but not "skinny" (this only matters at first, all women become overweight eventually).
Care and love in the personality.
I like a girl that can joke and I love the girl that knows when to make me laugh (i'm thinking of her right now, just like every day).
A thin, long and kind face (eyes and lips very important, looks wise).
Inteligent very, very, very vital (though I am lead to believe most men follow their lower regions like a lamb).
Don't trust any girl who is too obviously sexually aware.

Curiousity satisfied :).

Height: Above 5'-1" I'm tall, so no upper limits.
Weight: Curvy like a woman should be is good, but never never FAT or to Skinny with no tone.
Personality: Likes to have fun but it not a flake.
Humor - goes with the fun.
Looks -- Face, breasts, Hips, Legs -- they all count. If you are very strong in one area, it can make up for weakness in another.
Intelligence - depends. Not necessary, but can be good if it ads to fun & fortune. Not a priority, except for insecure guys who can't find other intelligent people to associate with.
Sexual - talk with action is good. A girl that is a slut, but only for you and/or for what you like, is the best.

1. I'm 6'3'' so in my standards she should be at least 5'5'' or 5'6''. Anything taller than that is good
2. If I want to be with her just for the night, she has to be thin, but if I'm thinking serious business, then I don't mind some 'extra love' as you say. As long she is not really way to fat
3. First thing I notice is is she easy to talk to. For me that is very important. If she is easy to talk to, then conversation is never boring even if we disagree most of the times. Of course, that about some important issues we have to have similar oppinion
4. As long as she has a sense of humor, its good
5. Eyes. Don't really know why
6. Intelligence is important if (as I said in the 2. answer) I'm thinking serious business. If its a one night stand, then less brain is actually a good thing. But ONLY in that case
7. Any guy would rather be physical, but it depends on guys level of emotions for the girl. If he loves her, then he is willing to wait and just talk about it as long as it takes. If he doesn't care, there is no talk that will keep him there with her if there is no action

1. My height or shorter than me is perfect.
2. I'm most attracted to girls within a normal weight range.
3. An easygoing, lighthearted personality will get me every time. Good conversations with comfortable non-awkward silences. Responsive to my flirting (while dating) and my affection (once in a relationship).
4. I like ironic humor and intelligent comedy. I love it when I can make a girl laugh, and I hate it when I can't.
5. It's hard to pin down the kind of face I find most attractive; I guess I gravitate towards girls with soft, rounded and youthful facial features, and sometimes girls who are more "exotic" looking.
6. I'd get along just fine with a girl of normal intelligence who I can occasionally talk to about very deep intellectual subjects.
7. I'd appreciate a few hints, physical and verbal, thrown my way. Nothing too brash or forward, but something that I, as a laid-back and kinda shy guy, might feel comfortable to responding to in kind.

Height:
Don't care. Unless you got dwarfism, maybe.

Weight:
Anorexic or Overweight. A natural middle, a little tummy is fine.

Personality:
Demanding, bossy, bitchy. Anything else I would probably help her change.

Sense of Humour:
Doesn't really matter unless she's a brick wall.

Looks:
Doesn't matter a lot but a nice round booty sells it. A pretty face gets me staring.

Intelligence:
I'm sure most guys do want to get laid. But I'd want someone who I can have an educated conversation with. I don't want to talk about how much you or this guy got hammered last night 24/7.

Sexual: It doesn't matter to me, just be open with your feelings.

height: Some guys are intimidated by a taller girl but not me. I've been with girls who have been from four to five inches taller me and had the time of my life.

weight: I suppose I've been maintaining a double standard. I'm overweight but am desperately trying to lose it. I've always been more attracted to slim girls while I have seen girls carry possibly 15-20 pounds overweight and somehow carry it very well still looking attractive. At the moment I've been wooing, flirting and trying very hard to develop a solid foundation for a long term relationship with a girl who is at least 20lbs overweight. Why?...I don't know. It's like I've been shot with cupids arrow. She has something I need and I must be with her.

personality Guys perhaps will always be visually oriented. I'm no exception. Many years ago my sister has all these pretty girls for friends. It wasn't until one of her pretty friends did something that I knew that I wanted to date her. Personality is a factor. Her sense of humor would have to mesh with mine.

looks On a scale of 1 to 10 her face would have to demand a rating of at least a six. Natalie Portman is a six.

intelligence The girl I've referenced above has impressed me enough that I believe she's very smart and can mostly keep up with me. It is an important factor for me I've realized.

sexual I can't speak for other guys but I've sowed enough wild oats and want the ltr over just sex.

