Ok so basically my ex and I have had this thing for awhile, ever since we broke up about 3 years ago (not physical at all). He's my first love, and even though sometimes I doubt his feelings I have a pretty strong feeling that I'm the first girl who he's ever loved too. Well anyways we go through periods of not talking to each other (weeks usually). We do this because we're both stubborn and don't want to be the first person to go up to each other. We don't say our feelings to each other because I guess we both really think it'll be awkward and also because we are soooo bad at telling our feelings. I really want to tell him that I still love him and that every guy I meet or who tries to talk to me I ALWAYS compare them to him and they NEVER can measure up to him in my eyes. But I'm terrified of being that crazy ex girlfriend who after 3 years can't get over you and that he won't even want to be my friend. But even if I do get the courage up to tell him, I don't know how to do it. Since we have really bad communication skills. And we're both never alone for a long enough time to tell him.
Things that he does that makes me think he's still interested: Stares and smiles at me for a long time (not seconds, but more like close to minutes, get jealous over any guy who likes me and threatens to fight them, wants me to have his hoodie, asks what kind of guys I like, asks my best girl friend what her and I talk about and if I talk about him, Surrounds himself with girls who look like me (red hair, personality, etc. ), compliments me, buys me dinner, introduces me to all of his friends, he doesn't even talk to girls when I'm around him and from what I've heard he doesn't even talk to them when I'm not around
But all of these things I can see as just a guy friend doing since we both consider each other best friends, but I'm not sure if that's just an excuse I'm making up to tell myself.
Update: So I totally forgot to add something! My friend said that she was going to go up to him the next time she sees him and tell him to ask me out. This is a bad idea right? Or is it actually a good thing to have done?
6 months ago
Yeah have your friend do this. And when she comes back to tell you what he says, then you'll know. The whole communication thing with: don't say too much, don't express your feelings, don't give yourself up---that's all rubbish once you guys have already gone out and have already been together. Both of your communications have to be up to par in order for this to work. Miscommunication=Excommunication. Find out what your girlfriend says and then you can move on from there. It sounds like you guys were made for each other, so just be with him then.
Yeah I agree. But our old relationship we had even more bad communication skills between us. We were young back then though. But that's definitely not an excuse and I really wish that we'd get past that and show our feelings. I'm going to try that and see how it works, thank you! - 6 months ago
Well he seems to be still interested in you, as it may be said but! You don't want to be wrong so if you are comfortable with his friendship let everything be as it be. You shouldn't press for answer that are already there, if he really wants to get back with you (the signs are clearly saying it) then let him make that move to a relationship.
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