Is being the "comic relief" bad?

Are you kidding? Women LOVE guys who make them laugh until they cry. And the older you get, the more you'll have them falling over to get to you. A great sense of humour is fantastically sexy, and just about the best dating tool you'll ever have. I don't think it looks needy at all to want the people around you to have a great time - I think it looks sweet and actually quite caring, as well as sometimes being unpredictable and outrageous. That's a killer combination!

That said, there is absolutely nothing worse than someone who isn't genuinely funny but is convinced that they're the reincarnation of George Carlin. Some guys get convinced that they're hilarious when they just aren't. They force the humour and generally act like a bit of an idiot, tiring everyone around them. I have a guy friend who is convinced that he's a comic genius, when his sense of humour consists of nothing more than bad puns and obvious crude jokes. He makes posts online and then circulates them expecting everyone to tell him what a hilarious guy he is. It's boring and people get tired of pretending to laugh when he's around. That's not sexy at all!

I'm sure that this isn't the case with you, though. I don't think you'd be asking this question if you were like that, because it suggests a level of self-awareness that is way beyond my friend! I'm just saying that there's a big distinction between someone who can genuinely have the entire room in tears of laughter and someone who just tries too hard.

If humour comes naturally to you, however, that's a great gift! You'll have em falling at your feet.

i like guys who make me laugh. but if your there to be anothewr guys comic relief. then you need to get out of that situation. frommy p.o.v. , comic reliefs are there incase the other guy runs out of things to say. don't try too hard though. and if your naturally funny, then that's great ! girls love funny guys. I think anyone can be attracted to anyone. so if a girl likes you then she just will.

OK all women are going to say "Yes we love funny guys" but you have to understand that women don't have a 'list' of options like men do. I could be wrong but I've noticed guys sort of have almost all women on a list of possible girlfriends and then you just order the list putting the girls you are most attracted to at the top and the least at the bottom. And if you ended up on some desert island and felt lonely, you might make a play for the girl at the bottom of the list.

Women don't think that way. Not all guys are on the list. So what that means is, yes we love funny guys because, I hate to say it, but bobair is right, women like men who are dancing monkeys. They entertain us and make us happy. But that doesn't mean that we want to be sexual with them.

A girl saying she wants a funny guy is like a guy saying he wants a funny girl. It doesn't mean what you think. A guy saying he wants a funny girl means he wants a girl who actually gets his jokes and laughs at them. He doesn't want someone funnier than him. And a girl saying she wants a funny guy means she wants to sit back and watch her guy make the whole room laugh. She doesn't want the guy who is cracking jokes all through out a romantic dinner.

NOW, that doesn't mean that you can't be funny. My boyfriend is absolutely hilarious. People pee their pants when he gets going. But he doesn't joke with me none stop. He rarely makes jokes at me. And at first I thought it was odd but because he is serious, listens, and talks with me, I find that part very sexy. This may sound odd but a naturally funny guy who is serious just to you, as a woman, makes you feel special. It makes you feel like he is hiding his true self to everyone else but giving you the real him.

So entertain the friends of the girl you like but be serious with her. She needs to see what's under the jokes to get to know you. BUT if she is always telling you her problems and always wants to talk but never has time for you, run away cause she is using your ability to listen.

If that's you in the picture, you're a good looking guy. So just know a good looking guy, who listens, and can make a girls friends laugh is a woman's dream cause all her friends will be jealous.

Girls absolutely ADORE guys who can make them laugh. Besides being attractive (that sounds shallow), this is possibly one of the best qualities to have. You need to show a girl that you can also be serious, but being funny is great ;)

I love someone who can always make me laugh- it can defuse an akward moment, make a crappy day better, and keep me entertained if we're stuck somewwhere dull and boring. Plus, if he's funny, I know I'll always have fun with him. Just try to make sure you show you have a serious side too, because as much as I love to laugh, I also need to know you're there for me to talk to when life gets rough and that you can take some things (ie responsibilty, relationships) seriously.

When women say they are attracted to a guy who can make them laugh,


they are thinking about Brad Pitt in Oceans 11, not Jim Carey in Ace Ventura.


Way more unfunny rockstars get laid than funny comedians.

You can be funny, when you want to be, but don't be her laughing monkey.

you don't even have to be 'funny' just entertaining, and generally a fun person to be around.


James Bond isn't really fun, but he is adventuous and entertaining. Now I'm not saying be a fictional character but you get the idea.

to be her boyfriend she has to trust you, feel safe with you and enjoy being around you.

Women LOVE funny guys, because it shows he's intelegent and social...

BUT...

Women HATE that needy guy who's a Dancing Monkey, and who's desperate for everyone's attention.

DONT be the clown that goes home alone. Be the funny guy who's still unsure if she's cool or boring.

If you want girls to "desire" your company, you need to change your mindset from "How can I act in such a way that they'll like me, and find me entertaining" to "I already know I'm an awesome guy with deep insights into the world that any girl would find fascinating if she spent time with me... but is she worth keeping around long enough to open up to, or is she boring me right now?"

See the difference? One mindset is you being needy ("Please like me") - AND one is you having High Value ("Is she good enough for me?")

Women can tell in a split second if you're being needy, or fun.

~ Robby

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