He has let me down three Fridays in a row after literally begging to see him during the week when he doesn't have his some, something always :comes up" that Friday morning and I essentially get stuck at home alone on Fridays. He shuts himself off from me saying he needs his time of ZEN and he has totally control over when WE see each other. I think I am being scammed. I hate to be shut out and ignored all day long like I am being punished. We were suppose to go to a MLB game last night, had been looking forward to it ALLLLLLL week and suddenly Friday morning, he feels a migraine beginning. What do I do? I never get time with him unless it is on HIS time. He distances himself from me, I feel when I try and move closer to him. I am a frustrated wreck. I feel like he is controlling my every action and if it does not suit his "procedure" then I am punished by not getting to see him.
Oh I should mention that he is military and a military police officer.
Oh, girl, he is not that into you and because things have to always be on his time, he's controlling. Not a good sign. You don't need to beg for any man cause it looks desperate. Stop doing what you are doing right now. No calls, messages or anything. See what happens. If he doesn't start to call after you being so silent, then it shows he was not that interested. If he does call you asking where you been and stuff, tell him busy. You don't have to explain yourself to him and if he asks you to go out, tell him you have other plans. Let him know that its not all about him and his time.
If I was you, I would dump this guy. He's not treating you right and you deserve so much better but I also always try to tell the person I'm with how I feel about his behavior and that I would like it to stop. Give everyone a second chance after you let them know how you feel about something. If he starts acting selfish and controlling again, end it. Move on to a better guy who is gonna be there for you. Oh and yea he's gonna probably if his ego is not too big say he is sorry that he's going through things, etc. Don't buy into it. Its a lie, a game. So, one chance.
Thanks for the advice. You are soooooo right on about his controlling. I appreciate getting another view on this and it has helped me to re-establish my self-esteem and self-worth and I feel much better today. It is his problem not mine. I have done what I can to reach out and try and mend the miscommunication. He has no interest in reciprocating so......his loss. I appreciate your girl power! - 7 months ago
I know this is frustrating, and the more he stays away the more you will want to call etc, which in turn makes him back off more. I would stop contacting him and leave him alone for a while, see if the tables turn. Truthfully, he may just need time to himself and doesn't know how to say. If he doesn't contact you after a while, I would assume he isn't interested anymore, and although this is painful, its best to move on and find someone that will think you are the best things since sliced bread, after all you deserve to be happy.
As of last night at 6 pm I ended all communications. AND.....I have a new guy calling me today to talk. I will just see what happens from here. But after telling me he is falling in love with me and then abruptly cuts me off for a very juvenile thing......he is controlling and I don't want that kind of love. Thanks for caring to share with. This site rocks! - 7 months ago
This guy is not going to change -- he's a control freak. If you like that (as some girls do. ), then stick with him. If you don't like that, then leave him. If you leave him, he may promise to change and beg you to come back. But he won't change. So it's your call -- decide what you want, and then either stay or go, simple as that. Good luck!
Please read my above comments. I did not see it over the bluebirds and hearts that were circling my head but now that I can take a step back and swat the birds away....his behavior has bee controlling since the beginning. Everything was on his time and his conditions.....And if I had for a mid-week hug I was called "greedy". Whatever.......My heart is mending....it is still hurting..but I am on the mend and may have a new interest on the horizon. Wish me luck....and good luck in life to you too. - 7 months ago
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It's wonderful that you could be so decisive, and end things so quickly once you realized the guy was a control freak. Way to take control of your life, girl!! Fingers crossed that your next guy appreciates what he's got, and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.... - 7 months ago
(Age:Over 45)
When: 7 months ago
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