Back in the 80's thru mid 90's, I was a young, fit man. Grew up in a small farm town in Michigan that was 90% white. Couldn't get a date because I was black. Fine. In college, there were more women to choose from obviously. But couldn't get a date with white women mostly because I was black. But black women rejected me with equal rudeness because I was considered "Not black enough"
Don't try to make sense out it. Trust me.
So now that it is the late 00's, I am wondering if race is still an issue. I chatted with a chinese women who has a mixed kid. She told me men in china will not date her because she ruined her chinese purity with an outsider. That's BS to me. But the question still remains. Be honest folks.
Update: I live in Michigan where the trees grow tall and the women are cold hearted :D
6 months ago
I am white obviously lol but I love dating black guys! Race is always going to be an issue no matter how far we come. But yea personally I love dating different races especially black people. But I am really sorry for you while you were growing up, to bad there aren't more people like me that are more open minded about that stuff.
I'm a black female and I have dated outside my race before. It can be uncomfortable (I live in Dixieland lol) but I think it's not a big deal if you have very strong feelings for the person. I mainly stick to my own though, but I have no problem with interracial dating obviously. What I do have a problem with is a lot of the negative stereotypes w/i our own race.
I've had quite a few crazy experiences when I'm out with my best guy friend (who is white). We were sitting at the table in a bowling alley together, and a black guy just sat down right next to him as we were talking, and started hitting on me really loud like he wasn't even there. He assumed that we were a couple and basically just disrespected him because "what's a shawty as fine as you doing with a white boy?". WTF??
Or black guys who exclusively love white girls. I'm sorry, nothing against interracial dating, but when you put down your own race to chase after another you look like a self hating house n...I don't know what other race of men do this except black boys. You don't hear white boys talking shit about how all white girls are this, and that; I've never heard Asian guys do it. But black men seem to have a million and 1 reasons why they don't date black women.
It depends on the location in the You. S. Down South they are worse about that kind of stuff than on the East Coast. I think that people are beginning to be more open about it and it's becoming more common. But there are still some who are really against it and discriminate. Also, there are two issues here. One is people who would not date someone of a different race because they are not attracted to them. The second is people not dating someone of a different race because they think it's "wrong". I think you are talking about the second issue and it's a disturbing one. It's also hard for interracial couples because of the discrimination they face, which is why some people might just go the easy way and avoid all the social stigma and difficulties that come along with it.
I think that race is still and will always be an issue because their will always be ignorant racist bastards out there. I live in a small town in Texas and I'm an outsider because I'm white and my town is almost 60% Mexican and I used to live in Australia when I was younger. I'm not saying that they're racist against my family, but I know what you're talking about.
I really don't think it is a cultural issue AS MUCH anymore. I think the real issue is in the older family members of "said people". For example, I have no problem dating guys with other skin colors. I never have, but not because of that reason. My mom wouldn't care. But my father has openly told me he would disown me (I would disown him if he acted like that). I think the future looks better for our next generation when it comes to interracial relationships.
To be honest yes it is, its sad but its true where I'm from there are a lot of mixed couples but it depends on the people and the way they are raised.
I'm black also and this white guy used to like me but I didn't like him back it was because he was soo much older then I was and he was bad, it was not because of his skin color.
I hate when ppl classify me by the things I do. because I like some types of rock music and other things and pronounce my words differently they call me white.
People will be like I'm blacker than you when they are clearly three shades lighter than I am.
They think what you do makes you black, you have to be ghetto if your black and if your not ghetto your white I think we should get over the color of our skin and look into the characteristics of other people. cuz its really annoying
I've never had issues with race and have been involved with guys from a variety of different racial backgrounds. But I think that is largely the result of growing up in a large multicultural city, going to schools which were multicultural but where students didn't form racially based cliques, and the attitudes of my family and friends. The answer to your question will depend on the person's background and history etc. Obviously for some race continues to be an issue, which is very unfortunate.