First off, I'd like to say that I don't think that "shallow" exists. We're all aware of physical beauty.. in that sense we are all shallow. People who date the ugly people often do so because a) they don't care, or b) they have no other choice. It's not a virtue to date ugly people any more than it is to date attractive people. Who among us would buy a clunker of an automobile just so we could brag that we weren't shallow when it comes to automobiles? Does anyone purposefully use an old computer, simply because it affords them the enviable position of being able to say that they aren't one of those shallow losers that needs a nice, shiny computer made in this decade? Of course not. The same logic applies to people.

When we have a choice, we do and SHOULD take the best that is available.

Height- Preferably shorter than me.. I'm 6', so that's not hard, but it's certainly not a concrete requirement.

Weight- No twigs or whales. Skinny and fat are subjective terms, but people should be *capable*. I don't have any interest in someone who is so weak they can't lift their own suitcase, or so fat they can't lift their own bodyweight.

Personality- Definitely varies, I don't have any particular favorite 'types'. I do however avoid materialistic girls, and overly moral girls (theists in particular). I suppose if it had to be narrowed down, it'd be.. the art girl. They're usually creative enough that they don't need to buy all of the latest clothing, and open-minded enough that they don't need to swallow antiquated moral sentiments in order to have a productive life.

Humor- Nothing is off limits. They have to be able to handle that coming from me, and hopefully keep up.

Looks- Average is fine. I personally hate anything more than a little makeup, and usually prefer even less. Ever wake up next to a girl the night after, when her makeup is gone, her hair is a mess and her breath stinks? Yeah. It's a rude awakening. I'd rather know and be attracted to what they REALLY look like, than bed some wannabe-barbie and get the proverbial crap scared out of me the next morning.

Intelligence- I like to think of myself as someone capable of unique thought (at least as unique as one can get on a heavily-populated planet, in the midst of an infinite universe). I'd hope any gal I'm dating would be equally capable. Talking about something, only to realize they're completely clueless -- always a letdown. I love to argue.

Sexual- I'm an open person. I don't mean to imply open relationships, although that's a possibility, just that I don't shrink back from sex. Or anything else, really. A girl who is incapable of talking about or doing anything remotely sexual is probably not a good match for me.

Average looks are fine, healthy weight is great. No dim bulbs, no Christians, and no barbies.

I wouldn't consider dating what I considered to be lower than a seven, and I wouldn't consider having sex with what I considered to be lower than a six. 1 Being The Elephant man with breast Surgery and 10 being Emma Watson.

this is a great question mgolden1

and its great that you have an open mind so you can get what guys really think



Height
- It can be odd to have a girl who is taller than the guy or a girl that is way shorter but I think most guys don't really care about this factor as long as she is beautiful and in proportion. Unless she's a midget or a behemoth not many guys say ' wow she's super hott, too bad she's too tall! '

Weight
- Well This is the area where guy can be seen as more superficial. Being overweight is associated with being in bad health. stretch marks and rolls look unsightly, and it can diminish the feminine figure which us guys are attracted to. How many men of value do you see walking about with fat women. you see the famous the rich and the powerful, with their thin gf's and wives but not often with fat ones and there's a reason for that. Most guys who go for larger women are guys with a fetish for a big woman or men who simply cannot get better, but believe me they would if they could.

Intelligence and a sense of humour
- This depends on what the guy wants from the girl. They are only important if you are going to be spendng a lot of time with the girl. IF a girl wants a relationship then ssebetter be packing these qualities. We can't be with someone who we can't joke around and have fun with nor someone that cannot stimulate us mentally. If you are not fun or smart, but you are beautiful, then yo are just for sex and nothing else as that's the only redeming quality provided.

