Guys, why don't you like bigger girls?

Omg You are hot, I love your hair. I happen to like girls with somewhat broader shoulders and a little bit of roundness in their stomach. And I am not gonna lie in a purely shallow way I like boobs and booties and I tend to like them on the bigger side. I guess I just said I like your boobs lol. I am not a stalker I swear. I tend to be attractive to curvier woman who look more like you. But my look preferences doesn't define who I will date, just who I will glance at while taking metro. I have dated really stick figure skinny girls who had no breasts whatsoever, overweight girls, girls in between. I tent to like short girls but I dated a girl taller than me once. Sometimes I find girls attractive that don't fit my usual type at all. It really is true that personality is more important. I hope this doesn't sound too crude but I happen to like more cushion for the pushin. Guys and girls should realize that looks and good sex do not correlate any better than looks and good relationships correlate or looks and good people correlate. I guess what I am saying is ugly people are good at sex too but you really don't have to worry about that because you are beautiful. Where do you live? I find it hard to believe you don't have too many guys interested in you. Maybe you live in some rich white preppyville. guys outside of that world tend to have some different ideas about beauty

LOL...your far from being big...

.I think you need to seek help because the last thing anyone would want is you to develop an eating disorder. You have to be comfortable in the skin your in.

There seems to be a waist to hip ratio that guys like. As long as you fit into that ratio most guys would like your body.

Oh and you look hot..

your conceded girl!there's nothing wrong with you

South Carolina.lol

You? I'd slap a ham to that ;)

i Like bigger girls. And based on those pictures you are extreamly pretty!

You're not big. Whoever calls you big has distorted view of how healthy looking woman should look like.

You don't look big. Anway, how is it shallow if that is their preference? I'm sure you have your own preference when it comes to guys, right?

Shut up. You're not a 'big' girl. Fishing for compliments...

Just saw the new pic, very lovely!

If you are attractive to me, seemed like you took care of yourself, I would not mind getting with you. Can't have a fat girl friend though, just me. Ummmm, yeah.

Wow, what a knock-out ! you look GREAT. I can see you are happy with the new you.

wow.. I was looking at your pictures and I was expecting something else.. Ok you are a little "overweight" (I hate that word) but its not as bad as you think.. hahah yo you are not fat... and "obese" is completely a technicality... check this out.. I'm 250 and 6'5" 20 years old... if you look at the bmi chart, that's obese.. but if you look at me, there's noooo way I'm obese.. it'll make sense when you realize that muscles hold 3x as much water as fat does.. that's why it weighs more.. I'm not even close to obese lolll its all relative.. but yea your pretty good lookingg ...you might have insecurities but your not a bad person for it.. everyone is insecure about something.. and the best you can do is work on your weaknesses.. and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better.. you really are pretty.. and yes like you said you know you are pretty.. and its true..

As far as shyness, I was shy once too.. but confidence comes from many sources.. the best way that I found out is this... you set a goal.. no matter what that is.. any small or big thing. .whatver and once you reach that goal, you'll gain more confidence from it and it gives you something talk about as far as starting conversations go.. shyness will disappear eventually.. and yea I think your looking in the wrong place also.. hahahah Guys who are just into those specific body types (size 0-4).. they're so superficial that eventually when beauty fades, they will realize that their "love" was based on nothing.. so don't worry about people like that.

All in all, you got it going onnn =)

I think the consensus is you're looking in the wrong mirror or have an insecure view of yourself. At least one guy supports the belief you shouldn't be curling your hair. If there's any girl who should be wearing her hair long and straight it's you. I have no doubt you're attracting guys like bees to honey. Just keep wearing outfits like in this link. : You won't be alone much longer.

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$50 says ur not fat,

I love "thick" girls. There is nothing special about thin girls, cause with thin girls come attitude, conceitedness, and a bunch of other BS which really makes them unattractive. Guys have to much pride and they just want to try to be seen with some girl that they think is going to turn heads. I like a girl who is happy to be herself, in her head she may want to lose a little weight, but she is still happy. I like their personalities and looks a lot more than thin girls.

