Guys, would you ever tell a girl she was pretty if you didn't really think she was? Do guys feel like they're supposed to tell their girlfriends that they're pretty?
Look don't get mad at Jarett, all he was trying to do was give his opinion and he seems like a nice guy. That said if a guy is going out with you and says you're beautiful or pretty or stunning or whatever, he sincerely means it. That annoys me so much when I tell a girl they're beautiful and they don't believe me! It doesn't matter whether you think you're pretty or not, because if that guy is with you he will always think you are the most beautiful girl in the world.
I will tell any girl they're pretty. If they're really pretty then I will probably call them beautiful. Or gorgeous or whatever best fits. But I would never tell a girl that they're unattractive physically or ugly, because that's not true. Just because they don't get my heart racing doesn't mean they don't for someone else. I have told a cpl girls that their personality is ugly. Because personality is something people can change. But as far as looks, any guy that calls a girl ugly or not pretty is not a real man in my book. That could scar a girl for life.
Wow the world needs more guys like you - 7 months ago
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I appreciate what you're trying to say but by telling an unattractive girl she is pretty you're giving her false confidence. Sooner or later she will figure it out and that will be just as scarring. I'd rather know the truth. If you don't think I'm pretty don't say so let the "someone else" you spoke of tell me I'm pretty. Again, I appreciate your answer :-) it's just that this is exactly why I can't tell what to think of myself. - 7 months ago
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Lol false confidence? False confidence for what? So if you're not the hottest girl in the world you don't deserve a good guy who will treat you right? You don't know what to think of yourself? How about the fact that you don't need 8 billion guys to find you attractive, you only need one good one. You need to realize that each person has their own tastes and interests. Just because I find a girl attractive doesn't mean another guy will. Why judge yourself on what ONE guy thinks? - 7 months ago
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You need to realize we can't control what we like or don't like. I can't control whether I like the taste of beans or not. I also can't control whether I'm attracted to a girl or not. You need to realize that there are going to be guys that like you, that you don't like them, and there are going to be guys that you like, but don't like you. The key word in self confidence is SELF. It's how YOU view yourself, not how other people. YOU need to be confident in what you look like apart from guys - 7 months ago
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Wow. Sorry to piss you off. My point was that it isn't your job to tell every girl she's pretty. I never said I based my opinion of myself on what a single guy says. And I never said "SELF confidence. " "You need to realize" that having self confidence is easier said then done for a lot of people and that people who lack it usually don't get a huge boost by being yelled at for not having it. - 7 months ago
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P. S. The original question was "Are they telling the truth" so based on your answer I guess that would be a no. - 7 months ago
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P. S. I think all girls have beauty in them, whether they see it or not, and whether they match up to what society sees as "pretty. " Just because a girl doesn't light my fire doesn't mean she's not pretty. I think ALL girls are pretty and have beauty in them, so no, I am not lying. So based on my answer I AM telling the truth.
And if I have a girlfriend then obviously I am going to find her beautiful and tell her so. - 7 months ago
If I was ugly as hell, I wouldn't want a guy to lie to me and be like "you're beautiful" if he didn't truly think I was. I would rather him just not say anything, I wouldn't want false confidence either. - 7 months ago
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All these comments are coming from girls who are obviously not ugly and have no clue what's going on through an ugly girl's mind.I'm not saying that I'd lead her on into thinking I liked her, and I wouldn't lie and say she was the most beautiful thing in the world, but I would tell her sincerely, that she is pretty, to keep her head up, and be patient and will find a guy that loves her for who she is. It wouldn't be lying, it wouldn't be "false confidence," it would be the truth and give her hope - 7 months ago
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Thank you for your comment, ALWAYS classy! - 7 months ago
For real; I'm not mad and I wasn't. I'm not a big fan of being yelled at over a little difference of opinion but, whatever. I do have a hard time believing that I'm beautiful because guys have told me I am to my face and later told their friends that they didn't really find me attractive. Why would you do that? Anyhoo, if my boyfriend tells me he thinks I'm beautiful that's good enough for me :-) Thanks for you answer :-) - 7 months ago
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Lol dork, I wasn't yelling at you. But just because a guy or a cpl guys doesn't find you attractive doesn't mean anything. Like I said, we all have a difference of opinions and tastes. I don't think most runway models are gorgeous, but obviously some people find them attractive since they're modeling their clothes. But you're right, as long as your boyfriend finds you attractive, that's all that matters! - 7 months ago
This is two different questions. If you a guy doesn't find his own girlfriend beautiful, then why is he dating her. Not all beauty is found in the outward appearance. I've know some gorgeous women that were awfully ugly once I got to know them. And I've known some women that weren't normally on my "attractive" scale, and yet found them to be quite cute and adorable after I got to know them better.
But would I tell a girl she was pretty even if I didn't think she was. Absolutely. Because she may have worked super hard to doll herself up or find the perfect dress, and just because she isn't a girl that I would date, doesn't mean that she hasn't made herself look pretty. All women are beautiful in their own ways.
If the girl is hideous, I would not compliment her as being "pretty. "
However, if she looks okay, or if she is wearing some nice clothes, or gets a new hair-style, then yes, I would tell her she looks good.
"Pretty" can mean anything, really. I think most guys would interpret it as meaning "better than before. " So if an average, or less-than-average girl puts some time into her appearance, I would venture to say that she would be "pretty" compared to her former look.
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