Am I getting too old or is it just me?

ok your either way too comfortable with yourself and just asking ladies opinions for fun - maybe either because you want attention or you just want to experiment! Now you might also be very conceited so women can't stand looking at guys well ok I can't stand looking at guys who are conceited with themselves - I mean come on I don't even go to the salon every week for a manicure or pedicure! And I find straight guys at salons getting a manicure well no nail polish or fake nails but I do find them there! You definitely don't have a low self - esteem just by looking at your pics I mean no guy would have them up if they weren't comfortable with themselves! Or anyone else for that matter!

Now if your really asking this because you actually do question yourself about working out for no one - you don't - you don't work out for anyone but yourself - you do it for your health and on the plus side it enhances your body! You don't get dressed up for no one but yourself! Your supposed to love yourself first in order for someone else to love you! Women love men who can walk into a room with the most outstanding confidence alive! We love a man who is comfortable in his own skin! We don't want a bad boy but we do want someone who's a little dangerous which your profile fits that is if you do carry a gun and I don't mean dangerous as a serial killer or a rapist or a drug dealer - just dangerous! As much as some independent women hate to admit but we do want a man who can protect us and is not afraid of anything! We want a man who can tell us we're beautiful even when we're angry at you or want to hit you, we want a man who can keep a convo going sometimes even for hours, just talking about anything, we want a man who who's a man - someone you can actually call a man!

I personally attracted to a guy who will come up to me and initiate things, I don't often initiate anything lol and I guess you have all the basic stuff covered like career, monetary funds, and looks but you also have to be approachable.
I get scared if a guy comes off as intimidating or narrow-minded like as if I'm not the right type for him-that's what I mean by approachableness.
I have been single for quite a long time as well but I choose to be-I know I can have a boyfriend if I wanted to but I plan to pursue med studies soon and by then I'll be old enough of course to have a really stable job and then get a bf
anyways, I think for me I look at a guy's personality and how polite or well mannered he is because it comes across as him having somewhat a good moral compass and if I have similarities with him. that sort of thing.

Focus on yourself rather than trying to find a woman. When you meet one you will know. AND in the meantime work on your confidence, no girl wants a guy that's always down on himself. good luck.

as soon as you stop looking everybody seems to want u. the hardest part is to stop looking haha

You're 18-24 hell no that's not too old! There is probably nothing wrong with you. You're just going through a dry spell. Relationships don't define you. You're in the military, traveling the world, in good shape, very good looking and you have money. What's the problem? If I didn't know better I would think you're fishing for compliments ;)

The fact that you are shy is a biiig thing. Let's face it, girls can semi get away with being shy but not even that much. Most girls wait for the guy to show interest. If you're shy and thus not approaching/talking to girls we are just gonna think you aren't interested. You're a VERY goodlooking guy, I promise I'm not hitting on you lol but that can be really intimidating to a lot of girls. If I were to see you I would assume you're really confident, maybe even a little cocky and get a lot of girls. That can scare a lot of girls away especially if we aren't as hot as you.

The fact that you're buff is not a turnoff. Well maybe to some girls as we all have different tastes, but not all. I think guys with buff bodies are more attractive than the average scrawny guy or even a fat guy.

well the fact that you're in japan MIGHT be one of the reasons. ... do you know somebody named Casey White? he's my friend who's out in japan too!

Buddy, from ur profile pic us seem to have the looks (the kind I'd bring home to my mother), but the buffness is sorta a turnoff. I like a guy with a little muscle, but to much can intimidate a girl.

It's not all about looks and money.

Every girl has their own preference/interest.
But I think the most imp thing is to be yourself.
Also, there is nothing wrong with being single. Go out and meet ppl, just don't try too hard (to impress, or to get a gf), because that is a turn off.

You are listing off physical qualities and though they are good qualities, unless you are out there meeting girls, talking to them and eventually asking them out, you will remain single. Though movies would have us believe differently, life isn't about looking good and all of a sudden the floodgates will open and dates will be beating down our door. If you are not actually interacting in a fun way with girls and then moving forward with asking them out, you will remain single. Usually one thing that does get trickier once we are beyond High School or college, is the chance to meet people of the opposite sex, lots of them, in a non-threatening environment repeatedly until we know them well enough to consider a date. Once we get past that we have to be more active in finding ways to meet people.