Looks
- With attraction men value 80% a womans looks and only 20% social value including things like skills, money and status. Women tend to be the reverse. So its not too shallow that men go for looks first. These are very important. But for the most desired guys, a woman having a beautiful appearance is the minimal prerequisite she must have before he even considers her. He will want her to be fun and intelligent too so this is not shallow. What would be shallow is if he cared about her looks but didn't care about her personality flaws, dullness, or lack of intelligence.

Sexual
- I think that this varies from guy to guy. different people have different desires but I think that most guys would rather be having the sex rather than talking about having sex lol


FYI
- guys have a scale from 1-10 of a girl's hottness. Usually the scale is based purely on the physical but some guys include the whole package. The deal breaker usually comes around where she gets to the point where getting with her, even just for sex is not worth it, and this point is usually below the 5 point. many guys won't even get with a 5, but a 5 is the worst a girl can possibly before she is 'not doable' anymore

Height- any shorter than 4'6 will give me back problems so I try to stay above that mark
weight- less than 130 lbs is attractive, or a healthy weight per basis
personality- I like funny and flirty girls
sense of humor- I like clean humor that shows confidence. Not someone that puts me down
looks- Eyes being different (I like different color eyes that are catchy.. I get lost in them)
intelligence- I love a girl that applies her intelligence, not just the fact that she has it.
sexual- I'm attracted to girls that aren't shy of the bedroom. That can appreciate what I do for them and then reciprocate actions.

Best regards,
^_^ ArtistBBoy

Every guy is different and has a different set of standards but that doesn't make him shallow just because his standards are set at thin, blonde, big boobs... etc.

My view on standards is what a guy likes in a girl or their idea of a perfect woman.

At the end of the day, you set your standards up for a certain person physically but it doesn't stop you from talking to the people that don't fit into your physique barrier. At the end of the day it is the personality that matters on who you will fall in love with. The looks just help you get there...

The shallow men are the ones that won't talk to the people that don't fit in their barrier and they'll probably go for someone on looks even though they're a cold hearted person in personality wise.

This generally applies for both guys and girls to be honest.

Every man is different. I define standards as more like: The bad habits a female has, can I live with that or is that too much to bare? Example:
Height: doesn't matter
Weight: Callista Flockhart - Queen Latifa
Personality: Can joke and be serious and verbalize which she's doing. Can make intelligent decisions and can think independently. Must be able to carry on a conversation and doesn't get offended if a guy is telling female jokes. *females do it too*(double standard)
Looks: Eyes and smile is a great plus for me. People can't help how they were born, but hiding behind makeup ALL the time is a possible sign of insecurity. Body wise: just as long as you take care of yourself and are happy about how you look...Ok.
Intelligence: If you are smart as hell...Great. But don't rub it in and keep trying to "one up" other people. If you're not the brightest crayon in the box, or are a little clumsy, don't bash yourself and say you're stupid...Ask questions if you don't know. Remember, a stupid question is a question not asked.
Sexual: A female that knows what she will and will not do and is forward about it is a plus for me. Tell me what you like and don't like and I will do the same. Expressing verbal sexuality is ok and physical. There is always a time and place though.

All of this is my personal opinion and is not meant to offend or embarrass anyone.
I hope this gives you an idea or answers some of your questions. Please let me know.

I honestly don't care as long as a girl is cute. I love big boobs and the girl I am super crushing on right now has an ok size and I don't care. I love busty women but for some reason I seem to always fall for petite girls so my standards probly die off after any conversation about standards and what I think would be the perfect girl cause you never know who you'll fall for

honestly idont really care too much about those things,
the one thing that attracts me is a irls self respect, and enough of it to want to look her best and treat her body to its rightfully desrved level and keep herself fit...but remember to be yourslef otherwise nothing else that you do will ever matter.
hope that helped a little