And btw, your gorgeous, perfect size and I live in Myrtle Beach, SC. Pic and MySpace link in profile.. :P

-Drack V V

You have a nice smile :p

I still don't know where you get the idea you're fat or 'big'.

if your fat your not attractive guys are not shallowe per sey but one thing that they look for first is how a girl looks and then personality the most a guy will accept its like barely chubby
and maybe you look big because of ur clothes it could be the clothes ur wearing

btw your not bad looking at all well the first picture you look hot maybe its ur attitude and the second picture I don't know ur hair looks too short

Girl, I just looked at your pics and you are not a big girl. I think if you feel you are you need to ask yourself why you feel you are. On top of that screw what the "in" crowd thinks is goo/cool. You be you and it will all be just fine.

OK a few things.

1) you're gorgeous.

2) many guys don't find a 0-4 sized women to be bangin' (as least none that I know)

3) my girl has a tummy. don't care. her skin is so gloriously soft, it doesn't even begin to matter.

4) the 'hot guys' are stupid. they're looking for a trophy. If you want to be a trophy then keep hoping for their attention (which is so fail). I'm not suggesting you are, but I have no doubt there's a small section of your world that thinks you're a goddess... I couldn't possibly be kidding.

5) being shy is very hot to me... like very hot. something to be said for modesty. Women who use 'sex as a weapon' are such a turn-off. I'd much rather check you out than a blond in a short business skirt. My girl also falls into this category and her modesty makes me want her more. It's a strange aphrodisiac.

You will be much sought after in college. And if not, try going to a school where the guys have 20/20 vision. I couldn't kid.

And if you can find the difference between 'sexy' and 'trampy', rock the sexy a little and don't forget to smile! :)

I've always believed that its a male competition thing, like survival of the fittest in a new age environment.. If one guy brags about how hot his girlfriend is, then another guy is only going to try and do better then that guy and it never ever stops...

You are a very attractive woman. I can't see from looking at you why anyone would think otherwise. Very lovely pics, and a very lovely smile. Live for yourself, and the right one will come about, and enjoy you for who you are, inside and out.

your cute but its soceity that leads men to want a size 0-4. plus in the bed room size 0-4 can do a lot more and last a lot longer. Toned girls catch males attension due to its the same way with females, a toned guy will catch your attension. Not a size 40 waist male.

I honestly don't like the skinny or skin and bone like most of the world, that isn't healthy, and I don't go for huge huge girls, I go for the normal healthy range of, err, somewhere around 150-220 or so, the skinny, its like you are huggin a stick...and rarely soft to cuddle with...

I certainly wouldn't call you fat. As for a "tummy", I think almost any girl has one unless she's a stick. I think some guys have a "dream girl" concept but a guy with any sense and who is healthy will go with a girl he likes. Now, I'm 6'3" and 175 and look better in a suit than at the gym, so if you're vastly different, we just won't fit. But I don't have to date a supermodel, and I did find a girl who is pretty thin but not unhealthy. Personally, I see the size 0 girls and many (not all) of them look so made up and I just wonder how any guy could tolerate the super-high maintenance craziness they put out. I know guys who have dated that ilk and it's nothing but jealousy, complaining, whining, and pettiness. Maybe I'm rare in that I can't have sex without deep love, but I can't imagine wanting to be with that kind of girl.

As to shyness, since guys typically approach girls, if you can have a conversation, it shouldn't matter. But I do think striking up a casual conversation with a guy (and people in general) will open more doors than waiting to come to you. Guys like myself don't talk to every single girl like players do. So if we miss someone interesting, it might help to come up and say hi.

I don't want to be rude, but I do want to date a girl who at least tries to be healthy. I'm not entirely happy to be working my butt off to look okay in clothes, only to date someone who would rather eat and eat. This isn't me being selfish or rude, this is me being honest and considerate.

When your in a relationship, working out and trying to be healthy is not just a job for yourself but for your partner too.

Now if your talking about voluptuous girls, we'll I absolutely love dating those kind too. ;)

OK, OK...I will give you an honest answer and I hope that is what you really want. First of all, you are NOT FAT. Not Fat at ALL. Get that non-sense out of that head of yours. Now for the bad news...I will tell you what I see according to your pics. First, you need your eye brows plucked. They are a bit too bushy. Then, you need your hair to be styled. Ask some of your girlfriends who is the best stylist they know. Other than that, maybe a bit of make-up and a change of clothing not so dark and you will have it made. Do you think that you might re-submit this question after you make the changes? You are really very pretty.

