Hey guys well, here is everything broken down...i been friends with the girl I like for over a year, and I really don't know how to tell her, I'm worried about loosing her as a friend or making things awkward. She's a really sweet and amazing but she's a real party girl living the college life, and I'm more of her serious mature side if you want to put it that way. Even last night when I went out to party with her I really couldn't dance with other girls even though she was dancing with other guys..just didn't feel right inside. I'm a real simple guy and In my eyes she's the most beautiful girl out there. she always gets involved with the wrong guys who just want something out of her or gets attention from the wrong people. theirs just so much behind it, and I'm just really stressed out and where to go from here so any help would be appreciated
Ok, so I was/am that girl and my best friend is basically you in this scenario. This might not be the answer you want to read but this is just my perspective. As I keep moving through college my friend has been by my side hearing me complain about the lifestyle I've been living, the men etc. and he has put himself out there to be with me. Over my 4 years I have actually calmed down quite a bit and have actually got to a point where I'm thinking that I do want to be with him as I know that he's been there for me through it all which is amazing. I just don't know how to finally tell him the truth after all this time... But this is about you right now, not me. so: if you have put yourself out there for you and you think she knows where your coming from just let it be for now as hard as it is. Try to maintain the friendship with her and be there for her, but don't keep forcing the matter as it will be awkward for her. I'm not just advising you to sit around and wait for her, keep on living and interacting because you never know when a situation with someone could arise. Eventually she may feel the same like I did/ or not but I hope you guys can keep a friendship through all this :)
Thanks! and I totally see where you are coming from, just what sucks is she talks to me when she's down or I text her and something is wrong we talk, but other than that I really can't be there cause I mean she obviously doesn't come to me about everything, and she doesn't make the best choices. even now I don't know what her deal is but the dude she's is/was talking to is a big ass tool and is screwing other girls aswell I don't know if she knows but I sure do, and it bothers me cause she cnt see me - 20 days ago
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If its too hard to just be friends or you want the acknowledgement I think you deserve pull back. You're her comfort zone and without you just there on a phonecall or demand she will probably realize how helpful you are to her, and hopefully not just call you for a pick me up. I believe friendship needs to go 2 ways and both parties need to make an effort to be there for one another- so you shouldnt get short changed.
PS...Side note...Pats and Brady suck - 20 days ago
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Yeah that's what one of my friends said either I can pull back and wait it out and she might realize down the road or she might not. I can wait in silence or do something about it...its not like she's going anywhere. But still bothers me thinking about it each day and I kick myself in the head like why didn't I tell her last night or anything.
Wow. You are so amazing and sweet. Ugh this sounds like the exact same situation I am in with my guy bff but he doesn't even know. Ugh. The only advise I can give is to tell her exactly what you wrote here and see what happens, either she feels the same way on not. Its a scary position to put yourself in but you have to to know her feelings on the situation. Best of luck :)
I wish I could tell her, I mean on one hand she's just out there partying living life, the other hand she likes this asshole that I guess she's not with but hangs w him cause I guess she hasn't had a boyfriend in years. but either way I mean I need to get myself out of the hole I'm just really lost and it kills each day when you know your so right about this one - 20 days ago
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I don't want to right a very long response to give you the wrong idea. This girl has put you in the friend zone and she seems to be attracted to the "bad boy" type.
There is a VERY slim chance that this girl will go for you. In the event she might be interested - I would recommend spending time with her w/o mentioning your feelings but instead hint to your how you feel about her. (Touch barrier etc)
Yeah man like I try to hang with her but she's always busy, and I mean I have dropped hints before...and made her feel like the best girl out there...just I don't know I need to get out the friend zone ig uess - 20 days ago
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"I made her feel like the best girl out there" - You don't need to, I bet she receives compliments all the time. I'm not saying don't compliment her, just don't kiss her ass.
If you read that website, it will help you to get out of the friend zone (or at least, help you realize why you are in that zone) - 20 days ago
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Yeah its a pretty legit site just need to get out of it - 20 days ago
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I'll send you a message, if you have other questions (specifically about how to get out of a friend zone) let me know and I'll see if I can help. - 20 days ago
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