What to like in a man?

A tough protective aggressive guy -- the other is way too boring. It can be nice at times but overall it leads to uninterest and a failing relationship because there is no spark, no feeling of belonging

i mean wow you just decsribe dhow my boyfriend acted and I don't like the fact that he is chagning and startin to care less its actually a trun on to seem how much my boyfriend cares && if he is jealous then I kno there is sumthing he loves in me enuff to make him care about the what if factors
i mean ur personality is who you are but that can always change just stay true to yaself
if she makes you feel like not cating wateva den do you really care for her froget physical attraction && think about what really matters in your heart how does she make you feel
can you be yaself around her
&& how does she act about your relationship

I would want a nice balance of the two, but a little more of the calm passive guy. Maybe like a 60/40 thing. I don't like being domineered over and would only come to resent my boyfriend if he got protective of me in an insane way. I'm no delicate flower, and I can handle myself. On the other hand I do not want a man who will just let me walk all over him. I need to know that you trust and respect me enough to be my own person and conduct my life accordingly, while voicing your opinions and standing up for me, just as I would do for you. In addition, if your a little too much of passive or aggressive, women start to lose attraction. If a guy is too aggressive and overprotective I think he's a control freak, a jerk, and slightly reminds me of a father figure and the "daddy syndrome" where you must protect the women in your life no matter how insane you look. If your too passive I see you as a friend who gives suggestions and everything in the relationship is "optional" and not really there for consideration.

I think there is a perfect mixture, you just need to know when to get protective. If your girlfriend is simply talking to a guy around school (no flirtatious motives) then that's fine. If she occasionally texts a different guy, that's okay IF they're modest texts; not saying 'I want you', Haha. When to get protective is if she's being disrespected. If she's being called 'hot' or 'sexy', then that's when you do something, not too aggressive but definitely not passive, you want to get your point across. As long as the girl isn't talking to different guys on the phone all the time and hanging out with them alone, then you should be fine. If it gets to the point where there's really no respect in the relationship and she keeps flirting, then that's your decision to make on whether to continue the relationship. You should be fine, just keep calm and put yourself in the girls shoes, always assume the best! ;)

I will have to agree with Bobair.

Women prefer "Balance and Moderation."

A woman does not want a PUSHOVER. No woman respects a man who allows himself to be taken advantage of. This will place her in a more 'maternal' role instead of a 'girlfriend' role. She will now feel the need to protect you and fight your battles at all times, thus reversing the roles of both sexes.

A woman does not want a CONTROLLING, JEALOUS, PYSCHO. No woman wants to feel as if she's restricted, institutionalized, or imprisoned due to her man's insecurities. This woman will be miserable ALL THE TIME, and will grow to resent you. Ironically, when a man behaves this way, the woman is actually MORE likely to stray!

Find a balance between those two. CONFIDENCE is the key. Instead of focusing on who is pursuing her (If she's beautiful, most likely she will be a jerk magnet), try focusing on improving your self-confidence , instead. Channel your energies into more productive things, athletics, reading, spending some time with your friends, or taking up new hobbies. This 'new' variety of interests will allow you to become more assertive in constructive areas. You can lead in conversations, decision making, and etc. Also keep youself up physically, as well, let her know that you're the hot sh@t , too! Every now and then, show a sentimental side, but make sure its spontaneous. Flowers, or a quick unexpected kiss on the lips will ALWAYS cause a woman to blush!

I hope this helps...

I'm interested in hearing what the ladies have to say!

I can tell you this - Most women don't want a passive guy, because this forces her to make all the decisions. Passive men force their girlfriends to be the "Driver" of the relationship, and this is a completely weak place to operate from. Don't be this guy.

Women love a tough protective guy (when he's being loving), but I'm pretty sure they don't want an insecure jealous aggressive guy.

There's an attractive middle ground between passive and aggressive.

It's called Assertive.

It's the difference between being dominant and domineering.

This means you're confident and honest enough to speak your mind, even if you're insecure, while allowing her the space to disagree with you.

A jealous insecure boyfriend will say something like this, "Hey! Don't talk to those guys any more, they all just want to sleep with you and I won't have you humiliating me like that!"

A jealous but secure boyfriend will say something like this, "I'm kind surprised with myself because I'm actually feeling jealous that you were talking with those guys last night. Perhaps you can help me to feel better by telling me who they were?"

An aggressive boyfriend might say, "I don't like you going out every weekend with your slutty girlfriends because some guy is gonna try grinding on you on the dance floor! Be home early, and don't come home drunk!"

An assertive boyfriend might say, "Hey, be a good girl tonight babe. Call me if you need a ride, or if I need to punch-out some gross drunk guy." *wink*

There are ways to express your concerns without being aggressive.

Just don't become so passive and weak that she'll lose all interest in you. Women like men who speak their minds, and who can make decisions.

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~ Robby

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