I'll start by saying the camera doesn't do you justice. From what I can tell, you look gorgeous.
Dunno where you got size 11, you look more of an 8-9 :) Good thing you supplied photos.
You even got to keep your 38DD breasts.. Lucky you!
Now what's this about most guys being into size 0-4?
There is little I find less attractive than a size 0... :L
Oh and your shyness factor could indeed be a factor? lol.
What it does tell me is that you're a little too self-concious :)
You only think no guy looks your way, but trust me they do. Unless they're homosexual. Lol.

theres nothing wrong with you

you have a nice body and you're pretty.


I have some theories:

1) You aren't around enough guys so you aren't having the opportunity for them to go for you

2) Guys do look at you and hit on you but not the ones you want, so you don't count them

3) You are always waiting for the ones you like to approach you, while most guys are probaly too intimidated to get the nerve to say anythng to you

4) You may scare guys away with a personality flaw that you may be unaware of

5) You know that you aren't fat or ugly, and you just posted this to gain a little attention, which is why you felt confident enough to post your pictures up.
(if you need a confidence boost there's no problem with that)



All uou need to know is that the reason you're not pulling in the guys has nothing to do with your appearance and most other guys here will vouch for that, so you need to find out what the real reason is and get the problem under control

You don't look bad AT ALL! You're not fat! You're not ugly, either. Your DD breasts are an asset, not an obstacle! [that didn't sound right at all, lol, but you know what I meant!]

Your shyness is a bit of a factor. If you find a guy you like, don't be afraid to ask him out! If no guy looks your way, look his way!

You got nothing to worry about.

you answered your own question.

to quote you: I don't mean to be rude but almost every guy I've ever met is into the size 0-4 girls with the bangin' bodies.

Note: bangin' bodies. Your words, not mine.

Size 8-11 isn't bad at all. My girlfriend's a size 9. You're hardly overweight, from the sound of it, and I'm NOT going to look at the pics before I write all this.

Now I've looked- yeah, you're not overweight.

But to answer the question in the header: why don't we like fat chicks? (READ: FAT chicks. Nothing wrong with a little extra weight on a girl so long as she weighs less than you.)

We don't like fat chicks because they often abuse words like "curvy" and "a little extra," when they are at least double our weight.

There are many curvy girls out there- actually curvy girls, who make it look good, and yeah you can count yourself among them, but the term's become so heavily (haha) abused that it boggles the mind. The dishonesty just gets to me, so I avoid fat chicks as a general rule unless I'm friends with them first.

Speaking of which- I'm in college and a bio major, which makes me pretty nerdy, but I love playing sports in a group, so when I meet women it is at sporting events- and there aren't too many overweight hockey players or fencers. So as far as women I know, most of the ones I meet tend to have "bangin' bodies." It's not like I seek them out- I just bump into them more often.

I'd say looking in all the wrong places.. Just a personal thought though. Not only that but to answer your other question. Why do guy's not like big big women most often? Cause it shows they have no respect for themselves, or their bodies. If they can't respect themselves how are they gonna treat you when ur married etc.? Hint hint. They're gonna blow up even more like a baloon then that's just nature. lol.

I mean, I guess it's like this, girls hate on us for our penis size, so why can't men hate on women for their fat butt's.

We all have some cross to bear. But would you like a guy who did not have the resources to have fun, or treat you like you think you should be treated? it is not too far from the same thing.

Men are visually oriented, women are drawn to men who are successful. I think it is easier to diet and be thin than to be rich.. girls have the easier access to more attention. At least you KNOW what men will like.

But that being said, there is someone for everyone.. and I am sure you are getting some hits. Enjoy the guys who find you attractive and ignore the guys who like the skinny girls. Simple enough.

Good Luck,
James

OK, so we can't actually see your body in the second picture. But yeah, most of the dudes answering so far are right. You're not fat. Lots of guys want you. There are some guys who don't like the big DD breasts, but there are also guys who are way into it, so no problems there either.

I'm guessing the problem is either you're hanging out in the wrong places, or guys are noticing and you're just not noticing them or you're not responding! The saner ones among us tend to back off if you seem obviously not-interested because we don't want to be creepy.

Your actually very hot, but not to the point of intimidating. I am a shy guy, but if I saw you in a bar, I would try to hit on you :D

If you think you're anywhere near FAT then you're using one of those crazy amusement park mirrors that distort images. I suspect you're no taller than 64". You are as far from ugly as the moon is from the earth. If guys are running away from you it's likely your chest is so big they can't control the resulting erection they're getting just be getting close to you. Consider looking towards guys who are at least 5 years older than you.

i have been with a handfull of bigger women and I think that they are all beautiful. I like plus. no meat on their bones isn't cute. and you don't look bad at all ;)

you need to slow down on the boy hunt...their are plenty of guys looking for love, I'm one of them.

