Don't have it anymore :(

Has nothing to do with age, it's our current society. Remember the 90's? I sure do. It was the era in our country that introduced the latest women's movement. Ring a bell? Let me remind you. It's the women's movement that gave birth to the "MEN SUCKS" mentality and the openness of women ridiculing men as though we are as bad as gutter slime. 15 years of that has a way of ruining a man's pride. Sounds' familiar? There's more. It's also the movement that brought to live the latest disease: Sexual harassment.

Gone are the days when a man could just approach a woman anywhere and ask them out. The worst a man had to worry about was being told why he is not her type. Now, add in the S.H. and an honest man gets bodyslammed! Gone is his job, his reputation and at worst: public sex offender. 15 years of that has destroyed a man's confidence in being even close to women let alone get looked at or asked out.

The results: you guessed it. A very reclusive, apprehensive society that mistrusts no one. Divorce hasn't helped either. Personally, I haven't asked an american woman out in 12 years. I get sick of being rudely told that I suck because of my XY chromosomes or because she doesn't date men under 6 feet. The fear of harassment makes it worse. Therefore, has nothing to do with you age or looks. Just how life in this country is now. Women wanted "space", they are getting all the space from me they could possibly want.

I have a little different outlook on the age thing. Right now we (my age group) outnumber all other age demographics. The selection for partners has never been greater. Where do you think the saying that today's 40 is yesterday's 20 comes from? We are the "in" generation. Everything that happens today happens because of us. The younger generation want what we have already got. The things in life. Our careers are established and will only get better because, with the aging population, experienced people are hard to get.

Relationships are easy to come by with our generation. Look at the divorce rate. We may be divorced but we're single and available. This does have some baggage issues, but my point is that there are lots of people out there.

And, people are more health conscious nowadays. So getting older doesn't mean that your body has to. Sure, we have our dings and bangs from living, but that's experience showing. The guys that search for the young 20 year old girlfriend are trying to capture their own youth. It won't last, there's no common ground. They just need to embrace their age and celebrate it.

It's all about attitude. Get out there and enjoy it. People are attracted to people who are having fun. Start enjoying your life and you will attract someone.

If you want it, you can have it. You just may have to make a few changes (since whatever you are currently doing isn't working). As AJtogo says, attitude is important. So is your appearance. I'm late 40's and I know it's harder now to look attractive than it was when I was 20. But it's still doable. Consider a makeover -- some new clothes, a different hair style. Go to a beauty store (like Sephora) and get some new ideas on makeup.

A new look will help your confidence. And smile, smile, smile! Make some changes like this, and I'm guessing you will get looked at sideways and up and down again by guys. Good luck!