I think you get the idea from the "honest" answers in here. Face, hair, height, etc. When it comes to weight one dude used the word "balloon." I think that's a good description. Let's face it... there is a point at which a girl is just plain cut off from consideration. Skinny is never a problem... except in rare cases where a girl loses so much weight that her cheeks are sucked into her face and her 3 inch arms are ripped muscle. Beyond that a girl's weight might be broken down into categories. There's skinny, which means a girl has a flat, toned body. There's average, which means she's a little pudgy, but her tummy isn't rolling or anything. There's heavy which means she's fat enough to cause her tummy to stick out and fold, and her face looks less appealing because of the changing shape. And there's "balloon" which means a girl is so big that her face and body have changed so much that they no longer look attractive. I should point out that balloons usually weigh well over 200 pounds, at which point they don't need us to tell them that they are heavy and should do something about it. By that point it's not about looks anyway. It's about getting winded walking up a flight of stairs, your back freezing up from standing on your feet, and the surgeries you're going to have to replace joints that can't hold you anymore. Oh, and attitude is HUGE. Nobody likes a 8*+<#.

height (no shorter then 5ft &no taller then 6ft)
weight (no skinnier then Ashley Tisdale & must NOT be fatter then the woman in this youtube video
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personality (how friendly she is & how non-judgemental she is.What I like most is a great sense of humor & a big heart & open-minded

sense of humor(she should be sarcastic & she should no when not to laugh at someone)
looks ( big lips & big eyes because they're irresistible & must have long hair)
intelligence(I don't care how smart she is I just want a woman that's funny & knows how to have fun without alcohol
sexual(I like a woman to talk dirty just like the pornstars first and get physical at the same time)

My cutoff is simple. "You will be judged by how you treat the least amongst us".

height (how tall or short is too tall or short?)

As long as she is shorter then me.

weight (do all guys want thin girls or could

Now I like my girl to have a healthy weight.

personality (what do you notice first, what do you like most about a girls personality?)

I want her to have a over all happy personally and one that can make me laugh is a BIG turn on!

looks (face, what features do you like best and why?)

Looks are defined differently to everyone and so I would like to just pick a word.I like CUTE girls!(Just,because I think a girl is cute doesn't mean someone else will)

intelligence (do you even care or do you just want to get laid?)

Common Sense is about it.(I don't need a super smart girl,so avr is enough)

sexual (do you want a girl to talk about being sexual with you or would you rather be physical or what?)

This would be allow to connect more,because I wanna please her as much as I can and understand her more mentally and physically.


Also sometimes it can just be random,so it can be totally different,because most of the time people don't know what they want.


Done!

She should look like Jennifer Aniston

Well I'm attracted to girls that are...

- Shorter than I am.
- I like thinner women, but I love curves... Curvy yet fit :)
- A very nice girl that is easy to talk to and that cares about me.
- Yes, a girl that can make me laugh and is charming
- Looks? Brunette, beautiful brown eyes that I can get lost in, nice teeth/lips... I love a more exotic looking woman too, like latina women, but that's not a requirement obviously.
- Yes I love an intelligent girl
- Sexual stuff? I want to hold off till marriage, but I definite want a girl that I think is very sexy but can wait for me. I trust she'd do the same...

That's MY perfect girl... :)

Height - I'm 6'2 and find I'm attracted to girls that are shorter than me.. it just doesn't feel right looking up to kiss a girl.. plus smaller girls fit in my arms better. I tend to look for girls that are 5'5>5'10

Weight/Fitness - a girl with a good BMI is a good turn on, I'm a fairly active bloke, always on the go; trail-bike riding, sporting, fishing, camping, swimming, if a girl can't keep up.. that's just not cool, I need someone that can get out there and keep up, if not go harder then what I'm doing. (not saying I'm a buff jock type of guy, but I like being active). I was once seeing this larger girl (she had a bf.. but we hung out just as much) and found that she just couldn't keep up with my antics, much rather prefer someone who can stick by my side & laugh along with me.

Personality/Humor- I like the family orientated kind of girl, I would much rather meet someone at a backyard barbecue then at a bar. Someone who just likes to chill out every now and then and is not to "loud".

Looks- as I said in the Weight/Fitness part, someone with a good BMI is already scoring points, physical looks don't matter as long as they look like a female.

Intelligence- Intelligence isn't really a matter, one of my best female friends who is 21 has shocking spelling, but with our relationship I think that is kind of cute, however common sense is essential. BTW if she knows how to play a musical instrument.. that's an immediate turn on.

