Classic: Can girls and guys be JUST friends?

Well it depends but most of the time there is an alternitive motive in there somewhere.

I rarely believe in "just friends". There is almost always an ulterior motive by either party.

I have quite a few girlfriends, and I see them every so often. So that's a pretty obvious case I'm not interested for sexual gains.

Yup, they can be, not all guys are just waiting around hoping to get some action.

If you're familiar with the show Entourage, Turtle states that "Friends are girls you just haven't f***ed yet". He could be right.

Yes I categorize women into two categories myself. Friend and Girlfriend. Friends I don't want sex with I want to help them and protect them from making big mistakes (a saved one of my friendgirls from losing her virginity to a real asshole and helped her find this really great guy). When I was a freshman I sat alone till this group of juniors that were all girls asked me to join them. They were my best friends till they graduated and not once did I think of sex with them despite that they were very beautiful. IMO if a guy is only being friends with a girl for sexual reasons he's either really pathetic or a real d***.

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If that is what your friends did, then in that case they were all most likely fond of (or just secretly infatuated with) you. Men and women can be good friends though. I have a few very close female friends who I consider to be like my sisters. Men commonly become infatuated, and sometimes they may need to let the infatuation die off before being able to become true friends with you.

Frankly, the best romantic relationship you can have is with your best friend who shares the same tastes as you, and likewise knows you incredibly well. My best friend (one of my only) and I were close for at least two years, and then we both became incredibly fond of each other in a whole new way. Now we're engaged (after 4 years being together, knowing each other 6), and I couldn't be happier, but I still have my other female friends.

Nope. Sex will ALWAYS enter into the relationship at some level.

Actually yes they can just remain on friendly terms... but I guarentee you ... ONE of them ALWAYS wants it to be sexual at some point.

At least in my case I always end up falling in love with my opposite sex "best friends". It is a damn curse because it seems that girls have it really difficult to see their male close friends as anything else. I've also heard countless cases of guys in the same situation, so to answer your question I would say that in the majority of the cases, the guy definitely would rather be dating you than being your Bfriend.

Honestly it is not "hidden intentions" as you call it. It just happens. You start a honest friendship but suddenly she is too perfect, she is ideal, she has a halo around her and you feel like your guts are being torn apart when you see her kissing that looser.

You are normal - your thoughts and process is normal - I have more girl friends than guy - but honestly 'im not niterested in any of them for sex. they are like sisters to me.
Stop worrying :o)

It depends the short answer to your question is yes. I remember there was a new girl at my school and I just wanted to be her friend because all the guys were hitting on her and she had just moved and she needed a friend. But I found that the only thing I had to look forward to at that crappy school was seeing her and the way she was so nice to me and watching her kiss her stupid boyfriend. Yeah It became more than jsut friends to me without me wanting it to be. I started visualizing her with glowing light around her and then I was like dammit I didn't want to love her but I did. Then she broke up with that loser and I told her how she felt and she was like I love you like a brother. And it was very painful. Like I'm talk to able but not kissable you have to get your kisses/sex cuddling from someone else, what's wrong with me we have such an emotional bond. And then I had this terrible feeling that I was too nice that maybe if I hadn't been so nice I could be the one making out with her and her whispering something in my ear instead. Yeah high school sucked. Of course there was a girl that I knew for years that had a crush on me but I only saw her as a friend so waht goes around comes around I suppose

If I'm close enough to be pretty good friends with girls most the time I want to go out with them, but not always. So I guess ye, if you're lucky.

It's just that girls seem to get along better with guys..there's a better understanding,...less drama (girl drama),..and there's definitely no "bitching" involved...as in the case with beef between girls...but sometimes there's gonna be feeling between 2 friends of the opposite sex...but I guess in ur case ur guy friends jus separated from you becuz they thought they were intruding since you had boyfriend and they didn't wanna put that stress on you and ur relationship...especially in the case of teh boyfriend being jealous...so they mte have jus given you ur space..but that ur single they will come back...probly jus to chill and hang-out...but you never know ..one of them mite have hidden feelings 4 u..

I am just like you... and I categorize too... I always wonder the same thing but came to realize based on personal experience that no you can't just be friends... I think most of the guys who approach you has intentions beyond friendship... I have lost quite a lot of friends because when they realize I don't want anything with them but just a friendship they just totally move on and severe contact with me :( so sad because I usually get along better with guys just like you... All the guys I have ever met in my life at some point wanted something with me wether it be just sex or a real relationship... however, I have girlfriends telling me its possible to be friends because they do have guys as just friends and whom have never shown any intentions towards them... so I don't know...

I think it's possible. I haven't dated any of my guy friends myself and they all have girlfriends or they don't but I'm not attracted to them-some are protective of me and some have told me they find me attractive and I 've only been asked out by one of my guy friends-the rest just don't talk to me because I'm quiet when I'm hanging out with friends. I think that if you can only see him as a friend, then it's best that it be like that

I am close friends with mostly guys, I only have about 3 girl friends that I'm close to. One of my best friends is a guy and I prefer the guys' company over the girls. I've been stabbed in the back by girl 'friends' way too many times, while the guys I know are loyal to a fault. While my one girl friend was treated as just one of the boys, the guys always treated me as a girl but didn't let my sex get in the way of being friends with them. Even when I dated one of the guys in my group of friends, I still remained close to all of the guys and the times that I didn't have a boyfriend, they still treated me like a friend and have on two occasions chosen me over the guy I was dating.

Sure! Of course you can but why would you ever want to? A boyfriend is always a much more fulfilling relationship, especially if you started out as friends cos then you know he really cares, you just have to get over the fear of losing him and be brave enough to take a chance. If things don't work out and you can't still be friends you probably shouldn't have been friends in the first place

It's not that they cannot be friends but the potential is there for a lot of confusion and issues when one or the other realizes they want more. There are definitely guys who are your friend in hopes that it will turn into something more. From reading posts on here I see that a lot of friends end up either having sex or wanting to date. Many of the posts are about the situation going badly and wanting to go back to friendship. Others are about trying to figure out if the friend would want more because they want more but they don't want their friend to figure it out if they are not interested.

Personally from seeing all the posts I think that all this opposite sex friendship that is going on now is just another way for a lot of people to find a chance to get into a romance with that person without taking the risk of telling them they want to date. I say that because it used to be that you really did not have opposite sex friendship. The occasional tomboy would have guy friends and that was cool but mostly you just dated people and did not try to hang out as friends. Groups of people would hang out, but a guy was never the one you had that you hung out with and talked to like a girlfriend would.

Well the one thing is it makes it very difficult for other guys to get to know you when you are always with guy friends. Unless you guy friends wear a sign that says JUST FRIENDS, how does a potential guy know. Then he has to have all of these other guy friendships explained to him so he doesn't wonder what is all going on. These guys sever contact either because they can't flirt it up with you the same way, or they just know they wouldn't want a girlfriend themselves that has a bunch of guy friends. SOrry that is the way it is. And girls too. They don't want a boyfriend who has a bunch of girl friends. Way too awkward and unless you grew up next door to the best guy friend is just a bit wierd.

i'm not a guy but I just wanted to say...it's so true about instant categorizations...like I might be a little attracted at some point but would never want anything more