Dude, you're not even fat.

You're hot.

This question is invalid.

From those pictures I wouldn't have classed you as a bigger girl, you look slim and attractive to me.

You may be looking in the wrong places, being shy might have a lot to do with it too. There are a lot of guys out there who want to know they are in with a chance before they approach you. If you're shy you may not be sending out very many signals for the guys to pick up on, or the signals you are sending are too subtle.

I far prefer looking at bigger within, with wider hips, booty, flesh on her arms etc, but when it comes to sex/relationships I prefer a smaller, lighter girl who I can sit on my lap, carry easily, etc.

You are cute. Nothing wrong with you at all whatsoever.

But hey just like how every one of you girls want the creme de la creme of men like tall, muscular, good looking, and rich guy with a nice expensive car that's just how men are with cheerleader type skinny girls.

well ur really good looking and just think ur looking in the wrong places... it could be that the guys are just not mature... well every guy is different and like different things. a lot of the times guys are more conserned more about what other people think about them when there with big girls and if that's the case then you deserve to have a guy that knows ur beautiful and not care what others think.

NO way, your actually very attractive. Don't change a thing about your body, its perfect the way it is. For every guy its different but I would say its a combination of maybe your looking in the wrong places and being shy. As the old saying goes let love find you, you will find a guy that loves who you are when you least expect it. As for being shy it maybe some what a small problem because some guys like shy girls others don't because they feel there the only one saying something.

I know it maybe hard but next time try having a little confidence in yourself and think positive. When you see a guy you like and he's alone go up and say "hi" and smile, you never know, he maybe mr right

It seems odd for me to be relaying the advice a father gave to his son, but here it is:

Getting a "catch" (a first date, getting asked out, what-have-you) is all a numbers game. The more times you play, the more chance you have to win.

For people like me and, perhaps, you... who don't have the radiant personality to match the pearly whites and athletic body... well, the numbers game dictates that we must "play more"... put ourselves in more situations and in acquaintance with more people until we have a "nibble."

Ask yourself: How many people have you had a meaningful conversation (the kind that might potentially lead to something romantic eventually... you know, talking with someone on a bus, at a park, at a club, at a friend's house, whatever) ... in the past week, whom you didn't know? In the past month? The past year?

If that number is low, the amount of time until you get asked out / go out will be higher. Unless you're lucky. As a mathematics major, this all makes sense to me, but of course, you may find more value in other responses. But I hope it helps.

Your a good size. Don't know about other guys but I like "healthy" looking girls, Yes not too big But definatley not TOO small. It's pretty rare I find a "super model" attractive...Just too skinny. You're shyness is probably not helping, But I don't know you or your personality, so all I can say is relax...You're not too big lol.

your not ugly, that's for sure, I'm 17 so I don't have killer advice
but from the girls I've dated, I think being shy is a turn off for some guys, but I don't think you should worry about this! my 6th grade teacher told me (not while I was in 6th grade but when I was about 16) that things will happen on their own, you'll find "the guy" when you least expect it and things just happen. ! hope this helps! =D
ohh and also, I've liked a girl that didn't have a "bangin' body" and I still like her! even tho I shouldnt because she's crushed my little heart...

I can't believe you thought you were ugly! I'm using past tense because I'm hoping from all these comments you understand that you are beautiful. You are not fat and you have an amazing body. I understand why you would feel like that though I am a size 8-10 and I have to often wear a L or XL shirt because of my 34D boobs. I hate going shopping with my size 2 friends because everything looks nice on them and I find it damn near impossible to find jeans that fit my 40" hips/booty (thank god for apple bottom jeans) It was only when I was truly comfortable with my body and gained confidence that I noticed guys were attracted to me. I didn't change physically but I was a lot happier and more outgoing so I guess guys are not just attracted to looks but personality as well.