Sexual- Sad to say.. I'm 22 and havn't had sex in 3 years.. not that I can't get it but I'm one of those few guys that finds it just as intimate to curl up on the couch or in front of a fire & hold that special someone. this is not an issue with a relationship of mine.

Yes.. I am kind of picky.. that's why I have been single for the last 6 years.. but I can't just change my standards. but hey.. all I ask for in a girl is to notice me for me.

height (how tall or short is too tall or short?)
at least 5'4" (i'm 6'0")

weight (do all guys want thin girls or could you fall for a girl with some extra love?)
within healthy bmi (health issues is another thing)

personality (what do you notice first, what do you like most about a girls personality?)
cool yet different (too typical is too predictable)

sense of humor (what kind of humor do you like girls to have?)
as long as she knows how to smile (if I live long enough to see cyborgs, then I'll have to get one)

looks (face, what features do you like best and why?)
4+ out 10 (10 being REALLY HOT)

intelligence (do you even care or do you just want to get laid?)
she was born with a brain and I'd like for her to use it (even more problems if your with a person that's dumb as a door nail)

sexual (do you want a girl to talk about being sexual with you or would you rather be physical or what?)
currently... some one has stolen my penis and my sex life is more boring than watching grass grow, anything is better than nothing (preferably sexually active)

height : taller then 5'5''. I'm 6'2 so a short girl means I have to get on my knees to kiss her.
weight : chubby is good. Don't like skinny girls, and obese women remind me of my mom.
personality : Wild girls are amaizing. They keep things interesting. I'm not talking party girls but a girl who will get kicked out of places with you and laugh about how p*ssed off the rent-a-cop got.
sense of humor : she has to have a sense of humor. The darker the better. I've been known to tell a lot of inapropriate jokes so if she gets upset over sex jokes, or racial jokes, or dark jokes then there's no future.
looks : pink hair and piercings is a plus.
intelligence : at least smart enough to hold a conversation with to where I don't have to be talking like I'm talking to a 5 year old.
sexual : openly sexual is good. Not slutty but at the same time someone who knows that sex is natural and isn't afraid to talk about it or try new things.



side note... has anyone else noticed that all the guys are like "sex: yes please" and the girls are more conservative about it.

You can get to know a girl, and then get emotionally attached to her. Then it doesn't matter anymore, because at that point she is the only thing on your mind. Personality is important and is a deal breaker for me. If I can't have an interesting conversation with a girl, because she is so clueless about everything and her vocabulary is comparable to that of a 10 year old, then she's out.

She also has to have a sense of humor, because if she takes every smart ass remark offensively, then she is not pleasant to hang around. She has to know how to laugh, but unfortunately there are many girls who don't know that.

1. Anywhere from 5'0 to 6'8. Yes I do like Tall women.

2. Few extra pounds is sexy. As long as she can still wear jeans lol there should be no problem.

3. This is a tough one because I have a soft spot for both outgoing and shy girls. My ex- was great because she could be really outgoing with everyone but when she talked to me alone she would always get shy. Its fine if she's outgoing just as long as she isn't a constant complainer or pesamist. Shy girls I like because they are more sensitive and personal which I like to an exstint.

4. I like girls who will make occasional jokes I don't mind if its at my expense. And an occasional laugh at my jokes as well lol.

5. Obviously if she has a very good looking face I will be sold, but I have found out a lot of times those women aren't the nicest. Only thing I can say that is a big turn off is a girl who uses a lot of makeup, a little bits nice but a lot I don't care for. Personaly I would date just about any girl regardless of what her face looks like as long as she isn't wearing a ton of make up or has an abundance of facial piercings.

6. As long as she has common sense I don't mind.

7. Maybe not right after we first meet but I would like her to openly speak to me about what she likes and maybe talk dirty to ;).

I think this is a question that will vary between men, just as it likely does between women. When it comes to things like height and weight I cannot equivocably say that I have a definite mold. I have dated tall thin girls, taller than me (I find tall girls attractive). I have also date girls who were shorter than me and had a bigger frame than your stick thin model type.

