Why are girls so complicated?! Can't they just give you a yah or nay?

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Okay Mr. Anonymous.
Check it.

Hot chick comes up to you, and says, "Hey you're cute, want a drink?" You and her drink all night. She says she wants a boyfriend. You're like, yah I'm lonely too, lets hook up. -The end.
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You notice Hot chick standing by a table. She notices you. YOur eyes meet. You smile. She blushes, and looks away. Your eyes meet a couple of other times that night. You start wondering what she's thinking. Is it about you? You can't focus on your friends because you keep thinking about her, and what to say. Will she like you? DOes she have a boyfriend? You look around to see who she's here with. What is she drinking? What does she like? You can't take your eyes off her. Her eyes are so hypnotic, and her smile is beautiful. YOu see her laughing, and you wonder, what could she be laughing about? What would make her laugh? What would make her smile? What would make her happy? What is she into? What does she do?
Your mind is working all night, around this girl. You want to know more about her.
You finally get the courage to go up and talk to her. You're nervous. What if she doesn't like you? What if she's a snob? What if she's a bitch? YOu stop. Maybe its not worth it. You hang around again, and play cool. She looks your way again, and you think, maybe it won't be so bad? She notices you, noticing her. She gets all shy, and looks away. Your mind is going crazy, you don't know what to do ~~
"Hi, I'm Trent", she smiles shyly, "Im Jasmine". You're stunned by her beauty, and the fact that she didn't ignore you. You almost missed her name. You offer her a drink, she gladly accepts. You're suddenly worried of saying something stupid. Or forgetting her name. YOu don't want to offend her. YOu don't want to bore her. You want to impress her ~~
You go home alone. And as you lay in bed, you go through the events of the night in your head, and smile. Then you reach over and see her number. When should I call her? What should I say? When would be a good time to call her? When would be too soon? TOo late? Would she want to see me again? What does it mean when a girl gives a guy her number? Was she just being nice? Is she really interested? Is she thinking about me right now? --To be continued.

Its the mystery that keeps men thinking --- about us :)
And the work and effort you put into it just makes everything so much better. It puts more value into every little thing. Don't you think?

We're just as terrified and confused as you are! And yeah I guess it doesn't always have to be the guy who makes the first move but because of society's stereotypical views, it requires even more guts for a girl to do that. I've heard from other guys that they don't actually like girls to ask them out (guess it depends on the individual? ), so the other terrifying thing for us is the worry that the guy may not be the sort who likes being asked out by a girl.

Well, personally I'm usually very clear on whether I like a guy, but it has NEVER worked out for me to approach a guy first. So that's a big deterrent on approaching anyone at all nowadays. I think it's because the stigma of the guy being the one who initiates has pervaded society so deeply.

I think that a lot of it has to do with society's standards and "rules" that they put on both men and women. Women are always taught to not be the "aggressor" in a relationship and a man is called "weak" if he's too shy to approach a woman. I thought like that until about two years ago. It's hard for women to do the approaching because we're not taught that. My parents look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them that I approached a guy or called a guy first but I feel that if I can have equal rights in the workplace then I should be able to exercise those rights when it comes to liking a guy.

On the other hand, guys make girls extremely nervous. I know that you said guys suck at reading signs but we aren't always clued into that so when we're flipping our hair and being extra loud to get your attention and you just stare at us like a deer in the headlights, the last thing that we want to do is approach you and ask for your number and risk looking like a fool.

Well some guys take things too seriously and girls have a high guard so its hard for us to just walk up to guys and tell them how we fell. I know it would be hard for me.

Just because its never been like that. I guess that men are just the people to handle stuff like "asking the ladies out". But its not to say. Girls can't do it. I think that most girls are shy or feel insecure to go up to a guy and tell him that they like him.

But honestly, for myself, If I liked a guy. I'd tell him straight on.

We don't want 2 seem easy for 1. 2 we don't want to freak you out. And 3 we like 4 You to take charge!

Because if a girl goes up to a guy and makes a move, and he doesn't like her back she's that 'crazy, stalker female'.

We want a guy to make the first move well mostly me cause it feels nice or something and I'm sorry I'm afraid to come up to a guy and tell him I like him of humiliation although I've done it already and have been rejected didn't feel so bad though cause to me it really didn't matter - he doesn't like me oh well plenty of fish in the sea and sometimes if I'm interested in a guy yes I'll come up to him to tell him I like him but it will be his work to do the job to ask me out! We do lots of things to make a guy notice us - like try to be loud around our friends so the guy we like would look at us or we try to talk to a guy but can't seem to remember what we wanted to say or we talk about you to our friends and laugh and say how cute he is! It's all different things that we do so yes we are complicated but maybe someday you'll understand why!

Ah, come on. If women weren't (most always) the most complicated, fascinating, illogical, emotional, difficult people on the planet, it wouldn't be half as much fun.

The entire premise of 'pitching woo' is built around an elaborate dance between men and women, with a great deal of subtlety and love sickness thrown in the mix; without awkward bits like that, a lot of romance becomes moot. If you think she might like you (and you like her) ask her out. Be gentlemanly, and at worst, you'll get a reputation for being a nice guy.

I'm not saying that women aren't ever overly complex, just that it would be equally bad if they were overly simple. We've cars, computers, and games for that.