Where can I find a good man?

I'm right here!

simple, your looking in the wrong places, stop going after womanizers and players. there are plenty of good guys out there that want a relationship. you just got bad taste for them. hate to tell you the truth but there it is. you seem like the girl that's into bad boys and sh*t. when guys know that they are sought after they will use you. go after something else not bad boys lol. trust me they ain't that bad anyway, they are glamour puss actors lol. f*** em kid, I mean forget them not in bed lol. anyway, listen to me, no more players allright.

they are out there, some way or another they'll appear. you don't want to appear easy or despirate either.

stop looking start seeing. your tired of being used and abused. your done with bad boys and want a nice guy. welcome to realization of reallity. if you have a guy as a friend and he's nice to you and isn't taken and you went out with him a long time ago. ding ding! we have a winner. most guys like to be friends with girls to get close to them or have the possiblity of a another try. it's idiototic I know but were guys half the time we can't tell the deffrents between love and testoseron. anyway if you don't have a male stright friend... try a internet dating site ehamony or true, my cheamistrstry. but this is okay too.

I'm already spoken for...sorry. :-)

Don't know you, but your pen name msbossy could be a clue. To all you women out there...quit trying to tame Mr Badboy. Look for the nice, honest, sincere man...He's the one still gonna be there when Mr Badboy is dating somebody else.

this has been a long line of praying for that. Gotta build one up it seems. Start from scratch and mold a relationship into a rose. Just take care of it properly and it shouldn't wither.

Based upon my considerable life observations, I suggest you limit yourself to considering only slim, 54-year-old men from Florida, who are well-read, with at least some background in the music business, and an admitted preference for good jazz and ethnic foods. If you should find one also possessed of a touch of cynicism and a dry sense of humor, you'd best do everything in your power to make him your own. found yourself a keeper for certain. No need to thank me, as I'm "all about" looking out for the welfare of others.

i think the question is how would you describe a goo man?

The best way to meet someone in real life.. is through a friend or a family member or someone you already know.. and someone who knows you well.. because they are the only ones who can be a good judge of your future companion's character.. I personally don't like online sites and all that b.s.. maybe in traditional but I'm only 20.. I just don't like the possibility of the fake people.. even though people have met "soulmates" on websites.. I don't buy it.

I suggest craigslist or okcupid. They're both free. Eharmony got my cousin married to a girl named Chastity (mormon). The kicker? Her new last name is Botily.

(Chastity bodily).

Still, if you are looking for someone really long-term (the dating sites tend to be more for desperate men), I suggest going to places out of the way of the usual party scene- try a LAN party, or ask your friends if they have any cute boys looking for a relationship.

Once more. Serendipity: link
If you give the impression you're looking too hard the other gender will avoid you or abuse it.

Success!

I feel the same way only in reverse. I am a reformed player who ended up falling in love with an immature girl. We dated 4 years, I was amazing to her, put her on a pedestal.. just to have her leave me because she "wonders what else is out there". Crushed. All I want is a strong, stable and loving relationship. I am so afraid of being alone.

you could give online dating a try and create a nice profile for yourself that attracts the type of guys you want , if your not into the online options you could try and get out some more and hit up places where the type of guys you like tend to go to . which could be clubs , special events , stores maybe , I don't know those kinds of places

well, I read the question, then I saw your screen name "msbossy"
and thought of an old boss I used to work for, an attractive woman, but a total bitch. too demanding.
before you start asking if there are any "real men" maybe you should ask yourself
"am I want real men WANT?!"

Every man is ready for a "real" relationship, with the right woman. Even the best of people who are ready for a real relationship can come a cropper of the wrong partner. Even joe creep is a steady man for the right woman (though that woman is probably fictional lol).

I'm not saying your the wrong partner (to be clear), I am just pointing out that the problem is not that the man is not ready for a real relationship, but just that you have experienced several unsutiable relationships (possibly with bad men).

Its good your tired of games. So... layout your cards, join a dating site or partake in some speed dating, find a likely lad and spend time together as friends and learn about each other. Its all anyone can do. It may work, you may split up, but the longer you can "remain just friend that want to spend time together" and not get into a sexual relationship, the better chances he's a good man.

If your just looking to "settle" for someone steady though, you could pick any religious man, join and honor his religion and just settle for what that religion says (so arranged marriage, that your current partner is the one god choose.. whichever you like).

Keep looking, he's there somewhere, and if you can't find him, well maybe that's a sign too.

Personally, if the girl I love never chooses to marry me, well, I'll accept that as life. I'll find something else to make me happy and just enjoy the close female friendships I have.

It's been said that the business of being a man is getting to become a man, and the business of being a women is waiting for men your age to get up to snuff. So just because you're ready and willing, it doesn't mean that there's anyone out the right for you. It's lame I know.

if ur not looking,
he will come. just don't worry
be patient you have a whole life ahead of you to find a man
wish you much luck(:

Network! Have large get together's where friends can bring other single friends. The larger you make the social circle, the more chances you have of meeting a great guy. And it helps that your friends can vouch for his character. I always appreciated that. Also, if you are a religious person, going to church events and functions are a good place to casually meet people that you can become friends with, and potentially date.

Don't give up! It may take a while,but I preferred being single over having messy and "complicated" pseudo dating experiences. Some guys these days are just crazy (as are the ladies, don't worry guys!) Just know that the right guy is wandering around this earth somewhere, and I'm sure he can't wait to meet you one day.

Best of luck!

Where to look...hmm at the club, at the library, at the mall, at a coffeeshop, at a bookstore, at the grocery...they are EVERYWHERE! I honestly believe the world is full of good men we as women are just too obsessed about trying to find the "perfect man" with breathtaking looks and an amazing personality etc--but we often forget to ask ourselves do we in turn have that to offer? I just think you need to actually put yourself out there and get up from behind your computer screen to meet some men. Generally a good hello can lead to some friendly conversation...and then just let it flow naturally from there

lol I want to know that too
I 've met one who did open my eyes quite a bit
they are rare and they aren't always one hundred percent perfect lol
there' s no particular place but if you get to now people for a bit of time, it helps

Someone once told me, if I enter a room full of men and one ignites me like a candle then that is the one to avoid. We sometimes are attracted to the jerks because they appear more aggresive and determined. But the good guys are out there, they are just the ones who don't try to get their way with you, those are the ones to spot. It is a good sign if you can have an easy going conversation and if they appear a little nervous is good too.

are you ready? Online dating is really come a long way. Good place to look. But go to events you like alone. Gives you more of a chance to meet someone and actually connect with them