Physical looks are all to the eye of the beholder, but I would say some general standards do apply. I haven't met many healthy people who are attracted to people of a seemingly unhealthy lifestyle (i.e. you don't see many non smokers with smokers, and you don't see many track stars with obese people). If you were to ask me what first attracts my attention towards a girl I would say hair. Hair frames a face, and its unique to each person. Curly hair vs. long hair vs. different colors - they all project a different aura. Other guys may give you something different (and don't be surprised, were not as stereotypically drawn to "the goods" as pop culture might portray us to be).

The threshold for other things you mentioned - intelligence, sexuality, sense of humor, personality - are all, in my own opinion, largely based upon those same factors within a guy. A sexually inexperienced guy may like a woman who is sexual, or he may favor someone who is new to things just like him.

If you were to ask me my personal preferences on those things: I like a girl who has a body frame that is attractive, healthy, and physically comfortable for me to hold. I like a girl who has gorgeous hair and an attractive face. She has to have a personality that is out going but not overbearing, show interest in me, and she has to be tolerant of my corny, quirky, and unique sense of humor. I like a girl who is smart, but one who isn't into all the geeky things I enjoy (I am a tech savvy, political junky, with a love for baseball and have a keen interest in law). I think when a girl has an interest in something that I can learn from it makes things more interesting -- but cautious note, a girl who is so in love with her passions that she is distracted from everything else is a turn off. Sexually, I want a girl who is open and sexual -- but in a way that is relationship forming. I want her to talk to me about sex, but in a way that is respectful of our individual past experiences.

most physical requirements for me are minor. Honestly the main things that turn me off from a girl, are being severely overweight, and horrible deformities, I guess you could call them...like for instance I know a girl with a GIANT MOLE on the side of her face that has a lot of hair growing out of it...and I just can't get past that...

As far as personality, I like a girl who is, a bit strong, a girl who isn't completely down on herself, girls who for instance always think they are fat, or ugly despite being skinny, or gorgeously beautiful. Even if they say it just to get a little attention, it gets petty after a while. Her sense of humor is important, as 90% of what I say is meant to get a laugh.

sexuality...i could never be with a prude. sex, is a natural part of life to me, and it should be fun. Id prefer a girl to be open about it, and any fantasies she may have.

Intellegence...(yes I know I spelled that wrong I suck at spelling leave me alone)) one of the most important things, I'm smart, really smart, and I like a girl to be at least smart enough so the stuff I say doesn't go right over her head.

I know my "standards" are over and and above what a lot of guys will settle for, hence the reason for "standards". I think a woman should be herself, and ONLY herself. If she puts on a facade for me, how do I know who she really is. As for weight/height, no stipulations other than it must fit her. I've dated or lived with skinny girls that were tall and skinny girls that were short. I've been with chubby/fat/chunky/overweight girls that were tall and short and in the middle. I've been with what some would call gorgeous and what some would call ugly. It all depends on the woman how she carries herself.
Now that said, a girl has to have a sense of humour. If she takes stuff too serious, she won't be able to laugh at herself,at me or a stressful situation. I ALWAYS look a woman in the eyes. I want to know what she sees or where she stands. So I guess I would see a girls eyes first. Now for some reason I've got this thing about a girls nose. Don't know why, just have this thing.
I don't care what you look like, you need to be yourself and not worry about me. If you care for me, that's awesome but, be yourself..

mgolden1, out of the 7 criteria you asked about, how would you describe yourself in those 7 criteria?

My opinions:
* Height: Does not matter
* Weight: INITIALLY, as long as she does not look like a balloon, she looks good to me. After knowing her...
* Personality: Kindness (In fact this is the only deal breaker for me and you cannot fake it because I am extremely critical on this).
* Sense of humor: Does not matter
* Looks: I like women with sharp features
* Intelligence: Does not matter because everyone is good at certain things anyway
* Sexual: Yes, please!

Height - Height doesn’t bother my all that much but like everything else, everything in moderation. I would start to think about whether a woman is to short probably around 4"8 but that doesn’t mean I would let it stop me. It just becomes a factor. I would start to think about whether a woman is to tall probably around 6"5 but agen this wouldn't stop me it's just when it becomes a factor.

