I really don't understand this girl!?!

I think you should just ask her to go out with you. If she says no at least you'll know the truth and can move on

well you said that she sees a boyfriend as someone she can be good friends with first ,so its good that she obviously feels comfortable with you. comfortable= good friends= possible dating

your in a good position, she likes you! :)




p.s. she probably told you she's insecure so you would tell her that she's beautiful and all that good stuff so keep complimenting her (but make sure its not too much, it won't mean as much if you over-do it and it can get really annoying)

Your about to fall into the friend zone buddy, if you keep this up. Not ready for a relationship she lying to you. The constant texting, not a good thing, calling her pretty all the time, and her sending you funny little emails, ya that's bad news buddy, if a girl starts doing things like this she's being friendly to you, and the more you get buddy buddy with her the more your going to be her buddy.

So you need to stop all this before there is to much damage done. The flirting is good, but what you really need to do is ask her on a date, and then if she agrees and you actually go then try and kiss her, but if she says something like ummm I don't know not ready for relationship or we should be better off as friends, that's it pull up anchor and find yourself another fishing spot, this one will never be landed, so cut your loses and find another chick.

FIRST, THE BAD:

- Telling her how you feel. Boring... zzzzzzzz.

- Her saying "I'm not ready for a relationship" means "I'm not interested in you... yet." She likely has her eyes on someone else anyways. And he's not giving her the "I like you speech."

- Text'ing her things like "You're beautiful." That's like saying, "Here's a compliment, now please like me!"


THE GOOD:

- Touching her. Grabbing her hands from time to time. This is part of escalation.

- She texts you randomly - means she's being open and friendly.

- She's not being awkward. More signs she's open.


NEXT STEPS:
Telling her how you feel, and text'ing her compliments are all huge mistakes that every other guy is also making, so don't feel bad. But learn to NEVER do it again. EVER. Text her ONCE for every THREE texts she sends you.

Girls don't want to logically know how you feel about them, UNTIL LONG AFTER you're already dating. NOT BEFORE!

But everything else you're doing is good. Giving her space? Good. Holding her hands. Good.

Now you need to build tension (ATTRACTION) and you need to ESCALATE.

ATTRACTION:
Flirting/teasing/sexual tension.

Teasing her about her ridiculously huge purse, but then complimenting her taste in shoes.

Teasing her about lipstick on her teeth, but them offering to help her with your tongue.

Teasing her for being so short, but then pulling her in for a hug.

Teasing her about being your secret lover, but complaining that she's got no game in bed.

Teasing her about having no boyfriend, but then telling her you'll take her out for an ice creme to make her feel better.

ESCALATION:
Take action. More touch. More "date" like time together.

Convince her to join you for dessert at that cool new shop downtown.

Convince her to join you for movie night at your place Sunday night, after Chinese food and some wine.

By this point she should be pretty comfortable with your attention and affection, and should be returning it openly. If she's not teasing you back, and she's not hitting your arm every time you make a bad joke, then she's not there yet.

But if she's laughing, if she's giving you compliments, and she's willing to hug you, hold your hand, or walk arm in arm, then it's time to kiss her. Mid date.

The guys who end up in the "friend's zone" are the guys who don't escalate.

Learn to keep pushing things forward, endlessly, until she's pregnant and you're married.

~ Robby

Full of Hate and Ready to Date? My Blog: link

Girls are very different (obviously, but sometimes we can forget because they seem so alike). She won't have forgotten you like her. She said what she said because she knows she likes at least one other guy more or the same amount as you. She's actually being really mature and by the sounds of it so are you.

My advice to you is to just be the friends you are, your comfort together will propell you both towards the right relationship. This is actually more important than anything else, jepordising the comfort is bad as its misread as unattraction. Also equally bad is to back off too much romantically, but by the sounds your keeping up the flirting well.

Don't be afraid to remind her every now and then how you feel by asking her somewhere "as my date" to re-enforce that your _properly_ serious about her. Not in a pushy way, just in a fire and forget fashion. Upmost, just be her friend and keep that flirting going.

Remember, if your really serious about a girl, you aren't thinking in the scope of weeks, months or years but lifetimes. If your not thinking in lifetimes then she's maybe not the girl for you and just enjoy her friendship.