Ok here is my problem. I have been getting close to this girl and have really enjoyed her company and I think she likes mine. Normally I don't fear rejection, but normally I don't date good friends (I did once and when it ended the friendship ended and it ended badly). I have wanted to ask her out since the first day I met her it just wasn't a good time for me to be dating. So I ended up just being her friend. I have known her for a while and I really enjoy our friendship.
Now I can settle for just being friends, sort of. Or at least I thought, you see I get to see and talk to her every day at night school, but we have different classes so usually I only see her for 10mins, some times when we get out at the same time I get to walk her home. Well today I saw her being real friendly with another guy and, of course, my first thought is that he is her boyfriend.
I know that girls can be real friendly with a guy and not be dating him, but the thought of it makes me feel like I missed my chance. So I have 3 questions on this:
1) If she is dating this guy would it be right to ask her out?
2) If I ask her out and she says no how do I propose that we stay friends?
3) After all this time would dating ruin our friendship?
Suss out what the relationship between her and this other guy is. If she's dating him, don't ask her out.
If you figure they're not dating and decide to ask her out, keep it casual, as in asking her on a date, not asking her to be your girlfriend cos that would probably be jumping in too quick and it'll be harder for you to keep the friendship without any awkwardness. Tell her you think she's an amazing girl and that you'd like to hang out more or go out with her somewhere some time. Then let things happen slowly from there. That way if she declines, it's easier for you to say something like "that's alright, it's ok I still think you're cool".
And if you do end up dating longer term. Well. It shouldn't ruin your friendship unless you break up badly, but why think about that now? One step at a time!
Maybe you could just try staying friends with her without pursuing anything with her and see where it goes. If you're not sure whether she likes you in "that" way, you will find out as time goes on. She will let you know somehow. Girls can only hang on so long before they have to let you know that they are interested in you!
"Asking her out"? What does that mean? Does that mean, asking her out on a date? Or, does it mean that you want her to be your girl?
Here's my take on anyone who likes someone else. It's always best to build a trusting friendship the other person first. It is important that both of you can share your thoughts and feelings with each other. A "True" friend will listen, respect your feelings as you should respect hers. So, you should ask for a minute of her time and spend sometime alone so you can express to her your feelings for her. Give her some time to answer, then let her know that your friendship is valuable to you.
If she's dating this guy on a continuous basis then don't ask her out because she probably likes him. If you ask her out and she says no that will put a strain on the relationship and it will be awkward talking to her from then on. If she truly likes you then dating wouldn't ruin anything, it would only amplify it. What I would do is next time I see her I would be like, "hey how are you, how are the guys or boyfriends treating you? " She'll tell you then what's up and if she likes anyone, if she says " I don't have a boyfriend and nothing much is going on with guys" then you know it's your time to make a move.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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