I think race is an issue still. Mainly because of our ancestors... some of us are not willing to date outside our race as we do not want to upset our families. My family was very prejudice, and I hated it. I date whoever I feel like it and I don't really care what my family or friends think. I am German/Hungarian and I prefer Hispanic men. Ironically, my ex-husband is 1/2 Asian, my children are VERY mixed. And you know what??? I don't care. I got a lot of BS from my family because my ex was part Asian. It was quite a wake up call for them. I fell in love with his personality, not his heritage.
Being completely honest, I think race can be an issue with people depending on where they grew up. For me personally, race is absolutely no issue. I grew up right outside of downtown St. Louis, so I had a very diverse neighborhood and I actually find myself attracted to just as many (if not more! ) black guys as white guys. I don't even think twice if a black guy is hitting on me rather than a white guy. Unfortunately, some people do not have that diversity and open mentality. People that grew up in small towns, or the country, or predominantly white communities will usually admit that they still have issues with race, or do not find themselves attracted to people outside of their own race. It does not mean they are racist, it just means they have not had the experience growing up with and interacting with so many people of different races. Obviously there are lots of inter-racial relationships, so something is going right. But it will be a long time before EVERYONE is open to that idea.
Seems like the only women in general I have had any success with in friendship or otherwise are asians. They don't seem to mind my height, race or in some cases, income. Why? Well, it helps that I speak enough japanese and chinese to make good first impression. But I have yet to have asian girlfriend. - 6 months ago
I think that race is only an issue if people make it to be. I don't think it is but honestly I hear more black people making race issues now than white people are. Most black women I know get pissed if a black man dates a white woman. I honestly have never heard a white woman say,"Oh I won't date him because he's black. " Most people in general are just ignorant and care too much about what people will think and if they're dumb enough to let that get to them, then you don't need them, it's their loss. I wish people weren't like that because it sets society back instead moving forward. When black guys come up to me, the first question out of their mouth is if I date black guys. I tell them that it offends me because I'm not a judgmental or shallow person by any means and race isn't something I take into consideration when deciding if I like someone or not. I have friends from all over this country, and all over the world and everyone's beautifully different in their own way. I just wish people could accept one another's differences and knock down the racial wall that a bunch of ignorant assholes put up in the past. I'm sorry you had to experience that hun and I like Michigan but never knew it was like that. Do you like ICP by any chance? I love them and they're from Detroit. Everyone I've met from Michigan either loves em' or hates em' lol. Just curious as to where you stand=-)
To give you an idea how bad it was for me. In college in IL and PA, the black women would reject me badly. Once I went back to white women, those same black chicks ridiculed me for being "tired" and having the "jungle fevor". No fun. And people wonder why I hire high priced escorts. - 6 months ago
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I'm originally from IL but anyways that's a horrible thing to go through. As I said in my answer it's just ignorance. I suggest broadening your horizons and surrounding yourself with people that are more open-minded. It may not seem like it, but they're out there. I can only say this because I'm one of them and I know I'm not the only person in the world with this outlook. - 6 months ago
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Maybe its your height. Didn't you say you were pretty short in one of your other q and a's?
I left my diminutive stature out because a man's height is a whole different argument(tall/short) that has been talked about too often. I KNOW my lack of height turns off women. So I focused on the race issue. - 6 months ago
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Well I was just wondering because I don't take race into consideration. But I do have to be attracted to them. :) - 6 months ago
Love should not have limits but. People seem to have tradition and stick to what is or they know best. I don't discriminate in love based on race. I have dated every color under the rainbow and I DON'T regret it. Because half the men are all the same. And just want one thing in the end. No matter how sweet they are or there race.
Don't let that bother you because not everyone is like that ok.
I have seen white/black at clubs dating and latin with cubans or black etc. Is not the color is the people who are in the past who are ignorant and freaking stuck.
Hey can I CUSS. I'm new to this freaking site. I found it by accident.
I don't really think so. I have dated all across the color line. My brother is married to a Japanese woman and my mother re-married to a Japanese man. I was also married to a white Australian. I'm sure there are still some people that consider it taboo to date outside their race, but then those are the people you would want to avoid anyway. As for the "not black enough, I definitely got the same from black men in the dating scene at times. I'm curious, where do you live now. Here in LA interracial dating is very common.
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