Maybe they are looking at your girl friends because they dress more provocative than you do. You're not a big or even thick girl. From the pictures I've seen you're just covered / shy about your body. Then again it was only two pictures. Self confidence is carried in body language as well. If you have speculations that you're pretty as opposed to KNOWING you will carry yourself in a different way. Your chin will be higher, you'll smile more, and your clothes will be brighter colors etc. These are all "signs" of self happiness which guys find HIGHLY attractive! There's a lot of pressure on women to be the size 1figure they see in Vogue, Elle, and the Ralph Lauren adds. Most guys LIKE CURVES! Honey you got em. You're beautiful just show it more and I don't mean through more revealing / tighter clothing. Just wear things that are nice and if you want the attention try brighter colors and styles with a touch of glam.

I hope this helps! I've been there as well!

Your not fat, your beautiful and it's there loss.

If your fat then I'm freaking OBESE!

Omg your not even fat. Guys who are into girls that size are sometimes just freaking shallow. You have to find a guy that will love you for you are: your personality and your body. There are a lot of guys out there who like big boobed and volumpous girls.

agreed - stupid social conventions

You may just be looking at the wrong guys and not at all guys out there. Sure, there are guys who want the little gals but there are guys who don't.

You're not fat at all! I don't think men are into girls that are skinnier than you!

no, your a very beautiful girl .. NO HOMO! you don't need to worry about your wieght your not even that big AT ALL. well if you think so you just gotta watch the things you put in your mouth.

I almost have to laugh at you! Your amazingly gorgeous and don't even project it! I'm a size 8-11 and I feel sexier then most women do. Size doesn't matter, its how you project yourself. I walk with my head held high, and I strut myself, because I know I look good. And you should know that you look good! My current boyfriend, back when we were just friends, used to date this one girl. She was tiny, probably a size 3 or so. When we went out together, I would get the male attention, because I had the confidence, while she walked slumped over, making no eye contact, I would smile and make eye contact with everyone who walked by. When they were together, they never held hands, I think I saw them kiss once in the whole year they dated, there was just no affection because she had such low confidence. I on the other hand have to sometimes pry him off of me when we go out. He wants the world to know I am off limits. See, size doesn't matter whatsoever. It's how you act, I understand that your shy, but that doesn't mean you can't walk tall with your head up high, put a little swagger in your walk. Trust me, little things like that will get you all they guys you want.

I'm a small girl and no guy is currently interested in me so it's really not a size issue. I don't think it's shallow to be attracted to a certain body type because girls like certain body types on guys as well. You honestly don't even look big to me and are cute, so it's just that you haven't found the right guy yet. Be patient and you'll find what you're looking for.

You look fine- you look like a friend of mine actually, but slimmer xxxx

I wanna know why you think its shallow for guys to be attracted to a certain ideal?

Sweetheart, I'm the same way. For forever, I could not get guys to look my way. And when they did, it was at my chest. I started to put myself out there a little more and met new people. Since then, I've had more boys who are friends and boyfriends. Actually I started wearing clothes that made me feel more confident and that helped me to be able to get confidence to talk to people and get them to notice me in return. Oh, and P.S, a little clevage never hurt anyone:)

You will find a man who loves everything about you. I wouldn't even worry about those who can't see you for you. Keep working it girl and keep that head held high!

Darling, you're not big at all - so don't even worry about that. Your shyness may have some factor, but that might be because you're with your friends in social settings, and so they take over the conversation and demand the attention. You need to get comfortable with yourself and accept the fact that you're beautiful (which you are)... then that confidence will be contagious. You seem really sweet, and when you find the right guy, he'll appreciate it immensely.

You're cute and not even big. You look thin to me. It's probably your own insecurity about your weight that comes off as unattractive.

I think you look great! I don't know where you're from or anything, but I'm the same exact size. I'm about 5'8 and a size 8-11 depending on if it's work clothes or jeans. Honestly, they make jeans for girls who are about 12 years old I think. My boyfriend always tells me it's a lot hotter to have a girl with curves in the bedroom opposed to a little skinny barbie doll. He said he wouldn't lie they are good to look at but that's about it. You can't change your form, but if you're worried about excess stomach weight just go to the gym or work out. I know I started to and it worked magically for me. Also what kinds of guys are you into? Some guys prefer a certain type of girl and you know what, to each their own. Who wants to bang a boney b**** all nite anyway? I've had guys with skinny girlfriends hit on me and say they'd love to be with me because they hate what goes on behind closed doors, and my body is much more womanly and it's a turn on. These guys were also the ones you'd never expect to be saying that too and I'm sure you know exactly what I mean. Don't let it get you down hun there is someone out there for everyone, just be you, and someone will fall for the act. :) goodluck!