Ok, so there's this girl who shares some of the same friends as I do. I've been seeing her around here and there but we never really said much. We're both rather observant before opening our mouths. But having said that, she always seemed as is she liked me (smiling, at me, laughing at my, sometimes purposefully, lame jokes, etc. ) A few weeks ago, we had a really cool email exchange as we found that we have quite a few things in common.
As the weeks have gone by, I've kind of started to like her. So, I asked her out to a really cool outing a little while back and we had a great time. However, on this outing she informed me that she would be moving out of state mid summer. Anyway, she invited me to this party the very next night. I wasn't really in a partying mood to be honest (due to some of the people in attendance) but I stayed. We ended up talking outside on the balcony for quite a while, just joking and laughing. This is where the question comes in.
For some reason, I couldn't help myself from (long story short) telling her that I did like her enough to want to get to know her better, even though I know she doesn't have much time left in the area. She said ok, but I feel like something changed after that. Did I spoil any possible momentum by coming clean so early? I mean, I knew that I did like her quite a bit before we even went out. I'm trying not to over-analyze this, but, of course, the more I try not to do so, the more I continue to over-analyze my every breath from that night. I've contacted her only twice since that night (she caught a cold last week, so I didn't wanna bother her). I've thought about this so much, I'm almost reluctant to call her again! Crazy I know. I suppose the only thing to do is to continue and find out one way or another.
I agree with arahsay. Call her to see if she's feeling better, if not bring her some soup/flowers/stuffed animal but don't over-do it.
If she's feeling better, get together and do something. i know if it were me, I'd be somewhat hesitant to start a relationship if I were moving soon. but you never know what the future holds. If nothing else, you guys could become good friends. She may eventually move back and you'd have a great friendship foundation on which to build. Good luck.
If it was me I would rather know if a guy liked me, I would say call her ask if she feels better and if she is ask her to go somewhere, and if she isn't get her something like a single rose or small teddy bear and take to her.
Dude you are not over thinking it. I did the same thing a while back and got worst results than you. You see all the girls on this site, "Does he like me, is he interested? " They're all going crazy over "does he or doesn't he. " The mystery and aloofness of the whole situation is the best part because even though you're going crazy, you don't know and it's exciting in a way. People always want what they can't have or what they're not certain if they can have. The game is the part where you make moves and see how things turn out. You got all nervous and sweaty and said, "I fold. " You gave her all of your chess pieces, so now, you can't play the game. And when you lose, you walk home with your head down. I'm pretty sure that she liked you, but once you give yourself up, people think, "Well since I can have this so easily do I really want it now? Nope. " There's no mystery, she knows the next time you talk to her that you like her. She won't be surprised because the chase is over. Girls like guys that run, and you threw your running shoes out the window and said, "will you have me? "
Hmm I'm not sure about that, if I liked a guy I would want to know ASAP if he did like me. - 4 months ago
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Of course you'd want to know, everyone wants to know. But your feelings change once you they tell you they like you, especially so early on. Okay so lets just say hypothetically of course that you like Suave Man (Me), which you know that you really do but I'll keep it at hypothetical as to not make you nervous. Lol so if I said, "I like you twinkle toes (wtf? ) blah blah blah will you go out with me? " What would you say? - 4 months ago
I tried the get to know you better line within the past year and had less than desirable results as well. It could just be that particular line- maybe she didn't fully understand what you meant or maybe she did and just sees you as a friend. Were there other signs that she was into you physically? Did she touch you anywhere, like the arm or hand or anywhere? I know this is hard for me to catch, but did she do the triangle thing: look you in the eye, then at your lips, then back in the eye? Or did she lick her lips a lot when near you? These are just some of the signs I remember reading about somewhere. Hopefully one of the girls can tell whether or not there might be any hope of intimacy ensuing from this point. Good Luck, though- she sounds like a winner!
I appreciate your answering this question! Thank you. As a matter of fact, the night out, she did do "the triangle look", crossed her legs in my direction, turned her entire body on the couch to talk to me, touched my leg. Maybe I'm just thinking way too much about it. - 4 months ago
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My ideal of a first date with someone would have to be us hanging out at an amusement park like six flags or seaside heights and get on rides all night long. then we'd eat at some easy restaurant like mccie ds or taco bell ( my favorite!! ) and then we'd go to his or my house and watch a movie or just hang out.to end the night with a delicious kiss good night!
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
I'm easy going and you don't have to spend a lot of money to hang with me. I'm a very simple date.
(Age:30 to 35)
When: 4 months ago
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