This guy and I have been having sex for a month now, before we hooked up he was always telling me he was too busy for a relationship, so when we started having sex I figured we were just a FWB and was okay with that, even thought I wanted more. After we first hooked up, we started going to dinner, movies, and just in general hanging out more. Then last week a mutual friend saw us at the store together and asked me if he was now my boyfriend, I said no. He seemed kinda quiet after that until we got in the car and he said something like, so I'm not your boyfriend. There was never any mention of him wanting to be my boyfriend, he never asked me if I wanted to go out with him. I'm just kinda lost on what we are to each other. I'm used to guys asking me out and not just assuming. Was there an unwritten rule I didn't know about?
Just ask him. You'll never know for sure until you do. You could maintain the status quo but it just might end badly. FWB only work when both people want the exact same thing, communication is key. But if you both want to be more, then do it.
I agree with the other post. Time invested can define if its just a FWB relationship. A FWB is just more of a hit it and see you next week kind of thing. But a real relationship consists of dates and lots of time spent together. He shouldnt really be upset that you said you two were just friends, nothing was spoken to say otherwise, but if it truly hurt him then I would assume he really cares for you.
Wow, I have to admit, this is kind of refreshing; where the GUY is the one that seems more emotionally invested in an FWB situation. I think the main issue to discuss is monogamy/time spent together. It seems that with FWBs, the unwritten rule is that neither person is expected to be exclusive with the other. You're both keeping your options "open". Like, if you met another guy tomorrow and went out on a date, your FWB wouldn't/shouldn't be upset. As long as there's no deception on your part. :-) As far as him saying he was too busy for a relationship. The fact that he's making time for you to go on dates is his way of telling you you're more than an FWB, I think. TIME spent together is key to determining what's a relationship or FWB situation. I know, it sucks having to guess these things but I have a hunch he wants more now. Hopefully you can discuss this with him directly. Good Luck! :-)
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 7 months ago
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