Why do nice guys finish last? And the jerk win?

This is so much easier than you are making it out to be. WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO JERKS. Anyone who describes themselves as "nice" or "shy" is usually using a polite word to mean "fearful". Women aren't attracted to scared men, especially ones that are afraid of them. It has nothing to do with nice vs. bad, women prefer nice. It's the confidence and assertiveness commonly found in guys with an edge that will always give them just that. They have a clear advantage because they know what they want, they pursue it, they tend to be confident and assertive, look girls in the eye, don't procrastinate in telling someone what they want or asking them out, have open body language, aren't intimidated by others and don't blame others for their inability to get women, and they stand up for themselves and their girl if a situation arises. Period. If a nice guy were to do any of these things, he'd have more of an advantage than anyone else. However, that's not the case. A "nice" guy for example doesn't look a girl in the eye because he thinks it's rude. A nice guy doesn't talk to a girl at a club because he doesn't want to interrupt her and her friends talking. A nice guy doesn't step in and defend a girl because he claims he's not a fighter. Why would a girl want any of the aforementioned qualities? It boils down to the early bird getting the worm precisely because he's on time and willing to do the work required to not only get a girl, but keep her interested and show her he's interested, not hide behind some veil or feel sorry for himself.

I've learned that the dating scene is full of all kinds of crazy behavior. As for me, it's not that I don't like the nice guys but it's the placid and no build up that gets boring. We want to feel our heart race. I DEF don't want to be played with but I also don't want a guy that's not going to be some kind of challenge. I don't want a guy calling me up all the time or texting me all the time. Make me wait a bit, let me miss you. I can deal with this kind of game. What I can't deal with is a flirt that likes to spread himself thin. That's a real JERK and I'm not into that at all.
This is a tough little thing. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. We girls have to deal with the same strange behavior by the way. You guys chase us and chase us and then when you finally get our attention, you withdraw. If that's not confusing I don't know what is! Look, don't be an *sshole, but don't be such a push over.
Unfortunately this is a game of risk. Yes, you risk losing a girl if you are too much of a jerk (I wouldn't even call it being a jerk) but if she likes you, she'll hang around. I would.

Guys that are jerks usually aren't jerks to the girls they're dating in the beginning. It's not like "Hey bitch go out with me" lol. They hide their jerkiness and camouflage it with charm and sincerity. By the time the girl is hooked, then his jerky nature comes out and by that time the girl is too attached to leave and she thinks she can change him because she doesn't know the jerk was the real him.

Also all "nice guys" are not good guys either. I took a chance on this guy that was low-key, kinda shy and not the flashy cocky stereotypical jerk. This guy turned out to be a huge asshole and ended up cheating on me anyway. After I dated him he got really cocky and thought he should get more girls. So some girls start to think that nice guys are manipulative and fake and date jerks because at least they know what they're getting into.

Were you a doormat who didn't take any initiative before? That's a huge turn-off. To most girls, so are guys who treat them like dirt. Assertive nice guys are the ideal.

well typically speaking aren't nice guys more shy? I'd say so they might be surrounded with a ton of female friends but most of them either has a crush on them (that they are unaware of) or their female friends only see them as friends.

Why do nice guys finish last? I think in most cases the nice guys don't make the move when it's needed and when the girl see no signal then they will only think that "they are just friends"

as for the "jerks" they are well confident, they have a backbone and challenges the girl and provide a mystery cover for the girl to discover.

don't get me wrong I'm not trying to have the nice guys act as jerks but I just think that the nice guys should make the move when they feel the vibe. ... I could be wrong. .. though.

To be honest, it is because nice guys don't excite us. Women want to be liked by everyone, generally, so when we see a bad guy who doesn't like people, we instantly want to be with him because we think that maybe we can change him or that we are so special that he will treat us differently. Because the nice guys are nice to everyone, we don't feel challenged or special when nice guys are nice to us. If we get a bad boy to be nice to us, it feels like a strange feminine victory.
I like the refer to this behavior as the "Beauty and the Beast" trait. Little girls are trained from infancy to be nice to everyone and make things in the world better somehow. We see things like "Beauty and the Beast" where a mean, grouch of a man who is rude and hurtful is magically changed into a handsome prince by Belle's love. We just grow up thinking that we can change men into something better, so we seek out those jerks to see if we can make them better with our love. We don't have to change the nice guys, because you are already good men.
Some girls will never break their bad boy addiction, but many women will grow tired of it and begin to seek out the nice guys. Just be patient, don't change your ways to attract those kinds of women. There are plenty of girls out there who are waiting for a nice guy to sweep them off their feet. They are just harder to find, and are sublter than the bad boy loving girls.

Because the streotypical nice guys that finish last aren't assertive and confident about themselves as the jerks are... and act a bit more like push overs instead.

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