I have been going out with this girl for a while now. And what's weird is she accepts EVERY single day I asked if she wanna hang out. We talk almost everyday - online/offline. And its a balanced thing - if I don't talk, she talks. If she dont, I do.
When we hang out together, its kinda comfortable and stuff. There's hardly any awkward moments. It's just too good?
So, yup, on 8th October - I asked if I had a chance, she said yes. And I asked if she'd accept me. She say "Hmm. Kinda fast." I took it as "maybe" so we just agreed to see what happens.
Now? We are still going out and such. She never said no. It's good that we are spending time, but I got a whole lot of things and places to show her! But its not possible cos I wanna take it to the next level.
Sounds like I'm stuck in a friend-zone thing. But if she knows it...lol damn I'm confused.
Oh boy. Your first big mistake is asking her to hang out every single day, whether she accepts or not. There's something to be said for patience, build-up, and anticipation. If you don't have that, your situation is already getting off on the wrong foot. No matter how much you like someone initially, don't overdo it. Once a week in the beginning is fine and it gives you both something to look forward to that will strengthen your personal time together. Even online or offline, don't overdo it at first. Don't stay on too long, leave room for a next conversation or date. It sounds like both of you are being too instantly available which is unhealthy in the sense that you should both have your own lives and friends. Healthy people do, and whether someone agrees to that time or not, it's going to look desperate and like you have no life if you just spend every single day together right off the bat, it's destined for burn-out. It becomes somewhat lazy and comfortable and too friendship-oriented when you both take each other for granted. It sounds like you have a problem with confidence, if you actually used the wording 'Do I have a chance?' It suggests that you aren't sure that you do. Women aren't attracted to that and won't see you as a potential date if you have to ask something that way. Women are attracted to people who know they have a chance and just go for what they want, not people that actually have to stop and ask if they are liked or have a chance in heck. That's probably why she was hesitant to agree, she might already have lost some respect because you are too insecure. If you are stuck in friends zone, these actions are most likely responsible. Next time, do this all differently. To see if it's salvageable, change the rules. Make yourself less available, but continue to let her know you are interested. Take her on nice dates, and make a real effort to assert that you have value and that this is a romantic thing, not a friendship. Stand up for yourself, stand up for her, and believe in yourself. That's what it's about.
So I have a question about this. What if she is seeing another guy or guys too? Then what? What if she is telling them that the two of you are just friends?
I don't think you're stuck in the friend zone, it seems like she likes you more than a friend she just wants to take things slow. If you want to get her keep doing what you're doing, don't rush things just enjoy the time you have together and when the time is right she'll let you know.
You need to sit her down and talk to her about how your feeling. Maybe she is just be cautious, I'm sure like most people she has been hurt before let her know how you truly feel about her and I'm sure her walls will come down. Good Luck
Shes considering it an option...sometimes girls who have already put you into the friend zone, have to adjust to not thinking of us as friends. . .She may be needing a little bit of time to consider the pros and cons of it all... I know when I had dated friends that it had been a concern of theirs that if a relationship didn't work out, if we would/could still be friends... most the time, from my experience anyways, we have not continued to be friends. So, I would give her time, keep showing her that you deserve her and that she deserves you. . . just be sweet with her, but don't show it too much. . .sometimes girls get comfy with the whole, You're my friend and act like a boyfriend but I'm just going to keep you as a friend...I have always taken that as being taken advantage of...but, depends on the individual I guess... But, yeah. give her some time, keep showing interest... don't kiss her butt TOO much, but just enough to show her that you are interested. . . that's all I got..hope it works out for ya
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