Weight - Skinny woman, anorexic, see your bones skinny is a definite turn off for me as is the opposite. I don't like women who don't respect themselves enough to take care of themselves. I would date someone on the heavier side of the scale but it's "everything in moderation".

Personality - I'm very picky with this. I don't like girls who socially have no shame. One-on-one no shame, love it. They cannot be girly-girls, they have to have a competitive, active, air about them but at the same time they still need to know how to be a woman while doing it. Now that I think about it I tend to favor the shy girls out there. Some of the best relationships I've had were with shy girls (the overall best was a shy girl).

Humor - So long as she has one I'm happy. She needs to be able to understand mine.

Looks - I've got a thing for brunettes and red heads with wavy hair. Perhaps it’s because of the stereotypical signs of intelligence, I don't know. I love blue or green eyes. They have a piercing aura about them. Dimples are a turn on; they give off a girly innocence which is appealing.

Intelligence - It's one of my top three requirements. If she can't hold an intelligent conversation, next!

Sexual - Good sex is important. She needs to be able to talk minimally about what she enjoys and what turns her on and also be able to hear about what I want. I like women who don't hold back when it comes to sex. This contradicts allot of the shyness that I find a turn on but she needs to be able to overcome her shyness in this category.

Height: I don't really care
Weight: Don't be fat
Personality: Don't be boring. Don't be Narcissistic. Don't be a bitch.
Sense of Humour: have one
Looks: I'm pretty lenient if the other categories are in the right place.
Intelligence: This one's critical for me. I expect nothing short of brilliance.
Sexual: As long as you're not waiting until marriage, I'm along for the ride.

1. too short is when she is midget short, the kind of shortness where people are like "woah, that girl has something biologically wrong with her if she's that short". Too tall would be like a giant, like a chick who is almost 7 ft tall.

2. Girl has to be thin, no fatties or huskies. But if she's borderline, like a little bit of meat on her, then she's acceptable. But also not too thin(ex. Paris Hilton), I want a girl with curves. go find the latest issue of american curves magazine, the women in their have the ideal body, thin but curvy, God's perfection basically!. There's in ideal body weight that is between thin and fat.

3. Personality wise, I like a girl who is very sweet and considerate, like the sensitive types. Down to earth. Not shallow and self centered only caring about superficial things such as popularity, what people think or her, money. Don't be stuck up. Be humble.

4. Just a normal sense of humor, maybe she'll point something out that looks odd about something and make fun of it. Nothing overly funny. The girl doesn't need to make me luagh as in humor. But being playful is a major plus. I like it when we are both giggling about each other acting stupid.

5. A pretty face is what I look for. Can't pin down exact features without getting all mathematical, but you (mgolden1) have a pretty face. You have nothing to worry about in that department.

6. don't really care too much about intelligence. But I would prefer a smart girl over a dumb one. But she can't be too dumb, where you wonder if she's retarded (ex. Anna nicole smith), that is a deal breaker. Dumb is okay, but too dumb is not.

7. Hell yeah I want a girl to be sexual. I want a girl who enjoys sex and talks about it at times.

Height - Not really an issue. I'd be reluctant if she was 4+ inches taller than me, but definitely not a deal breaker if she's okay with it.

Weight - Not a deal breaker unless it's so bad it causes issues. If you can't live your life you need help before I can be interested. A little extra isn't a dealbreaker though.

Personality can be a deal breaker. I like smart, funny, sweet girls. If you have a terrible personality that is honestly worst than looks.

Looks - Eyes and hair catch me. I like unique eyes and long dark hair.

Intelligence - I can't stand ignorant girls ... or people in general. Biggest deal breaker for me.

Sexual - I like more conservative girls, but a little talking to me is great.

I think every guy and gal has their own "cutoff" point.
the goal is to find someone you can enjoy being with, not merely tolerate.
for some, mental stimulation is more important than eye candy, for others, eye candy means more. just like aquired tastes, not everyone like coffee black, some like tea with milk and suger.
I used to think about women's looks more, I thought I was shallow, then I met some REALLY shallow and cruel women, and I now focus on women's personality.
case and point, all the news about the actress Megan Fox, she may be hot...but no one wants to work with her, or give her any good roles in movies, cause she is such a bitch to work with.

