I'm 29 and I've found both younger(meaning around my age) and older men attractive but I've noticed that younger men would rather be with someone much older them themselves. I keep hearing that it's because older women are more "grounded" or that they don't play head games but there are a lot of younger women who do not do that so why do younger men judge all young women when they themselves would not want that done to them?
I've often been told that I look very young for my age yet when people get to know me, they tell me that I very mature for someone who's nearing 30. Hell, I've been told I'm more mature for my age since I was in my teens! I also tend to make more friends with people in their 40's and up because I feel like I can relate to them more. I know that there are a lot of women around my age who are the same as me when it comes to maturity so I know I'm not alone. When I hear of younger men describing older women the first thing I say is "that sounds like me!" but yet men my age just automatically assume that I play head games and act stupid when I've never behaved like that a day in my life. If that were the case, wouldn't it be safe to assume that all men my age spend their time drinking themselves into a coma as well as treating women like Chicklets? I personally would rather be involved with someone in my age range but how could that happen when men are so quick to judge younger women?
Why do men assume that if a woman is chronologically older it means that they are also more mature yet if a woman is younger, they are not mature? I've seen my fair share of older women who act like 19 year old girls so age and maturity do not go hand in hand.
I actually find it interesting that you feel this way because my experience has been that more men tend to prefer younger women than older. I know that there is a mix of preferences, of course, but I'm just mentioning the numbers here. At either rate, I think guys (and maybe even women too) tend to have a "range" of ages they consider of interest as a rule of thumb For example, I'm nearing 36 and if I were still dating, I would consider someone in their mid 20's up to my age or a couple years older. But that doesn't mean that I would instantly rule out someone outside of that range if there were other reasons and attractors (physical, emotional, personality, etc).
It sounds like the men you are referring to have their own emotional and maturity issues if they are discounting someone based upon their age. Just realize that not all guys are like that, so don't lose hope.
I'm sure there are men who want to date those in their own age range but they seem to be few and far between, at least here at any rate. I found it interesting on what age groups you would date if you were still dating. For me, I would date someone a year, possibly two years younger then myself to up to 5 years older then me. I wouldn't just dismiss someone who's much older then myself but I'd feel more comfortable with someone closer to my own age. - 12 days ago
crap my answer disapeared! Ok I'll make it short this time:
I'm about your age and will say that I used to think the same way. As you are growing, you probably have noticed that sex is more integrated/casual as part of a relationship (short or long) which reduced the complexity of reaching sex and also diminish the melodrama surrounding it.
For exemple, If I start a relationship with a younger lady, I would be much more carefull at the beginning as I do not know her maturity state regarding "sex" and will have to take it even much more in consideration if it is not really developped.
Now imagine a young man, that really enjoy sex... this aspect of casual sex with partner or reaching sex without having to consider too much the emotional impact of it... may sound like a good deal...
Of course there can be big differences of maturity for people of the same age but still remains a good indicator considering average.
I now tend to think differently since I try to adapt myself according to the partner sexual maturity. But this factor is to be still taken in consideration even now.
Guilt by association. Yeah it is not fair but no one said life was fair, but you already know that. I think that what you are describing is people acting their age and experience. It is a little hypocritical for a guy to want an emotionally mature woman when they themselves are not mature. You could not be more correct that someones age is only a small part of their maturity. I feel that maturity has a lot to do with wisdom/experience which is hard to get without a few years under your belt, but there are always exceptions to that rule. Some people have it, but most do not.
You've made some good points here although people can be quite "wise" without being physically older. It all depends on what you had went through in your life that caused you to be more mature then those in your age group. - 12 days ago
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