So, what catches my attention, a guy who is attractive, like you, is sensible with his money like you and is fun to talk to and...asks me out. Pretty much does it for me :)

To be honest, there's a few reasons why I wouldn't go out with you:

1)Your in the military - I would not want like the idea of my husband/boyfriend leaving for months, that's not the lifestyle I want to live
2) I don't party and go to clubs anymore
3)When it comes to settling down I want an ordinary guy, not a buff guy who is always going to the gym

I might have been interested in you back in the college days, but to be perfectly honest the only types of girls who would be interested in you are girls who are immature, and in "party" mode..if you changed your appearance, stopped partying, and stopped working out so much, you might be able to find a girl whos interested in you, because most girls will look at you and think your a jerk whos too into himself, in the mean time no good worthy girl will take you seriously and give you the time of day..

Personally, I think you look REALLY good... so it's not looks that are the problem...
Do you have a personality though? are you charming? a gentlemen? do you have opinions? Are you funny? Are you into sports? Do you talk to girls? Are you interested in something other than yourself and the navy? are you self obsessed?
I think you should do a self evaluation or something...
If you do have a personality, maybe Japanese girls aren't interested in handsome/buff guys... :S

I have never been into guys who are very much into how he looks.
I care more about the inside. What are your interests? What are your goals in life? What kind of relationship are you looking for? What kind of partner do you desire? What kind of a partner do you desire to be for a woman of your dreams? What are your passions in life?

Maybe you should work on that? Of course, being good looking on the outside helps. But I think people's qualities on the inside shine through, and that gives them that "look" on their faces, the look that glows and shows off that they are full of life. That catches my interest for sure.

First of all, you have to love yourself, you must date yourself, I know it sounds weird, but take yourself to the movies, to dinner. If you can hang with friends do that, but keep active maybe pick up a hobby. You must prepare for your Woman now. When she comes she will catch you on your way somewhere, not just sitting in despair.

When you have a positive attitude, apositive outlook on life, you are enjoying life and its experiences and you are not waiting for someone to make you happy, love will find you when you least expect.

Each Woman is different but who could resist a guy who is happy full of confidence and open to new experiences. When you approach her just be real, be yourself. Oh, a hot body would be icing on the cake, stay in the gym!

Good Luck

Your not doing anything wrong, just having negative repercussions from your ex and your time of being single for two years. Your in Japan right now, and women there could care less about how fit you are. But you should be working out for your own good, not for attention. When you come back to the states, expect to be dating again soon.

Your problem is you think women want a guy who has all your qualities, and your finally realizing your just waisting your time. I myself am a good looking guy well that's what the ladies say, and I have some of your same qualities but I don't flaunt them. You think if you show off to women they will like you, wrong, most of them might think your a douche bag, if you walk around thinking your sh*t when in fact your really not. If your going to be in good shape great do it for yourself not for a woman. If you have lots of money best thing to do is not mention that.

Great your good looking so you say, so what there's a hell of a lot more people out there who are good looking to, hell I was even turned down by a chick because she said I was too good looking, I intimidated her, and would cheat on her.

I know you were asking for a woman's point of view but can I give you a guys point of view also? You seem like a smart kind of guy. I believe that you are at that critical time in your life where you have matured enough it is no longer about continuing to date, but rather marriage. I know you don't have anyone, but it is now on your burner.

I never met my wife until I was 24, admittedly I did get to the point I thought I was going to remain single for the rest of my life but that's because it was bad luck after bad luck.
You just feel a little out of the loop, if that's you in your avatar pic then you aren't an ugly guy, your young and you have a uniform, you just haven't met the right girl yet, stop looking and it will happen for you.
I gave up all hope and called it quits on bothering wasting my time chasing girls and within a month my now wife walked into my life.
Cupid has a funny way of striking when you aren't expecting it.

Hey there Monty

You have the looks and the resources which is good,

but how many women are you actually meeting?

Going to the gym and all that is great but standing around looking good isn't going to get
you the girls. You shouldn't rely on the girls coming up to you because you look good and women are not really programmed to do it so it will only happen on rare occasion.

I think your main problem is that you may not be approaching enough women. I mean, to get a date you have to at least meet her first, right. You should be approaching girls all the time, not always just to get dates but also to make new female friends.
The bigger your social circles are, the increased chance you will have of finding and attracting
a girl that you like.

I'm sure the right girl is out there for you, the hardest part is to just get out and talk to people who you haven't met and get to know more people. If you are indeed a fun person to be around and good looking, then by statistical frequency , you will find the girl you want.


good luck mate

Sounds like you need to get over yourself, Monty.