From a guy's perspective...

One of the other commenters mentioned that you wrote a related question and I looked it up. After reading it, I still have the same advice for you. This is not a healthy situation for you and you should take a step back.

You said that you asked him something like, "what are we doing?" He didn't respond. He is still being intimate with you even though he is dating someone else. Both of these things need to be taken care of before you can relax. You should tell him that you don't want to share a bed until his issues with the other girl and with what he wants from you are resolved. You are worried because you don't know what is going on.

Also, you should be worried about getting together with a guy who is cheating on his girlfriend. He isn't having sex with you, but he is very involved with you. I'm guessing that you would not want your boyfriend having the same kind of relationship with some girl as you have with this guy. Cheaters usually don't change. Don't fool yourself with the stuff about how he doesn't have a great relationship with his girlfriend. I know you don't need me to tell you how old that line is.

Bottom line: this guy might be great under other circumstances, but right now he is acting like a d*** towards you and towards his girlfriend. You need to stop being so intimate with him or you will get really hurt. You also need to ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who would not be proud to introduce you to his friends. You sound smart and I think you could do better!

That's be a guy that's probably in love with you and is hoping that one day you'll turn around and say "I've always wanted you." He probably changed the topic because he was embarrassed.

If you do 'love' him, as in want to be with him sexually, than let him know. If you don't, you're probably going to break his hearth, but you should also stop "leading him on" (I don't mean that to sound nasty). You should really not let him sleep in your bed, and probably 'ween' him off.

I don't know about him but I couldn't sleep in the same bed with a girl without getting deep inside her vagina.

i would say that would be the fast track to boyfriend and gf, remember its a mere tip toe until you kissingthen "sleepping together"

females can tend to be a bit intimadating due to a male doesn't want to show signs of weakness. He could be comfortable that way because I have a girl that allows me just to sleep over while next to her for any day I want

That would be a guy needing you to initiate.

weird. what does the person sharing the bed with him want from him.

he's gay. Any straight guy would be pounding that already after the 1st night

I think he's gay, and I'm not just saying that I really think he is.

Gay?

Shy?

I dunno.

Ted

Opt.A) Some really close friendship
Opt.B) Something that will lead into a relationship one day but both of "us" are afraid to talk about this happening

Sadly I can't tell you what "your guy" is thinking :?

love

A friend who doesn't wana sleep on the floor?

He's shy. Sounds like you kind of rejected him when he tried to kiss you. I should think that it is pretty obvious that he likes you but is afraid of how you will respond so he is taking what he can get, namely your strange dawson's creek-esque platonic relationship. Also, why would you say he is weird? Seems to me like you are leading him on in a pretty cruel way.

Aargh! Confusing.

This happened to my friend. The guy later got a girlfriend. I think he like feeling close to my friend. She made him feel secure. He liked that she was so accepting of him; a girlfriend probably would have made more demands of him. But in the end, he just wasn't attracted to her.

If this is happening to you and this guy has given you no clue that he is attracted to you, then (unless he has a super-shy personality) I would guess that he is not attracted to you as a girlfriend. The way to find out for sure would be to ask him.

I don't think there is anything wrong with having close friends of the opposite sex if both people are clear on the status of the relationship. But you are feeling confused. I would advise putting a stop to the sleeping arrangements. If you don't, you risk becoming attached and finding it hard to move on and find someone. Also, when he does find a girlfriend, he'll suddenly stop being so intimate with you and this could be a wrenching experience for you. So I'd take control now and start resetting your behavior around this guy. If he is attracted to you, then you can sleep together again, no problem!