Okay, I'm not meaning to boast or anything, I just want to explain myself the best I can to get feedback. I consider myself a very pretty girl, I'm usually really nice but still have my own opinions, I'm fun to be around, I like to have fun, I put myself out there (but not to obviously), and I talk to guys. So why is it that I can't even get any guys interested in me? I've been single for a year and a half and in that time frame have only had one guy seriously interested. It's confusing, and honestly, a bit depressing. What can I do to change this?!
Just continue to expand your opportunities. Hang out with friends more, develop your hobbies more, go to parties, organize parties and outings, go new places, travel, join clubs, try a new sport or club, volunteer, etc. Basically do anything and everything you can to expand your social network--take it one step at a time, so it doesn't become overwhelming overnight--and that will expand the pool of potential boyfriends you will meet. That's the one part of the equation you can control, and it will GREATLY increase the probability of meeting guys, along with continuing to be your cool, fun and friendly self.
The other part, which is out of our control, is the time it takes to meet someone you click with. So just enjoy friends, family, and life itself along the way, and keep a hopeful outlook. Best of luck. : )
I'm in a sorority, therefor I do meet a TON of new people, I play intramural sports, I volunteer all the time, I go to a lot of parties, I hang out with different crowds.. So I just don't know what it is! I really do try to take on new things to meet new people, but guys just don't seem too interested in me. You're advice really is great.. I just don't know what else I can do.. - 4 months ago
Wow... you should have more chances than any regular girl!!! but still its hard to answer your question... do you act at ease when you are around people? do you think you might be intimidating the guys somehow? Try to have more longer conversations with the guys when you go out. I don't know if you do so already but sometimes being around so many women in a crowd hurt your chances with guys who want to approach you... so when you are at a party or something try to move away from the crowd a bit. - 4 months ago
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Hmm I get shy pretty easy in some situations. However at parties I tend to open up a lot and talk a lot to everyone. I just feel like all the guys who give me the time of day at parties are only looking to get in my pants. And its almost always true. Because Ill talk to them and what not but won't go home with them. Then they don't talk to me until the next time they see me out... If that makes sense. - 4 months ago
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I guess you can keep doing what you're doing. In the situations where you're shy, push yourself to be a little more outgoing. And don't screen out all the guys you meet at parties--sure, many if not most are looking for a hookup--but if you meet a nice guy, just take initiative and tell him you guys should stay in touch--perhaps on Facebook or IM. If the party thing still isn't working, however, put more time into different venues... - 4 months ago
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...for example, spend a little more time volunteering and a little less at other things, or joining up with a charity or community organizing group at your school--much more likely to find nice guys there. If you're religious or open to the idea, try a church youth group. I can sympathize because you're already trying everything--the best advice I can give, is don't give up. Make sure you keep meeting new people, and becoming part of their social networks. There's a guy out there for you. - 4 months ago
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Yeah I feel you... my problem is that I can get guys interested in my but not the ones I am interested in! and I get so frustrated! Because I got options but none of the guys who are genuinely interested in me for a real relationship are of my liking... I get so frustrated with myself! always choosing the wrong ones!
As for you, umm I don't know... its hard to tell... but maybe you need to meet more people? Sometimes I just don't get guys... because you could consider yourself the full package but still they don't see it so I don't know...
Exactly! Like, I can get guys interested, but it's always the creepers. Never the great guys. I don't know what it is that others girls have that I don't, but it frustrates the heck out of me! - 4 months ago
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Haha... well I don't get the creepers ones lol... I get the nice one but that's the problem I am not that attracted to the nicest one.... :( well there has not been a really nice guy that could make me change my mind.... I want the great guys too but I have to be physically attracted to them... and I don know what other girls have that I dont!!! to be taken seriously by the ones I like... and that frustrates me... - 4 months ago
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