Height is a non issue. I'd date a girl who was 4'10" and I'd date a girl who was 7'0" tall, makes no difference to me.

Weight is a non issue as long as she wears it well and dresses in a way to still look good despite being overweight, which I've seen. I've seen girls that still looked gorgeous & sexy at 200 lbs because of the way their weight carried itself.

Personality she has to have a witty sense of humor and she can't be an obsessive clean freak. I hate that. Also can't be high maintenance.

Sense of humor has to be of the intelligent kind where her jokes are things that are hilariously funny but only someone intelligent would be able to pick up on it. Somewhat of the geeky/cute/funny kind.

Face, I prefer fairer skin or, if its tan, a natural looking one. Unnaturally dark tans on blonde girls are just absolutely hideous.

Intelligence is a MUST. The smarter the better. No ditzes and nobody who can't point to a foreign country on the map if asked. That's a dealbreaker.

Sexual.. hmmm... don't quite get what you mean there.

Height: 5'9" and above or I'm just not attracted, I'm 5'4" and that's a major part of the attraction for me in a guy, it's what makes them different to me

Weight: Ideally a lean toned guy but skinny'ish is cool esp if they have broad shoulders...can't do a soft body or anything remotely overweight

Personality: Can't do flirts/charmers or esp passive guys I can run over who can't hold their own and stick to their opinions/guns.

Looks: He has to have charm in his face but this is generally flexible. I like asian thin eyes on asians (so I'm not attracted to large round eyed asians or filipinos) and caucasians like Olivier Martinez and Rob Pattinson.

Intelligence: Key. Must be super sharp/brainy and calmly confident in his intelligence.

Sexual: His confidence must be there for sexual attraction.

height--I'm 5'8, so anywhere from 5'6 to 6'7 is fine with me
weight--Can you lift stuff? can you walk up a flight of stairs? If so, I'd date ya
personality--I love a guy that can make me laugh, but a polite guy is an amazing turn on
sense of humor--not mean
looks--I love big eyes of any color with a nice smile. I don't like it if I can't see a guys eyebrows, but if you've got the personality, I could really care less. I've fallen for guys with invisible eyes and eyebrows and crooked teeth REALLY HARD because they made me laugh.
intelligence--I like smart guys, honestly
sexual--well, I'd take some warming up to the idea, but I might be up for som dirty banter if in a comfy environment

great question...what is shallow vs. what is just what we are attracted to. Good one.

okay so I am not a guy but I also have standards as every girl does (that and this will hopefully make me fall asleep). so here it goes:

height: they have to be either my height or taller than I am. its weird when you kiss a guy to have bend down to kiss them.
weight: I mean if a guy is manorexic that's disgusting but in the same way if a guy is obese then that too is gross. so id say in the broader spectrum of middle weighted people
personality: has to have a good sense of who they are and a good sense of humor. also they have to know how to treat a girl right.
sense of humor: I like them to be able to crack a joke that's not racist/homophobic that's like my only stipulation. and they have to have a good sense of how to keep things appropriate.
looks: I always like guys w. darker hair but somehow I end up w. blondes everytime. and I absolutely go crazy over green eyes (I don't know why I just do)
intelligence: they have to be smart. it annoys me when I have to explain everything to people. and I am a fairly intellegent girl so they need to be able to keep up w. me.
sexual: talkin about it is one thing but I want a guy who will respect my morals and not push me into something especially when I don't want to give in that easily

I'm not a dude, but I do have standards.

height: He has to be taller than me, or my height, because I really don't like looking down at people.
weight: Healthy weight, but chubby is ok, depending on the man.
personality Amusing, spontaneous and intelligent.
sense of humor Any sense of humor. I love to laugh. :)
looks I'm not looking for a Brad Pitt, but a handsome guy would be great.
intelligence Intelligence is a must. If he doesn't know who Mahatma Ghandi is, the deal is off.
sexual I don't want him to think of me as a source of sex. I want a deeper connection than that.